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Please give me advice. (sensitive subject)

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GlowWorm123 · 31/01/2017 11:02

I have recently found out I am pregnant, unplanned but DP knew we wasn't taking any contraception and happily had sex with me daily. I'd have this baby but he is desperate not too. Realistically, the best thing to do is to terminate but the circumstances we are facing aren't reasons to terminate in my opinion. I am really sorry if this offends anyone, i'm just desperate for advice and absolutely terrified.

If you've read my thread in Pregnancy Choices, you'll have read I had an awful doctors appointment and have been struggling to get advice anywhere. It still hasn't sunk in properly, I don't feel ready to be making such huge decisions that can potentially leave me with everlasting guilt.

DP has now booked me in for an abortion consultation on my behalf (I've never asked him too). He will be pretty much escorting me to my appointments, which I feel obliged to say that I want an abortion.

Is this even allowed? How can another person, make GP/Clinic appointments on behalf of another? What do I do Sad

OP posts:
blueskyinmarch · 08/02/2017 21:57

Well done Glow. You are an inspiration. Good luck for the future with you and your baby.

BonnyScotland · 08/02/2017 21:57

just read this entire thread with my heart in my mouth and tears in my eyes... Glow I wish you and your precious baby all the luck in the world... your parents will be delighted ... love and hugs Flowers x

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 08/02/2017 21:58

She should be in the air by now Smile

CookieLady · 08/02/2017 22:13

Only read your thread today. I really hope you got on your flight safely and making your way to your mum. Flowers

Jenniferb21 · 08/02/2017 22:19

If after seeking professional guidance and a chance to deeply consider your options, a termination is the right choice for you, that is your choice. However, if you are bullied or coerced in any way you will never forgive yourself. I was in a similar position at university and I have never forgiven myself. I live with this decision that I didn't really make myself and regret it.

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 08/02/2017 22:25

Jennifer, just take a minute to go back and read the OP's posts.

I think you'll be pleased about her decision.

clementineorange · 08/02/2017 22:39

Well done OP. You are safe now. Go to SA and contact the U.K. police PLEASE so if you have to go back he won't be able to come near you. Thinking of you, please update us when you a friend safe and sound in SA!

iknowimcoming · 08/02/2017 22:44

So pleased for you glow! I bet you'll sleep like a baby on the flight, safe trip and update us when you've settled in Flowers

StrawberriCream · 08/02/2017 22:47
Flowers
Ohyesiam · 08/02/2017 22:50

Op you are such an amazing strong young woman. I feel really proud of you, and I don't even know you!
Best wishes, and Best of luck for all that life ahead. You have followed your inner voice, which is always the right thing to do.Flowers

tobecontinued2000 · 08/02/2017 22:51

Well done Glow SmileSmileFlowers

Lissette · 08/02/2017 22:57

Hope the morning sickness holds off during the flight and that you have a good rest. X

(You are very brave and strong)

MadeForThis · 08/02/2017 22:58

Congratulations on getting away. Hope you and the baby are happy and safe xx

user1471537877 · 08/02/2017 22:59

Have a wonderful life with your baby, you deserve to Flowers

TheNameIsBarbara · 08/02/2017 23:01

Wow. Just read this thread. You are amazing OP, I wish you and your little baby all the best foe the future. You have been very brave, and I hope that you will soon be with your mum getting wonderful support and love.

Flowers to you and your friends who helped you when you needed them to.

CoolCarrie · 08/02/2017 23:22

Well done Glow! You are coming to beautiful sunny weather here! Your parents will be thrilled to see you and hear your news. Best wishes to you and your wee one.

BlueKarou · 08/02/2017 23:48

Read this thread through with my little boy sleeping beside me and I'm so hoping you're on the plane right now Glow and on your way to freedom from that horrible man. You deserve a big hug from your mum and unconditional support as you begin this new chapter in your life.

TimidLividyetagain · 08/02/2017 23:54

I hope you got away, your new life is ahead of you

flumpsnlumpsnstuff · 09/02/2017 06:57

Oh Glow my phone died before I saw your update last night and so I found myself willing you to the airport. I'm so glad you got there, your friend is amazing too for helping but now I'm hoping you are home with mum and dad and if he turns up I reckon your folks will show him the jerk slapping two step 😉

Afreshstartplease · 09/02/2017 07:01

Well done op!

ememem84 · 09/02/2017 07:14

So glad you got to the airport. I hope you had a comfortable flight and you are now with your family x good luck

xStefx · 09/02/2017 08:45

Thinking of you this morning OP, we are all so happy for you. Take care of yourself and that lovely baby of yours xxx

OFFFS · 09/02/2017 09:00

Safe journey GlowWorm. X

ItsyBitsyBikini · 09/02/2017 09:06

I've just caught up on the thread Glow. Bloody well done! So glad you got to see your baby and made it safe to the airport, your friend is indeed an angel. I hope you've arrived in SA (no idea how long it takes) and you are with your parents. Such a brave lady, fighting for her child before they're even born! You'll be a fantastic mummy.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 09/02/2017 11:05

Oh Glow - so pleased you made it to the airport! Hope you're back with your parents soon and that you are able to stay there safely.

Best of luck - do let us know you've got there safely, if you can xx Thanks