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Just found this on family laptop

282 replies

Wafflenose · 10/09/2018 17:44

I'm need need of some advice. After work, I sat down to type something in the address bar on Explorer (I was typing Hotmail, to be precise) and as I started typing (literally one or two letters) my search bar suggested 'homosexual anime porn' and 'homosexual manga porn'. I went into our Internet users history and found that over a 30-60 minute period in the middle of the night (Friday or Saturday night, I can't remember) someone has searched for the above, plus manga incest, male on male gay porn and more. It would almost be funny (because of the animal element) if it wasn't so disturbing.

I have two DDs, aged 10 and 13. The younger one has her own laptop which she saved up for, so she doesn't use ours. The older one does use ours to play on and do homework, although at the times that correspond to when she was using it during the day just contain educational sites because she has been doing a history project. Both girls have been learning to draw manga. Little one hasn't heard of homosexual porn or incest, and the big one might have at school. She has never shown any interest in boys, or girls for that matter, but might be curious? If it turns out to be her, we will obviously be having a serious chat and supervising all screen use, because she will have betrayed our trust by going online during the night and googling unsuitable topics.

Then there is DH... we have been married for 20 years and he as straight as straight can be, or so I thought. I guess I am asking how I should approach this, because if it's not him then we need to have a serious chat with our daughter.

Unless there is some kind of virus or malware that generates this kind of thing? (Clutching at straws).

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BitOutOfPractice · 10/09/2018 18:14

My money is on your DH I’m afraid.

deepsea · 10/09/2018 18:16

I have a child of a similar age and I think would be extremely unlikely she would know how to access or the terms used, I am sorry to say (as it would be much easier if it was your child tbh), almost impossible unless she is ahead of her time. I don't know any child that would use the term 'male on male gay porn'. A child' search words would be much cruder and more simple in my view.

If a man is getting up at 2.30am to look at gay porn I don't think I would consider that to be just surfing or curious viewing.

Speak to dh and tell him you suspect it was him and would like confirmation. Do not ask your child first.

Storm4star · 10/09/2018 18:16

Anime/manga is not porn. However, there are a lot (we're talking huge amounts) of porn manga. I've been to Japan and they have whole floors in shops dedicated to it! Weirdly, Japanese schoolgirls can be quite into the whole male on male thing in manga. It's quite possible your DD has heard of this and was curious. I wouldn't worry hugely. It is likely just curiosity. But I think it's probably your older DD.

MatildaTheCat · 10/09/2018 18:17

95% odds on DH.

I wouldn’t be at all happy whoever it was but tread lightly. Good luck with navigating this one.

deepsea · 10/09/2018 18:17

At that time in the morning he has obviously forgotten to clear the history.

QueenOfCatan · 10/09/2018 18:18

It's likely that the 13yo is just curious. I was searching similar (though erotica) at that age.

Lockheart · 10/09/2018 18:20

Sounds like she's discovering yaoi en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yaoi (safe for work) - it's a very popular genre of homoerotic manga and anime among teenage girls and young adult women in Japan, and becoming increasingly so in the west - there is a tonne of homoerotic fan fiction on the internet written about every fandom you can think of.

Given the searches and her hobbies, I highly doubt it's your DH.

I'd sit her down and have a chat about how it's OK to like that kind of thing, but she's too young to watch anything so extreme. Update your parental controls if you can?

QueenOfCatan · 10/09/2018 18:20

Those who think that 13yos don't know terminology really need to speak to their 13yos, I was naive as a teen but I knew full well what male on male/homosexual porn was!

Storm4star · 10/09/2018 18:21

After 20 years why would OP's DH suddenly start searching "manga porn"? Seem's much more likely to be the DD. Although I do agree you need to speak with DH first just to rule him out and decide how you're both going to approach this.

Ifailed · 10/09/2018 18:21

It's him.

CryptoFascist · 10/09/2018 18:22

If it was your DH he'd have probably searched for Hentai, not Manga. I'd say it's most likely to be oldest DD.

NeverStopExploring · 10/09/2018 18:22

For those saying it’s most likely your dh the homosexual manga and anime was rife when I was a kid in school. Pokemon took off and the books swiftly followed then the porno ones. Loads of kids had them in their lockers and used them to creep each other out so I wouldn’t rule the kids out. I never saw the attraction myself but as soon as I read this I thought teenager!

JungWan · 10/09/2018 18:23

My 12 year old knows all of this language and he's fairly innocent. I'd say it was your DD just googling to see what the other anime ''genres'' were like.

nimfly · 10/09/2018 18:24

Definitely think it's older DD. Like pp has said, this is often talked about in school so she was likely curious.

MissLingoss · 10/09/2018 18:25

My money's on dd. One of her school friends will have discovered fanfic and told all the others.

Singlenotsingle · 10/09/2018 18:25

Are 13 year old girls really interested in porn? Highly unlikely. Speak to DH first and tell him that if it wasn't him you'll have to speak to the DDS. My dsd was married for 16 years until DH suddenly came out as gay, so dont be surprised!

deepsea · 10/09/2018 18:25

QueenOfCatan I speak to my teenage dds about sex all the time. I know for a fact they would never ever use the word 'male on male gay porn' even the term would have them rolling around with embarrassment. I wouldn't be surprised to see gay sex, homosexuals, lesbians and such like as a search. But the male on male. That is not teenage girl speak.

I would be very worried where she was picking up such terms. Has she got some advanced friends that are into things like that?

And why use your laptop and not her own? The risk of getting caught is magnified using yours.

Lockheart · 10/09/2018 18:27

Would a grown adult really search for the term "male on male gay porn"? No, they'd just search for 'gay porn' or a porn site.

The searches have been done by someone who is unfamiliar with looking for this sort of thing and who doesn't know where to look. I.e. not likely an adult male.

deepsea · 10/09/2018 18:27

I hope it is your dd op. Sincerely I do.

misstblue2 · 10/09/2018 18:28

you could just ask your dh what was he doing up at 2.30 on saturday as you could hear him downstairs ( or where ever the laptop is)
if he says he never got up you will know its dd

deepsea · 10/09/2018 18:28

You would probably use girl on girl in the same way you would use male on male porn. If you just put in gay porn you would get all sorts, so no I don't agree. Male on male suggests a very definitive search.

itssquidstella · 10/09/2018 18:30

Loads of teenage girls are into this kind of thing. It's usually fan fiction(think Harry Potter) and the male on male genre is known as 'slash'. Apparently anime is a massive sub genre of this.

Lockheart · 10/09/2018 18:30

Are 13 year old girls really interested in porn?

Not porn as you might be thinking of it perhaps, but when I was a teenager I was heavily into lots of unsuitable fan fiction on the internet. Usually involving vampires (pre-Twilight era, I hasten to add!).

Stormzyandme · 10/09/2018 18:30

I think its DH. No child searches for incest do they. Its very very creepy.

Let it go, watch and see who gets up this weekend in the middle of the night.

I wouldnt be asking anyone. Saying no is easy.

deepsea · 10/09/2018 18:31

You lost me with dd for incest as well, yuck, no teen is going to be looking for that