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Please give me advice. (sensitive subject)

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GlowWorm123 · 31/01/2017 11:02

I have recently found out I am pregnant, unplanned but DP knew we wasn't taking any contraception and happily had sex with me daily. I'd have this baby but he is desperate not too. Realistically, the best thing to do is to terminate but the circumstances we are facing aren't reasons to terminate in my opinion. I am really sorry if this offends anyone, i'm just desperate for advice and absolutely terrified.

If you've read my thread in Pregnancy Choices, you'll have read I had an awful doctors appointment and have been struggling to get advice anywhere. It still hasn't sunk in properly, I don't feel ready to be making such huge decisions that can potentially leave me with everlasting guilt.

DP has now booked me in for an abortion consultation on my behalf (I've never asked him too). He will be pretty much escorting me to my appointments, which I feel obliged to say that I want an abortion.

Is this even allowed? How can another person, make GP/Clinic appointments on behalf of another? What do I do Sad

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mashmaker87 · 08/02/2017 11:30

Oh my god I just read all of this post and you are amazing op. Well done you. Have a safe flight and make sure you let us all know you got there safely. Flowers

WhiskyIrnBru · 08/02/2017 11:43

Flowers You're an inspiration Glow Good luck!

Dollygirl27 · 08/02/2017 12:21

I've just read this thread! My heart goes out to you glow well done for making the right decisions for you and getting away from what sounds like a manipulative, callous and controlling individual! I wish you all the best for the future and a happy healthy baby in a few months time. You are an inspiration x

SkaterGrrrrl · 08/02/2017 13:04

The coathanger joke was vile.
You are doing the right thing.
Nice and sunny in Kaapstad this time of year ;)

mydietstartsmonday · 08/02/2017 13:20

Well done u. Hopefully you have had the scan and on your way home. In awe of you. Good luck.

CousinChloe · 08/02/2017 13:22

I hope you're having much success in your plan, and that you can feel the relief if being able to breathe again

rumblingDMexploitingbstds · 08/02/2017 13:24

Thinking of you Glow and hoping hard that all is going well for you. Flowers

HorseDentist · 08/02/2017 13:39

Good luck. Remember to thank your life saving friend. She sounds like a diamond.

clementineorange · 08/02/2017 16:52

Thinking of you OP and hoping you are safe. He can't find you in SA can he?

MrsSquidney · 08/02/2017 16:55

Thinking of you today Glow Flowers

MadeForThis · 08/02/2017 17:43

Hope everything went to plan today. Safe flight x

Imaginarymenagerie · 08/02/2017 18:17

Thinking of you. Hope everything went well today. Have a safe flight. Flowers

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GlowWorm123 · 08/02/2017 19:06

So touched by all your messages. Thank you for thinking of me. This thread has been a huge support.

I saw my baby! All healthy with a strong heart beat, it's all tied in nicely. When I saw the little grub shape and heart beat it reiterated to me why I'm doing this.

He suspected something last night, he could tell things were on my mind but I managed to fob him off. I left for 'work' as normal this morning, had my scan and went home to gather some more bits (the things he'd notice would be missing). My friends been so amazing throughout all this, there are truly some angels on earth and she's one of them.

I've got literally a tiny suitcase of things and the essential things I need. I'm at the air port now, I've blocked his number and I'm terrified he'll be able to get through and come and get me. He knows where my parents live, but I doubt he would come, if he did I'm sure my dad would send him right back home!

Im going home guys and I'm pretty sure I'm going to break down as soon as I see my mum. I really need her. Flowers

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BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 08/02/2017 19:13

Oh, so pleased to hear you're at the airport Glow.

If you've gone through security there's no way he can get to you, if you haven't go through now.

Then relax.

You've done it! Flowers

octoberfarm · 08/02/2017 19:13

You are incredible, well done glow!!!! So happy to hear you're at the airport safely, you're really doing this! And so happy you got to see your little one too. You are going to be the most magnificent Mum. Safe travels, you're so nearly there Smile

insan1tyscartching · 08/02/2017 19:18

Well done Glow, you are truly brave Star Safe journey home, I bet your Mum and Dad will be thrilled to see you.

FiloPasty · 08/02/2017 19:28

Oh well done, you've totally done the right thing!

CurbsideProphet · 08/02/2017 19:30

Best wishes Glow Flowers

shakeyospeare · 08/02/2017 19:35

Oh, what a relief! I've thought about you all day, feeling very invested in you managing to get away safely. Don't underestimate this man! So glad you're at the airport and have seen your little baby - this is a new beginning for you and your little bean. I hope you manage to relax on the flight - you've done it! Flowers

ZoSanDesu · 08/02/2017 19:36

My goodness, you've been so strong, so wonderful. Do your parents know you're coming? Just a little bit further to go and you'll be home. Thinking of you xxx

Dollygirl27 · 08/02/2017 19:37

So glad that you're safe and well at the airport! You'll be much better off with the support of your family bet they can't wait to see you x

Lissette · 08/02/2017 19:40

Well done Glow. I'll be thinking of you as you make your journey. Just enjoy your flight. Glad you saw your little one. All the best. X

CJB1980 · 08/02/2017 19:43

I have been reading your thread for days now and just wanted to say good luck! You are amazing!
Would you consider reporting his behaviour to the police once you are safely back home with mum n dad? What he has done to you is domestic abuse and he should be made to pay for his sick actions. I could understand why you wouldn't want to and would just want to put this experience behind you though.
Best of luck for the future! FlowersFlowers

FacelikeaBagofHammers · 08/02/2017 19:45

So relieved for you!! Just get behind those boarding gates asap and put it all behind you. You'll be starting a new life with your gorgeous baby. He's a prize idiot.

xStefx · 08/02/2017 19:48

I'm so happy for you and your baby op xx good luck

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