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If the woman wants to keep the baby and the man doesn't, who, in your opinion takes precedence?

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bearfood · 31/12/2018 00:17

Just that really. Wondering what people's opinions are. Woman wants to keep it, man doesn't, neither will change their mind. What's the solution? Just looking for peoples thoughts really. Am very fragile so please be kind. So as not to drip feed, relationship of 6 months, pregnancy unplanned, couple love each other but can't agree and will probably break up if she keeps it (from what he has said). Pregnancy is 8 weeks along. Man wanted the baby at first then changed his mind. Woman has always wanted it from day one.

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FannyFifer · 31/12/2018 00:18

Her body, her choice.

sherrysfortea · 31/12/2018 00:18

Woman's opinion takes priority.

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bearfood · 31/12/2018 00:18

Sorry, just wanted to point out that I know this chat not pregnancy topic but I wanted a random selection of posters rather than posters likely to be pregnant or trying to be. Thanks in advance.

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FissionChips · 31/12/2018 00:18

Her body her choice.

GetTheeToAShrubbery · 31/12/2018 00:18

The woman. Her body, her decision ultimately.

Klobluchar · 31/12/2018 00:19

The woman’s. HTH

MrsApplepants · 31/12/2018 00:20

Woman’s body, her choice. Mans choice on the matter ended when he engaged in unprotected sex.

Crunchymum · 31/12/2018 00:20

The woman. Always. 100%

MrsApplepants · 31/12/2018 00:21

And even if it was protected and failed, still woman’s choice

IKillEveryBloodyThreadIPostOn · 31/12/2018 00:21

It's the woman's body so her right to decide what to do. IMO a woman should never be forced to have a baby she doesn't want, or have an abortion she doesn't want.

GypsyRoseTea · 31/12/2018 00:21

As above

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bearfood · 31/12/2018 00:21

Thank you for all replies so far, means a lot that you say the woman...you will never know how much that helps. Man's view is that he is being forced to become a father against his will if woman keeps it. Does anyone agree with that?

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TooTrueToBeGood · 31/12/2018 00:22

The woman, every single fucking time.

love each other but can't agree and will probably break up if she keeps it (from what he has said).

If he's saying he'll leave her if she keeps it then he doesn't love her, and he's a grade A cunt.

Beerincomechampagnetastes · 31/12/2018 00:23

No

Your body your choice.

abbsisspartacus · 31/12/2018 00:23

Womans, although I don't think he should be forced to pay or go on the birth certificate if he walks, if he sticks around he should

FetchezLaVache · 31/12/2018 00:23

No. Every time a man has sex with a woman of child-bearing age, even using protection, there is a risk of conception. He takes that risk. That is where his choice starts and finishes. If there is conception, the choices sit with the person whose body is affected, i.e. the woman. Not his call at this stage.

Greensleeves · 31/12/2018 00:23

Well, yes, he is being "forced to be a father against his will", because that's how biology works. Presumably he knew that when he dipped his wick.

Your body, your pregnancy, your choice. His tough shit.

Beerincomechampagnetastes · 31/12/2018 00:24

Ditch the man - keep the baby.

Riotingbananas · 31/12/2018 00:24

The woman's choice. Always.

FusionChefGeoff · 31/12/2018 00:24

No he decided to take a risk of becoming a father when he had sex

abbsisspartacus · 31/12/2018 00:24

Tell him to walk your better off alone than with an unwilling father trust me been there got the 18 year old

thebaronetofcockburn · 31/12/2018 00:25

The woman keeps it. No question. Never a good idea to have a termination you don't want for a man or to keep a man (not worth keeping). A person who tries to coerce or bully a woman into a termination she doesn't want needs to be cut off asap.

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 31/12/2018 00:26

Absolutely, completely, totally the woman's choice.

No-one else gets a say in any medical procedures you should or shouldn't have unless a doctor deems you incapable of making that decision.

It's the same as when the woman doesn't want a baby and the man does. Always woman's choice.

Never choose to end your pregnancy unless you wish to do so.

RagingWhoreBag · 31/12/2018 00:26

Woman every time. Similarly if she doesn’t want the baby and he does, her choice. Women are NOT just an incubator for a foetus, they continue to have agency over their own body during pregnancy and they are the only one who gets to decide whether or not to continue with a pregnancy.

Every time a man has sex with a woman of child-bearing age, even using protection, there is a risk of conception. He takes that risk

Thesearmsofmine · 31/12/2018 00:27

The woman. It is her body to choose, her body which will go trough any pregnancy or birth complications and most commonly her who will take on the majority of care for the child.

I’ve been in a similar situation and I made the choice to keep my child with our without his support.

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