Why is your friend now an ex friend?

[Callmedarcy]

Mine is an ex friend because

• she borrowed money that she never paid back
• she was only around when she had problems. Vanished when I did.

She treated the fact I'd been assaulted like it was gossip.

Had a very difficult time with a very poorly baby DS my so called best friend disappeared and then months later explained she was worried my bad luck would spread
Bye bye 15 years of friendship

She told me that I was too fat (size 16) so didn’t deserve to have a boyfriend especially as she was single.

That was one of the nicer things she said. The rest is too outing.

She was very unstable and emotionally volatile. It was like walking on egg shells. Then she had an affair with a married man who had young kids. I felt done.

Two of them spread the news that I had an abortion. I couldn't cope with pregnancy after the death of my brother and my parents were in pieces. It hurts me to this day.

Wow you all had some terrible friends.

Feeling very grateful that the few friends I have have my back.

Because they used to exclude me.
Might sound childish but It starts getting you down when its happening all the time.

Heard I was struggling to conceive. Asked me, while I was staying at hers to help her with her newborn twins, why could I not "just get a dog." (Actually now I'd love a dog but at the time that really stung. As did all the photos she used to send me of her kids. The 'here's the first day of school' shot was also like being hit in the face with a wet kipper.)

When I had to have a mastectomy, the first thing she asked was how my DH felt having to look at me topless. I've had a mastectomy too. I hope your DH was as lovely as mine was.

Few things. She always was a big smug married and when and ex and I split up she rang him to ask why ... she bitched and moaned about everyone until everyone else walked away from her and then she plagued me with calls and moans.

She spoilt my hen moaning and being horrible about my new in laws. Then when I had my first child she was so needy and negative and compared her birth story to mine and mocked about breastfeeding

General pain in the arse. Used to hide when she would call. In the end it took months to shake her off. She left letters through the door. Told my mother I had depression. Stayed outside my house. Rang from other numbers. In the end I had to literally beg her to leave me alone.

Told all my AA friends I was drinking again 🤬🤬🤬

Her 18 year old daughter had an emotional relationship with my 30 year old husband. The whole family are ex friends and he is an ex husband.

One friend for laughing and calling my sister too thick to do a university course - to her face. They were already on thin ice due to ignoring all communications for weeks then suddenly deciding they wanted to come to a special event a couple of days before it occurred. They brought a random friend of theirs and both proceeded to ignore everyone bar for some rude, bitchy comments like above. I just let the friendship go quiet, they didn’t make an effort to contact so the friendship had run it’s course.

A more recent one took years to eventually fall apart. A once very good friend who ended up just using me as an emotional dumping ground, seemed to go out of their way to find drama. I mean stuff that would be unbelievable in a soap opera. Always getting into relationships that absolutely anyone could see becoming a disaster, insisting on spending hours going through their issues and asking advice, then going on Faceboak and declaring their undying love for their latest partner. They got engaged to two of them! Realised they were just taking the mick with my time, which was a shame as it started off a great, fun friendship.

Because it was always all about her. I cut her off after I had just revealed I had been diagnosed with a chronic health condition and had been really unwell and her reply was “ I’m off work with a cold at the moment”

After 20 years of being unreliable/late and putting up with it she stood me up for a whole week.

She was flying in from abroad and was staying with us for 8 days, had planned the visit, bought lots of food, made arrangements. Only spoke to her a few days before. Just didn’t show, got a ‘better offer’. Let messages and she just didn’t get in touch.

Rang me 6 days after she should have turned up and said she was ‘popping by’ and then was very aggressive when I wasn’t available. Hung up on her.

Have only heard from her when she tried to make me pay for a holiday for her.

By best friend just emailed me and said that she didn't want to be friends any more. No explanation. This was after ten years' friendship.

I realised recently I haven't made a single new friend since: I just don't think I can trust anyone not to do the same thing.

Out of nowhere she started to ignore my messages or respond with one line, hurtful comments. I was absolutely gutted. We worked together too & I found it really REALLY hard to act normally. I knew it wasn't worth a confrontation as she had a history of drama & it wouldn't have solved anything but it caused me a lot of anxiety. I spent time with other friends & Just got over it. In the end, I realised it had possibly always been slightly toxic. A year on & things are better. Now she's suggesting getting together for drinks but I don't think I can do it. Don't trust her anymore & that's so sad as we were actually (I thought) really close before all this.

Because she ditched me for her newer more interesting friends.
Was a perpetually passive aggressive drunk (am convinced that she’s a functioning alcoholic)
And whinged about how hard her job is how miserable it makes her on a loop for nearly a decade whilst point blank refusing to do anything different
And her kids are deeply unpleasant brats
Bloody hell that feels better
I am a loyal supportive friend who will always go the extra mile
Hence why it’s taken me so long to ditch

Because she used me
She was tight
She wasn't happy for me when I was happy
She lied
She completely twisted some stories around

She tried to sabotage my life the worst way possible, then made out she was the wounded party.

Never had an issue with anyone else, have plenty of friends who all stood by me.

We'd been friends since school (15 years) she was a fairly selfish and cold person but it took me years to see it

She had an affair with my best friend's husband

She thought I wanted to take her newborn son away for a weekend 😂😂😄😄

I don't have kids, didn't want them and couldn't have coped.

This isn't why our friendship ended.

He was a compulsive liar, possessive, drove away all my other friends or made it uncomfortable to be around them. Dreadful gaslighting. Controlling. Sexist.
God knows why I stayed friends with him for so long.

I cancelled lunch plans 3 times when suffering awful morning sickness too early in pregnancy (after 3 losses) to tell anyone why lunch was out of the question. She has never spoken to me again, not even a congratulations email when I sent a picture of the baby. Just weird.