My dh died this afternoon. Please hold my hand through this.

[DeadZed]

We have four distraught dc. the police are still here. I don't know what to say to people. I don't know what to ask when they offer to help.

Ffs there's always one

Who the hell are you to judge when it's ok for op to post? She will be in shock.
Please think about the impact of your words before pressing post. A fellow MNer has had her world turned upside down today.

Offering a hand from afar OP, I cannot begin to imagine what you are going through right now

Endeavour that’s unnecessary! How dare you at such a time.

Op, Mumsnet is here for you at any time at all. X

Two young teens and two age 10 and 11.

A freind is going to bring food tomorrow. Police are going to take a statement from me. Dh was 37. He tried to commit suicide last year so it is a suspicious death and needs a post mortem.

I’m so sorry, maybe just ask them to be there make cups of tea and feed you all. Thinking of you.

I'm so sorry for you all. Can you draft in any supporting adults to help with any practicalities, make you tea or whatever?

Sending love and strength. X

Oh I'm so sorry.
Please accept every offer of help - a cup of tea a watch of the kids for an hour whilst you do what you need to do. And remember its ok to grieve.
Sending you a hand hold

Oh I am so v sorry to hear this
Sending my deepest sympathies x

So sorry for your loss, sending hugs to you all x

Oh no. I hope you have people around you to take care of the practicalities.
I am very sorry.

Christ Endeavour, not helpful.

My deepest sympathies to you and your family, Op.

So very sorry for your loss

So sorry💐

I am so very sorry

So sorry, am here to give practical help, my dad died in a similar circumstances and first few weeks were tough due to investigation etc.
Please concentrate on you and kids health, everything else can wait, tomorrow check insurances are valid and money is not frozen. One day at a time, take offers of help from rl and most of all do what you feel you need to x

Im so so sorry. How awful. There's no right or wrong way to be. Just exist for now. Try to eat something small and drink some water or tea. Even if it's like cotton wool in your mouth, and encourage the kids to do so as well. Shock takes up a huge amount of energy.

Let people bring you and your children dinner. You might not want to eat but if you take the planning, shopping and cooking meals out of it it’s much easier to eat a little of what is put in front of you.

So sorry for your loss xx

My heartfelt sympathies. Don’t feel like you have to do anything too much today, just hold your lovely DC close and try to make sure you all eat a little something. If you can manage both of those things, you’re doing brilliantly.

Oh no DeadZed, I am so sorry, massive hugs .

My condolences.
For you & your children

So so sorry. My dh died in may (but we had warning). Its shit. You and dc will get there, but be kind to yourswlf and take any help offered. Loads of love xxx

I am so sorry for your loss. I have nothing useful to say, other than know that you and your family are in my thoughts

How devastating for your and your children, Zed, I'm really sorry to hear this.

Do you have support for today? I know you've said your friend will bring food tomorrow; what do you have today and is somebody going to be with you?

So sad for you. :(

Very sorry I can't even imagine how awful it must be