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My dh died this afternoon. Please hold my hand through this.

333 replies

DeadZed · 22/10/2018 16:57

We have four distraught dc. the police are still here. I don't know what to say to people. I don't know what to ask when they offer to help.

OP posts:
hiddeneverything · 22/10/2018 16:57

I'm so so sorry xxx

Want4dayhelp · 22/10/2018 16:58
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SugarMiceInTheRain · 22/10/2018 16:58

I'm so sorry... No other words, but here's a hand to hold x

WhenDoISleep · 22/10/2018 16:59
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Notonthestairs · 22/10/2018 16:59

I'm so sorry. Do you have any family members that can come and sit with you?

TheBigFatMermaid · 22/10/2018 16:59

So sorry for your loss. What happened? Don't answer that if you don't want to.

I would say when people offer to help, give them something to do that will be useful. How old are the DC? Will you need child care while you sort out essential things? Food made for you will help.

MirandaWest · 22/10/2018 16:59

I’m so sorry xx

fairlyhumble · 22/10/2018 16:59

I'm so sorry for your loss. Don't worry about other people. Please look after yourself and the children. Do you have family with you? Flowers

MINEareCRAFTy · 22/10/2018 16:59

How old are your children? I'm so so sorry. You can do this but you won't know that yet Thanks

sprinkleofsunshine · 22/10/2018 16:59

I'm so sorry to hear this op, thinking of you and sending love and hugs x 

AaahhwoooooOOOOooOOOOo1 · 22/10/2018 16:59

Oh, Dead, I’m so sorry. I cannot imagine to begin what you’re going through.

Is there anyone that can handle the enquiries and other people for a while?

Do you have anyone there to support you?

Mountainsided · 22/10/2018 16:59

I’m so very sorry, you have my hand also x

cjt110 · 22/10/2018 17:00
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thaegumathteth · 22/10/2018 17:00

I’m so sorry.

fleshmarketclose · 22/10/2018 17:02

I'm so very sorry, you and your children are in my thoughts. Do you have family who can come and sit with you?

PurpleWithRed · 22/10/2018 17:02

I am so very sorry, what a horrible time for you. My best friend lost her husband in an accident, she also struggled with knowing what help to ask for, but in the end her mum and I just went and spent time with her. If you have someone close who knows you all well maybe ask the police to call them for you to see if they can come over in a little while? What you do at this stage really doesn't matter at all, but you will have to be there for the children so have someone who can be there for you.

Flowerfae · 22/10/2018 17:02

I'm very sorry, you and your family are in my thoughts.

Singlenotsingle · 22/10/2018 17:03

OMG! I'm so sorry! Hope you've got family and friends to rally round! Flowers

bastardkitty · 22/10/2018 17:03

Can't imagine how shocked you must be. Just sending you a gentle arm around your shoulders x

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Zoflorabore · 22/10/2018 17:04

So very sorry for your loss op, how devastating :(

Use this thread as and when you need to, it will be a good place to let it all out as I imagine you're trying to be strong for the dc.

Sending you love and prayers xx

TheDuchessofDukeStreet · 22/10/2018 17:05

I’m so sorry. Another hand to hold. If you are able to have anyone to help, with cups of tea, dishwasher, answering the phone/door or looking up any information for you then it might be helpful to accept. Even if you just ask them to stand by and do things that come to hand.
Again, I’m so sorry. X

RedLife · 22/10/2018 17:06

Nice Endeavour real nice.

So sorry about your DH op Flowers

smartiecake · 22/10/2018 17:06

I'm so sorry, also here offering a hand to hold.
I'm sure you may need some practical help in the coming weeks with others helping out with the children, or sitting with them whilst you have other things to do. Just tell people that you will call on them when you need them. I'm sure people will want to help you and will be more than happy to chip in and offer support.

Sparklingbrook · 22/10/2018 17:06

I am so sorry. Flowers

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