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Do you think anyone would notice if you left Mumsnet?

216 replies

surferjet · 25/11/2018 10:59

Back in the day, you’d see the same names over & over again & you would literally notice if someone hadnt posted for a just a few days.
Is Mumsnet just too big now to ‘miss’ anyone?

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CantSleepClownsWillEatMe · 25/11/2018 14:41

I definitely don't think anyone would notice if I disappeared and that's fine. I don't really see myself as anyone's wise, go to person Grin.

I usually don't notice when posters aren't around until, on a thread such as this, names are mentioned and I think 'Oh yeah I remember her'. The only name I often think of is MrsDeVere who I always liked and respected. I don't think she's about anymore but she was a genuinely decent person who'd certainly had plenty of life experience and posted very matter of fact, calm, helpful advice. Sometimes she was a voice of reason in a sea of nastiness tbh. She could also be very witty.

It's probably not a bad thing that posters no longer 'know' each other as when I first started it could be very cliquey. You'd almost be afraid to post lest you'd be torn to pieces by certain royalty!

Crinkle77 · 25/11/2018 14:42

I never create my own posts and don't comment on other posts very often so no one would miss me. I also don't tend to look at other people usernames so hardly recognise any names. The only ones I remember are sparklingbrook and anyfucker. I am sure sparkling commented on a post a few weeks ago.

DaedricLordSlayer · 25/11/2018 14:43

AuntieStella I have been on or read many many threads with you Smile

There are lots of names I recognise and sort of 'know' but few I can recall off the top of my head. so some known/recognisable names might not be missed as such, but when seen are definitely seen as familiar and known IYKWIM.

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about this subject:

hazeyjane · 25/11/2018 14:43

There are quite a few mumsnetters I miss on here, MrsDeVere, Sallybear, Poltergoosr, Maryz....actually too many to list - sometimes there will be a thread and I'll think, ' Oh, I can't wait for MrsDeVere (or....) to rock up to this one....she will be all over It!'

But then I am very sad, have never managed to keep up a self imposed Mumsnet ban, and will probably still be here when every other poster is a tumbleweed bot.

pepperjack · 25/11/2018 14:44

People don't see me when I'm here, they certainly wouldn't miss me!

Trampire · 25/11/2018 14:46

No. I'm under no illusions that anyone even recognised my name let alone miss if I went. I've been here over 10 years!

oh4forkssake · 25/11/2018 14:47

Nope. Not in the slightest.

But I do name change a bit just in case....think I’m on number 5? In the beginning was very selective about threads and what I posted so was pretty unidentifiable unless you knew me really well and I didn’t say anything I wouldn’t have minded anyone knowing. Now I flirt with AIBU and occasionally say things I wouldn’t want associated with me IRL so name change accordingly.

Under my 1st name, I was probably known a bit on threads in a couple of topics.

Trampire · 25/11/2018 14:47

Gosh that was badly written -

No. I'm under no illusions that anyone even recognises my name, let alone would miss me if I left. I've been here 10 years.

FourFoxCakes · 25/11/2018 14:51

There is definitely less of the “don’t dare disagree with royalty” going on now. Which is a good thing.

Tawdrylocalbrouhaha · 25/11/2018 14:53

No, and if I thought anyone would it might force me to get off my arse and name change!

Cocolepew · 25/11/2018 14:59

No, I've been here over 10 years and don't namechange but talk shite.
Until a few years ago you did notice people missing , it was smaller and some posters were very prolific.

hazeyjane · 25/11/2018 15:01

Cocolepew! see I thought you had gone!!

Cocolepew · 25/11/2018 15:07

Grin read a lot just don't post as much now.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 25/11/2018 15:07

Also recognize you Cocolepew

Cocolepew · 25/11/2018 15:10

Probably due to my great Coco Does Poundland threads 😂

DioneTheDiabolist · 25/11/2018 15:16

I don't think anyone would notice if I left. And that's ok.Smile

empmalswa · 25/11/2018 15:17

No. But I would miss Anyfucker and BetrandRussell

I was going to say exactly the same

Nannatiny · 25/11/2018 15:18

I don't think anyone would notice, my daughter has left , and so as 3 friends it was helpful when I lost my husband , but now its just constant nastiness , and threads on the same topic , so its bye bye from me too now

MardyBra · 25/11/2018 15:20

I’m back recently having not posted for a long time. Doubt if anyone noticed though.

CookPassBabtridge · 25/11/2018 15:25

No they wouldn't but I like it that way, it's nice to have somewhere big and anonymous to read/post on!

LaurieFairyCake · 25/11/2018 15:33

Nope, no one would.

I searched for a thread I was on over a decade ago and weirdly I recognised most of the names - I think they're mostly gone now

ChristmasSprite · 25/11/2018 15:33

Yes Nannatiny, agree; so much trolling, troll-hunting, samey topics, goading, sheer nastiness, and pursing posters mercilessly for disagreeing.

Sad that some are known only for their negative impact,and there's more than a couple of them, but such is life.

The anonymity in this environment is therefore, I feel, a positive. On another forum there''s no name-changing and users do notice when someone goes 'missing'. There's pro's and con's to both.

Sometimes this place can feel like going back years to a massive playground!!

Would anyone notice if I went, no don't doubt it for a second, but its not that kind of place anymore, well certain parts.

In other ways its very clear that there are an amazing wealth of intelligent, hardworking, loyal mothers and friends out there who repeatedly go the extra miles to help others, kindly and respectfully support and advise, and fight a lot for much much better for all women and children, and no-one can knock that.

Overall its a great place, if you can't see past the negs, to experience something that many cannot without joining forces here.

The goodwill and power of many, most, of the women here is awesome to behold,and the changes that they help others to navigate in the expectation of better lives for women is invaluable and long-lasting.

ChristmasSprite · 25/11/2018 15:35

*can [see past the negs]

CaptainKirksSpookyghost · 25/11/2018 15:40

Nope

BIWI · 25/11/2018 15:46

I think/presume (hope?!) that the Bootcampers would miss me. But beyond that, no I don't think so. The site is so big now, and so many newer posters since I joined up back in 2006.

That said, I recognise a lot of posters on this thread!