My dh died this afternoon. Please hold my hand through this.

[DeadZed]

We have four distraught dc. the police are still here. I don't know what to say to people. I don't know what to ask when they offer to help.

Please, please access some professional psychological support for yourself ASAP. Your kids too.

This was not your fault.

Thinking of you.

Zed, those thoughts you're having, while upsetting and disturbing, are often a part of the grieving process. Please contact your GP to arrange for some support with this.
Are you able to get out for a walk each day, or do some other form of gentle exercise?
Thinking of you.

I'm not leaving the house today although we are planning a family dog walk tomorrow. Five am is just the worst time for these thoughts to strike I suppose. And I haven't had a moment without my DC so although friends have been round I've not really discussed what happened. Hopi that after half term the DC will settle back into school and I can start to process everything.

Please don't blame yourself. I'm sure you did everything you could xxx

I've been thinking of you and your family all weekend, how are you getting on?

Morning DeadZed. How are you all, did your dc manage to go back to school ok?

Mine found the first week or so quite tough after my mum died as everybody was asking them what had happened. The school rang my sister in law asking her to collect my son as too upset to stay. They organised counselling though so maybe worth speaking to the school to ask for your dc.

Thank you both for asking. We are ok, the post mortem is finished and I am going to register the death on Thursday now.

It is our half term so the dcs are off school anyway. They mostly seem to be holding up - although none of us are sleeping that well. We've had lots of visitors and we decided Sunday was a "just us" day" so I turned a couple of visitors away. It was the right thing to do. We need time for just us to get used to things.

The school have been brilliant. They had organised some counselling in September as we knew DH was ill and had deteriorated over the summer. The dc did part time school last week and were well looked after, a place to go for time out, just attending certain lessons, a really caring attitude from staff. It was very reassuring for me.

Sleep could allude you all for a while. Just resting when you need to and trying to keep to a loose routine will help.

I found getting to sleep really hard as couldn’t close my eyes without thoughts of my mum and her accident filling my head so had to be absolutely exhausted beforehand and then was wide awake by 5....

So glad to hear the school have been so good. That will certainly help your dc to readjust to their new life.

Hope tomorrow isn’t too painful for you x