Why is your friend now an ex friend?

[Callmedarcy]

Mine is an ex friend because

• she borrowed money that she never paid back
• she was only around when she had problems. Vanished when I did.

She lied about her pregnancy to take advantage of leaning on me at all hours through her latest relationship and offered me her daughter to adopt just a few months prior

She was/is unwell rather than organically a bitch but coping with secondary infertility and an abusive husband it was too much for me to cope with

I did try but a relative interfered and told her I'd cut her off. At the time I was angry with them till I realised how life was actually better without being her support all the time

Had been friends with friend A (male) since college. We met friend B (female) at the same time a few years later. Friends A & B started a relationship, still had time for me and we all enjoyed each other's company. About a year down the line I find out from Friend A's sibling that Friend B had been emotionally and physically abusing Friend A and sibling couldn't make him see sense and leave. We tried together to help him leave but he wouldn't admit to the problem (even though Friend B ended up admitting it all to me) I couldn't be around that. I tried to stay in contact with Friend A but in the end Friend B made him cut all contact.

I'm sad to say that 6 years on they are still together and now have a child.

She had an affair with my best friend's husband

I should also mention that she'd also previously had an affair with a married man with young children.

She was a delight.

Mine used photos of me on an adult site ! To try and find a bloke like my husband for herself ! I only found out when one of my husbands friends asked me for a blow job! He was most apologetic after he realised I had no clue what he was on about!
Took some working out, but we fell out big time over it. Should have realised what she was up to when she changed her hair and clothes style to be like mine. My husband thought it was funny !! Not sure how I feel about that !

She was my bridesmaid and she was very unhelpful. Didn't come to my hen made up a reason why but I found out she'd lied. The final straw was that she got married soon after we did and didn't invite me at all.

Shagged my now ex husband and lied about it for a year and half.
Tried to coerce me into agreeing to things in my marital break up that would benefit him, under the guise of giving best friendly support and guidance.
When I found out about it tried to lie about how long it had been going on for another week-Until her own husband told me the truth.
Has told some whoppers about me since.

She got a boyfriend and decided didnt need friends anymore.
Another used me for trips out etc when i could drive and she couldn’t, once she passed her test and got an new boyfriend gradually started ignoring me. Then after a few weeks of not speaking rang me and said oh lets go out I fell out with him and i know going on a night out with you would piss him off more.... hung up on her haven’t bothered to make contact since.

HumptyNumptyNooNoo

for all of you.

Had a friend who had been through an awful time.I was there for her for years,our whole family was.Helped her in many ways and even took her DD away with us for a week so friend could have a break.

Then I was diagnosed with cancer,she never offered any help.
Still expected a lot from me and my family while I was going through treatment.When I mentioned my treatment she would reply with I know someone who had that and they were fine,over it then next day....she trivialised everything I went through.

I hadnt heard from her in a while then she phoned about something.....she has been having a hard time and would pop round because she was upset and needed to talk to someone.
I made an excuse about hospital appointments......think she got the hint as I havent heard from her since

I came to the conclusion that for years everything had been about her and she didnt like that I had stolen her limelight

Not quite as interesting as some of this stories but..

When we made plans she would cancel at the last minute with a lame excuse. Not every time but most times. When I tried to find a time to speak to her about it she said she was busy for at least the next 3 months. Even for a phone call . We'd been friends for over 20 years. I just don't think she liked me anymore.

She came to mine once a week for a feed and to drink all my wine. I'd stand cooking for us and pouring the wine and she never once offered to pour me a glass out as I was busy cooking or offered to wash up afterwards and always turned up empty handed. Just sat in the chair the entire time not moving or helping.

The final straw was when I said I couldn't afford food and wine that night. Instead of saying no problem and she'd still come for a cuppa and a chat (she lives opposite me, takes literally less than two minutes to walk here) she instead went off it. I pointed out it costs me a lot of money and she could help with bringing a bottle once in a while and she said she can't believe what she's hearing and always brought a bottle!! She was just a freeloader.

After that, a friend of hers that she did nothing but slag off and told me she's done with her, she was putting Facebook posts on tagging said friend and saying she loves her and calling her "bestie" (she's 47...)

@derxa 
Thankfully my husband has been amazing. I don't need her negativity.

NC fail

She was flaky as fuck, always messing me around and letting me down at the last minute. Also a drama queen. I do not miss her.

Was ghosted by my "best friend". I found it so hurtful. I shouldn't be surprised as I know she has done this to others. I am guessing it is because I won't go and drop £££££ on Mulberry Bayswaters etc. The worst part is our daughters were very good friends and they don't see each other now. My daughter is very sad about this, so am I ☹

Came round to my house while my four children were there. Told me she doesn't care about cruelty or abuse of children as much as she cares for dogs, as children have the potential to be evil but dogs are innocent. Nice subtle way for me to know she doesn't care about my kids.

Ambition. Hers. We were at equal stages of management in a school. Worked well together had a laugh while being loyal to the school ethos and its Head.
I worked very well with the Head but as was late 50s had not ambition to move beyond the senior leadership role I had. Was looking towards retirement.

She had her eye on a deputy Head position...was 20 years younger than me but a bit insecure. Saw me as her only real rival. Teamed up with another colleague to undermine me and try to show me in a bad light.

Head did ask me at one point what was going on but I didn't like the role of tale bearer so brushed it off. I was quite strong, felt I was coping and was due to retire in a few years so why make waves I thought.

However I should have spoken up as she and her side kick managed to spoil the last 2 years in a school where I had been happy, managed excellent grades for students in my subject and was well thought of by colleagues I managed.

Basically she was jealous because her own grades were poor and she had poor people management skills. Ironically we complimented each other...her strengths were in organisation and admin. We worked well together for ten years until she started seeing me as a serious rival. More irony ...I was never a rival at my age and would have been her greatest advocate and support for any promotion she could get.

Still in touch with people in the school. She did get the promotion but has put people's backs up in every area she works in so people skills haven't improved. Even more ironically she's lost many good friends along the way but I don't think she's happy.

She moved on to her next bestie. She had a pattern of this. Best friends with someone. Seeing them several times a week, then dropping them for the next flavour. Haven’t heard from her in a year or seen her in 20mths. Interestingly her new bestie is about to move country, I’m interested to see who she latches onto next or if she gives me a call.

Just after we helped friend move to a new house with her kids, leaving an abusive relationship - think cash, furnishings, new house set up from scratch - she met a new bloke OLD. Bloke was so obviously (to me) controlling and weird, I urged caution and to take it slowly especially as it wasn't fair on the kids to rush things. She told him I didn't like him. He basically "discouraged" her from seeing us anymore and she went with it. None of us have set eyes on her since. It makes me really sad and I do hope that her and the kids are OK and happy and that it was worth it. I fear it won't end well.

Had an affair with my husband. Lied about it for 8 years all the time being my “confidant”. Finallly discloses the affair right in the middle of my DC, her god child being investigated for bone cancer. Sociopath.

Another friend I don’t see because she is a raging alcoholic which the most appalling taste in men and I just can’t deal with the drama.

I asked my dp to leave and he did, he went to her house (and her dh) but never told me. Went to the pub with him whilst she was supposed to be meeting me.

Then threatened to send sexual messages to my children about stuff I had told her when we were friends. But is ok she only "threatened to" she didn't mean it

She is currently best mates with my ex dp and has really been nasty and stirred shit over the last 12 months.

Her betrayal has absolutely destroyed my trust in people and I don't think I will ever recover.

She turned out to be hand that rocks the cradle level lunatic.
Went out my comfort zone and made what I thought was a good lasting friendship with a fellow school mum. Went well for a year. Then she just turned on me in the most frightening, baffling way.
I ended up going to the Police in the end as she was causing so much aggro in our village and threatened my daughter as well.
Why?
No idea.
Police asked and she said she had just decided she didn't like me anymore.
They swiftly gave her an order to leave us alone.

In 6 years of friendship she only contacted me when she wanted something.
I helped her get a job with a charity and volunteered to help them out at events. During this time I did the majority of the work she was actually paid to do and when another volunteer didn't do something they were responsible for I got the blame- despite it not being my area. She took his side and publically used me as a scapegoat.

Because after being a relatively low level PITA, melodramatic, compulsive liar for several years (which I forgave because she had redeeming qualities, no one is perfect yada yada) she then endangered my child's life with her dangerous driving yet instead of apologising or showing remorse in any way she ramped up her volatile behaviour and decided that SHE was the victim in the scenario - totally unbelievable (yet sadly true)

I was my best friends manager at work, she found out I was pregnant and spread a ton of lies about me saying I was making it up and that I wasn't really sick (I was in hospital with hyperemesis)... she then goes to the boss and sucks up BIG time to get my job!!

I returned to work after maternity and had to job share with her, she was constantly trying to lie about me and slag me off to anyone who stood still long enough.

I couldn't stand being in such a toxic environment any more and stood up to her, told her exactly what I thought and she went and cried to the boss... I was made redundant 2 months later.