Hand hold pls - think I'm watching my mother die

[RogerAllamsFangirl]

Sitting in a side room on a hospital ward. She's struggling to breathe and clammy and cold. I was here earlier and went home but the nurse rang me to tell me to come over.

Tbh, watching her like this, I think that death, when it comes, will come as a friend.

I'm here and will hold your hand. I sat with my dad in his last few hours and although it was sad I am just glad I was able to be there.

Hello - this part is just awful isn't it. Sympathies

Oh I feel for you. I’ve been there, and when it comes is actually quite peaceful. Has she been ill for long? Wishing you a peaceful evening.

Thanks all. The chatting is a distraction. She looks so frail in that bed. She gave birth to me and looked after me and now she's just so helpless.

All very sudden. Aggressive cancer.

Hand hold and sympathy from me also, I too sat with my Dad through this recently. You are not alone and importantly your Mum has you with her and will take comfort from this. Stay strong, thinking of you at this truly difficult time.

Cancer took my Dad also, I hope your Mum is as peaceful as she can be.

I'm here too Sweet, sending love and strength, to you and your mum.

Sending you hugs ! I'm sure she knows your with her xx

Here with you. I did the same with my dad 3 years ago and whilst awful that I lost him he looked so peaceful when the time came, it helped with the grieving that he was out of pain. Thinking of you as it’s an incredibly difficult time.

I'm so sorry. I hope you have support at home, too. It's a real honour to be with your mum right now. There's no-one she'd prefer to have with her.

I'm here too, to hold your hand. I'm so sorry

I've done this. As much as it is very hard, you can do it. It's not as scary as you imagine it to be. For my mum ( cancer as well) I think the painkillers made her comfortable. It might be a strange thing to say, but I'd say my mum had a good death. I wasn't sure if she could hear me but I thanked her for being my mum and being there always for me . The hospice staff said to me to tell her she can go if she wants to and not to fight it. It was a peaceful death and I hope the same for yours

So many of us have been there. There comes a point where you know that you have to let your loved one go. Let her go - with your blessing.

I’ve been there, and totally understand about death coming as a friend. Your mum will still hear you even if she’s asleep, so talk to her if it helps. I’m so sorry you’re going through this

I’m so sorry OP.

I did it with my Mum. It’s ok to feel relief that she’s no longer in pain, and that peace is something very precious.

Do you have RL support too?

I'm just sitting quietly trying not to disturb her. I think she knows I'm here.

Another hand hold here OP

I sat with my beautiful Mum for 19 hours as she passed (rareish, aggressive cancer, only diagnosed 4 weeks before).

Talk to her, tell her you love her, she knows you’re there.

Sending big,big love xxxx

Hand hold for you. I was with my nan for the last hours when she passed away.

Supposedly hearing is one of the last senses to go. Maybe as name said you could talk to her, tell her it's ok to let go and you love her. Thinking of you.

No RL support right here. Her partner is very old and I don't see the point in him sitting up all night. Let him have a night of peace. My husband is away with the kids they're coming tomorrow tomorrow. My OH knows I've come over but no one else does.

So sorry to hear this op! Your not alone on here and I hope you have a lot of real life support too.

Hand holding. Remind her of the happy things you did together.

Tell her how much you love her.

@RogerAllamsFangirl I'm so sorry you're going through this, try and take comfort in the fact she saw you safely in to the world, now you're watching over her as she leaves it. That's the best display of true love

So sorry, lost both Mum and dad to aggressive cancer.

It sucks.

Wishing you strength