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Just found this on family laptop

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Wafflenose · 10/09/2018 17:44

I'm need need of some advice. After work, I sat down to type something in the address bar on Explorer (I was typing Hotmail, to be precise) and as I started typing (literally one or two letters) my search bar suggested 'homosexual anime porn' and 'homosexual manga porn'. I went into our Internet users history and found that over a 30-60 minute period in the middle of the night (Friday or Saturday night, I can't remember) someone has searched for the above, plus manga incest, male on male gay porn and more. It would almost be funny (because of the animal element) if it wasn't so disturbing.

I have two DDs, aged 10 and 13. The younger one has her own laptop which she saved up for, so she doesn't use ours. The older one does use ours to play on and do homework, although at the times that correspond to when she was using it during the day just contain educational sites because she has been doing a history project. Both girls have been learning to draw manga. Little one hasn't heard of homosexual porn or incest, and the big one might have at school. She has never shown any interest in boys, or girls for that matter, but might be curious? If it turns out to be her, we will obviously be having a serious chat and supervising all screen use, because she will have betrayed our trust by going online during the night and googling unsuitable topics.

Then there is DH... we have been married for 20 years and he as straight as straight can be, or so I thought. I guess I am asking how I should approach this, because if it's not him then we need to have a serious chat with our daughter.

Unless there is some kind of virus or malware that generates this kind of thing? (Clutching at straws).

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Stormzyandme · 11/09/2018 09:00

And I honestly dont think its a one off. Do you check the history everytime?

If my DH watched porn about having sex with family members, he would be out on his arse.

He probably covers his tracks more when hes sober.

Theres know way of telling whats on his phone either. I wouldnt be brushing this under the carpet.

I hope you get to the bottom of it OP.gyy

whymewhyme · 11/09/2018 09:00

I think you've taken it very well, for me it would make me question this man. He's never going to admit that he was getting off on it because searching for incest porn manga or not is just wrong and he knows that!

Honflyr · 11/09/2018 09:10

I don't think searching for incest manga is "wrong". Real incest disgusts me, but two hot fictional characters that are related? Hot af.

dany174 · 11/09/2018 09:13

I really wouldn't worry too much about the incest part. Unfortunately its something you will unavoidably accidentally click on when you go down the hentai road. And it can some times take a while before you realise what your reading/watching. It's a strangely populair fetish the Japanese have and you will come across the theme in even non porn anime stuff. I think there is a anime populair with kids called Sword Art Online that has a sister in love with her (half/step?) brother. But then again it's in western fiction as well (Luke and Leia kiss before they find out there brother and sister).

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Wafflenose · 11/09/2018 09:30

Not that it makes any difference, but he wouldn't have got up in the middle of the night. He would just have been still up at that time - I went to bed early and fell asleep, so didn't know how late he'd come up that night.

Anyway, I have a full day of work ahead now.

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powerwalk · 11/09/2018 10:18

It is your marriage op, and it is really up to you to define your own boundaries. Clearly you have lots of other things going on in your life at the moment, so maybe it is easier just to try and forget it.

If you don't like him doing this, you need to make it very very clear this will become a problem for you if it happens again. Fair enough to warn him where your personal boundaries are, and he must respect them. At the moment no doubt he is breathing a sigh of relief having got away with it this time, if you are hurt and upset then he needs to know.

On the bright side at least it wasn't your dd. I would hate for my younger dc to be exposed to that kind of thing. Have a good day at work.

MajesticWhine · 11/09/2018 10:34

It wouldn't bother me too much. Must confess I have looked at some weird things on a lonely night. Gay, straight, and god knows what else. Doesn't make me a bad partner or require a session with relate.

retainertrainer · 11/09/2018 10:41

Nah it wouldn’t bother me much. It’s just human nature to be curious about stuff sometimes. Nothing illegal,it’s cartoon porn for gods sake. Bit weird but aren’t we all! Poor blokes probably mortified!

CountessVonBoobs · 11/09/2018 10:51

This is going to date me, but I had a brief affair with slash RPF (real-person-fic) about the Lord of the Rings cast Blush so no, I wouldn't be super bothered either. People are weird. I once went to an exhibition of Japanese erotic manga and THAT was a real eye-opener. (I've never been able to get on board with the tentacle thing.)

It's probably best for peace of mind not to know what the weirdest porn a partner has ever looked at is, but yes, I think the fact it's cartoon makes a difference. No real cocks are involved and no-one was harmed in the production of it.

iamawoman · 11/09/2018 10:58

Husband definitely if , homosexual anime porn. I would do a stake out and monitor laptop usage and times and no one is going to fess up to this . Do you really want your daughter to know what her dad has been looking up?

iamawoman · 11/09/2018 10:59

Also so.e of the cartoon porn heavily features rape torture and mutilation and is loved by incels. Not a healthy addiction to get into

FermatsTheorem · 11/09/2018 12:20

countess the weirdest rabbit hole I ever found (while surfing around AO3 one evening) was BBC radio 3 proms presenter RPF! Truly a "rule 34" moment. The tags were enough to put me off looking any further (I personally don't feel comfortable with RPF, not my thing, but I have friends who have been very drawn into it.)

CountessVonBoobs · 11/09/2018 12:24

Fermat I've always been ambivalent at best about RPF but er, I thought the actors were really hot... so I temporarily overlooked it. I was never a tinfoil-hatter, though, if you remember those days! RPF is weird. Radio 3 Proms presenters, though... I can't imagine that has a big audience Grin

Taylor22 · 11/09/2018 14:11

@FermatsTheorem Oh God the Tags alone on AO3 are a rabbit hole all on their own let alone ever actually clicking on them!

BlancheM · 11/09/2018 14:11

The oddest thing about this is that you immediately thought one of your children had been searching for niche pornography. Then added on your DH as an almost afterthought.
I haven't read the thread but your husband has done this, obviously. Whatever your boundaries are re porn, get him to clear his history for the sake of his children, good grief.

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Wafflenose · 11/09/2018 15:29

He cleared it as soon as he was confronted! I thought it was him. Loads of PPs thought it was DD1.

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Timeisslippingaway · 11/09/2018 16:19

So it was your dh?

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Wafflenose · 11/09/2018 16:21

Yes, he admitted it immediately, didn't seem particularly embarrassed and blamed it on drunken curiosity.

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BlancheM · 11/09/2018 17:35

In your OP it came across as if you thought it was more likely to be one of your DDs.
Glad you've got it cleared up now anyway

Fairenuff · 11/09/2018 19:48

as I started typing (literally one or two letters) my search bar suggested 'homosexual anime porn' and 'homosexual manga porn'

He might have gone down the rabbit hole to end up with incest but he was searching for gay porn.

That would be more of a concern to me OP.

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Wafflenose · 11/09/2018 21:07

The fact that it's cartoon porn has stopped me going berserk. Clearly we'recommend going to have to work through this though.

Thanks all for your contributions and advice. I probably won't update again unless there are any further developments.

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Wafflenose · 11/09/2018 21:08

Gah, we're!! Not recommended!

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Fairenuff · 11/09/2018 21:11

You're not concerned that your dh is interested in gay porn?

bluemoonchances · 11/09/2018 21:21

OP I don't think you need to worry at all from what you've said. I can absolutely guarantee you that an overwhelming majority of men look at some sort of porn. And before the "not my DH!" Brigade shout up... yes your DH too! This might be massively outing but I work in a field that involves recovering deleted data forensically on phones and computers. I very very rarely download a device that doesn't have some sort of porn history. And what you have described is a very mild type of curiosity and as you have realised, a wormhole of clicking.
I really wouldn't worry about it. He was honest with you as soon as you mentioned it to him.

Soopdash · 11/09/2018 21:27

This wouldn't sit right with me at all sorry OP.

The fact that he actively typed the terms into the search engine proved he didn't accidently fall down an internet rabbit hole. He went out of his way to seek it.

Also the bit where he 'doesn't remember' is a red flag. Typical get out of jail card for someone who's just been busted.