Hand hold pls - think I'm watching my mother die

[RogerAllamsFangirl]

Sitting in a side room on a hospital ward. She's struggling to breathe and clammy and cold. I was here earlier and went home but the nurse rang me to tell me to come over.

Tbh, watching her like this, I think that death, when it comes, will come as a friend.

I'll hold your hand, OP.
Watching the death of a loved one is a difficult thing - my df passed away from pancreatic cancer less than two years ago.
I know you don't want to disturb her, but would it help you if you put your hand next to hers so they're just touching?
I hope that if she must go, her passing is peaceful for both of your sakes.

Much love to you OP x x

Another hand hold here. I’ve done this. I watched my Mum die and it was peaceful and calm. Talk to her. Thinking of you.

I sat with my Dad in his last hours. It’s such a hard thing to endure. Just hold her hand OP, talk to her about your happy memories.

This is the worst part, but you’re not alone

I am so sorry.
How heartbreaking. You poor darling. I cannot being to imagine the awful heartbreak that you are going through.

and hugs for you at this sad time. You are in my thoughts op.

Thinking of you OP

Hand holding

I've done this and it's hard. She will be glad you are there. And you will be glad you were there xxx

Thanks all. Think I will have to go as your kind words are making me lose it. And who wants to die listening to someone snivelling.

Will come back and update. Thanks again.

I'm so sorry
Love to you both

I was there with my mum too when she went - the nurses all reassured us that she knew we were there. Keep talking to her, now and again. She was there at your very beginning, and now you're there for her at her very end. Thinking of you.

Sitting with you

I’ve done it too; the hardest thing I have ever done, but I’m glad I did it. Take care OP💐

No words for how you must be feeling. You’re doing a wonderful thing for her, I’ve done the same with both my parents, both cancer, both very young.
I’m sure you’ve brought a tear to lots of our eyes as remember our time.
You will never forget this time with her, make it special, talk to her, thank her, talk about how much you will miss her.
Hand holding and lots and lots of hugs to you.

I've been there with both my dad and my Nan OP. At least she knows you are with her.

My brother and I sat with our Mum - the only time that just the two of us had sat quietly with her - her death had been expected for a number of days. It was very peaceful, and although terribly upsetting, gave us comfort in the weeks beyond.

Thinking of you and your Mum. xx

I'm so sorry RogerAllams. It's horrendously hard, it sounds like she is as peaceful as she can be. I hope so. It came shockingly quick for my mum too, too late to treat and, as you say, death can come as a friend in those circumstances.

I think that, in the future, you'll feel glad (at peace) that you were there with her at this time.

xx hug xx

I was with my dad. It’s hard but she will not be suffering any more. It’s good that you can be with her. Sending you big hugs xxxx

Thinking of you both OP , sending you both a gentle squeeze. Stay strong, I'm sure she knows you Are there and taking comfort from it .

Been there too. I understand where you come from, she will soon be at peace.