Hand hold pls - think I'm watching my mother die

[RogerAllamsFangirl]

Sitting in a side room on a hospital ward. She's struggling to breathe and clammy and cold. I was here earlier and went home but the nurse rang me to tell me to come over.

Tbh, watching her like this, I think that death, when it comes, will come as a friend.

Sorry for your loss, OP.

Well done for being there to provide that special love and support.

So sorry op. I know how this feels. I was poleaxed by the shock of the experience, but now I am so glad I was there, even though it was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. Take care of yourself now, the time before a funeral is such a blur of activity, a month later it all hits you. I found it helpful to plan small nice things for months to come, and just to get outside often, feel nature and the natural order of things.
Your mother is always with you, you are made of her, she is inside you always. X x x x x x

I’m so sorry💐. When you’ve contacted the funeral director and told who you need to tell, just stop. Not everything has to be done now. Take care of yourself OP.

“The life of the dead is placed on the memories of the living. The love you gave in life keeps people alive beyond their time. Anyone who was given love will always live on in another's heart.”

― Cicero

So sorry for your loss

So sorry OP

Take your time, and take a break from the practicalities if you need to. It’s not about other people right now, it’s about what you need.

Oh bless you. So sorry

So sorry

I'm so sorry, OP. I lost my dad to aggressive cancer, he had his final days at home.

I dread going through the same with my mum, I think about it often, don't know how I'll cope.

I am so sorry. Your mum is at peace now.

RogerAllamsFangirl

I'm so, so sorry for your loss.

Love to your family

So sorry for your loss

Thinking of you and hoping you're doing ok and have plenty of support around you

Hello. I’m so sorry for your loss. My lovely Dad died at the end of July.
I found the Emma Freud article in the Guardian called How to do a funeral very comforting and full of wise advice. Wishing you comfort and peace. X

Thanks all. Everything going very fast. I feel as though I'm slightly rushing into decisions. Will post later - would like to vent a bit.

So sorry for your loss we are all here for you.
May your mom rest in peace x

So sorry for your loss. Vent as much as you need, OP. Take good care of yourself and breathe.

Before I vent, can I just urge you, if you feel a tiny bit ill and there's the slightest possibility you might die, to please dispose of your red dinosaur vibrator so your children don't find it when clearing out. < not envy

Ah, so many things to get rid of before my children have to look at it all. But how are you doing, you sound like you're a bit perkier?

Red dinosaur?!??

I'll be honest, I was with my Mum's partner and I didn't look too closely. But I'm fairly confident it was a red dinosaur. More oomph than a rabbit maybe.

My dad was looking for handcream for my Mum just after she died (we were getting her presentable) and not having his glasses on handed me a massive tube of KY jelly instead

It felt very wrong because DP, my brother and his girlfriend all cracked up laughing. Proper tears, belly ache laughing. I guess it was just emotion. But it gave us something to smile about I guess

So sorry for your loss OP

I'm intrigued about the dinosaur...