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Just found this on family laptop

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Wafflenose · 10/09/2018 17:44

I'm need need of some advice. After work, I sat down to type something in the address bar on Explorer (I was typing Hotmail, to be precise) and as I started typing (literally one or two letters) my search bar suggested 'homosexual anime porn' and 'homosexual manga porn'. I went into our Internet users history and found that over a 30-60 minute period in the middle of the night (Friday or Saturday night, I can't remember) someone has searched for the above, plus manga incest, male on male gay porn and more. It would almost be funny (because of the animal element) if it wasn't so disturbing.

I have two DDs, aged 10 and 13. The younger one has her own laptop which she saved up for, so she doesn't use ours. The older one does use ours to play on and do homework, although at the times that correspond to when she was using it during the day just contain educational sites because she has been doing a history project. Both girls have been learning to draw manga. Little one hasn't heard of homosexual porn or incest, and the big one might have at school. She has never shown any interest in boys, or girls for that matter, but might be curious? If it turns out to be her, we will obviously be having a serious chat and supervising all screen use, because she will have betrayed our trust by going online during the night and googling unsuitable topics.

Then there is DH... we have been married for 20 years and he as straight as straight can be, or so I thought. I guess I am asking how I should approach this, because if it's not him then we need to have a serious chat with our daughter.

Unless there is some kind of virus or malware that generates this kind of thing? (Clutching at straws).

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Grreat · 12/09/2018 18:31

Honestly OP, I'd let it go.
It's not real and it's not like it's child abuse or rape. The gay and incestuous aspect of it probably came from curiosity. I'm sure the majority of people who've seen porn have seen both gay and straight porn. Doesn't make him bi or gay. Doesn't mean he wants to shag his family.

Tell him next time to make sure the history is cleared though because imagine if one of your kids had seen it.

CountessVonBoobs · 12/09/2018 18:59

But that's just it. Incest IRL is hideous, usually abusive and destructive. Fantasy incest between fictional characters is just that, fantasy. It has nothing to do with being attracted to your parent, sibling, or child, but it does extract an erotic charge from being taboo. Many many perfectly normal women have read those Gregory novels and got off on them without ever being the slightest risk to their children or indeed to any other member of their family. Just as literally millions of women have got off on sexy descriptions of rapes in bodice-rippers without any desire to be raped IRL. It's fantasy. And rape IRL bears no resemblance to the scenarios in those novels. Everybody has fantasies that they don't actually have the slightest intention or interest in acting out. I doubt there is a person on the planet who is not asexual who doesn't have sexual fantasies that would be deeply worrying were they real-life scenarios they were acting out.

Wafflenose · 12/09/2018 20:21

This will be my last word on the matter. We are working through this by ourselves and I don't intend to give updates about that.

You are all zooming in on ONE page of many, which going by the timings and Web addresses , was part of a gallery of lots and lots of anime and was immediately clicked out of... there are around 20 links within that one minute, ONE of which mentions the word incest. Both DH and I have only ever had partner, he isn't gay and doesn't get off on or condone any kind of familial (or other) sexual abuse. He works alongside probation with all manner of sex offenders and I suspect that a conversation at work put the idea into his head. He wanted to find out what yaoi was (and call us naive, but I had never heard of it until a couple of days ago either) and had a drunken Google. He did not, and would not, Google incest, has healthy relationships with everyone and functions in society better than I do. We. Are. Dealing. With. This.

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Wafflenose · 12/09/2018 20:22

One partner! We have both only had the one.

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Stormzyandme · 12/09/2018 20:34

You have no idea what he looked at on his phone or on the laptop before you found it.

There could be months worth that has been deleted.

Taylor22 · 12/09/2018 21:23

Better go and tell anyone who's read or watched any of the game of thrones novels/shows that they have to stop having a relationship with their children.....

TakemedowntoPotatoCity · 12/09/2018 21:47

He works alongside probation with sex offenders and googles incest porn
At the very least I would advise him to be fucking careful about his internet activitiesConfused

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