Hand hold pls - think I'm watching my mother die

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Sitting in a side room on a hospital ward. She's struggling to breathe and clammy and cold. I was here earlier and went home but the nurse rang me to tell me to come over.

Tbh, watching her like this, I think that death, when it comes, will come as a friend.

they were supposed to be, sorry.

Not long now. The last service of a daughter to a mother.

Actually, sitting with someone as they pass away is the most important thing you an do. Hiold her hand, wipe her brow, talk to her. She will know and it will bring you so much confirm that you were there in days to come xx

You're so very strong OP. Sending you hugs and support

❤️❤️ to you both OP

sending you hugs Op

Love and best wishes to you both xxx

Sending support to you too Roger. It’s 11 years since I (and the rest of the family) sat with my Dad. It’s so hard but i’m still so grateful I made it back to the hospice in time.

Hold her hand, stroke her face, tell her you love her and that it’s ok to go.

For you Roger

I'm so sorry Roger. I've been where you are now and it's like nothing else on earth. You're there, and that's the important thing. I'm sure she knows you're there and loves you very much.

Hand hold here too. I sat with my dear dad at the end, also cancer. He was in s very deep sleep and passed quietly. Sending you love.

Just another hand here for you to hold.

I hope your beloved mum finds peace soon, tell her everything you want her to know, play her favourite music, relive memories with her. She will know you’re there.

Sending love and strength x

Extra hand hold.
You got this, she’ll know you’re there x

Thinking of you. X

I did this two weeks ago, it was a privilege to hold her hand as she went. Now is the hard bit. I am sending you love and support it's so hard, be kind to yourself xxxx

Love and strength to you OP. May her passing be peaceful and pain free. Her time on this earth might be at an end but she will never be gone as long as you hold her in your heart and loving memories.

Another hand hold for you. You are doing something amazing for your dear mum, being there in her last hours, to repay her for the all time she was there for you when you needed her. Its so hard to do, but there is no where else you should be right now and you will be forever grateful you were there.
I too Have been in a similar situation with fil and my grandad, but both times, not being able to stay as long as I wanted because we had the dc and no one to leave them with. It’s a hard time, but so important you are there.

being there is enough, lovely. Wishing peace to you both.

OP it’s my mum’s birthday today or should I say would have been x like you I sat with her during her last days and was with her as she died. It’s so so hard but also in a bittersweet way a privilege to be with her as she was with you through your life

I was with my Dad when he died in May. Without a doubt it was the hardest thing I've done but if I could turn back time I'd do it again. He knew we were there and I hope that our love for him was with him in his final moments.
Thinking of you, hoping your Mum's passing is peaceful.

Hand hold here too op

She absolutely knows you are there. You can moisten her lips or mouth if you want to do something practical for her. Make sure she’s getting plenty pain relief and they can give her something to calm her if she is getting agitated or breathless.

It’s a very difficult job to be the family, sitting and waiting is so hard but you are in the right place, you sound like an amazing daughter.

Sitting with you too op

I'm so sorry, she will know you are there though. Lots of love to you x