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GlowWorm123 · 31/01/2017 11:02

I have recently found out I am pregnant, unplanned but DP knew we wasn't taking any contraception and happily had sex with me daily. I'd have this baby but he is desperate not too. Realistically, the best thing to do is to terminate but the circumstances we are facing aren't reasons to terminate in my opinion. I am really sorry if this offends anyone, i'm just desperate for advice and absolutely terrified.

If you've read my thread in Pregnancy Choices, you'll have read I had an awful doctors appointment and have been struggling to get advice anywhere. It still hasn't sunk in properly, I don't feel ready to be making such huge decisions that can potentially leave me with everlasting guilt.

DP has now booked me in for an abortion consultation on my behalf (I've never asked him too). He will be pretty much escorting me to my appointments, which I feel obliged to say that I want an abortion.

Is this even allowed? How can another person, make GP/Clinic appointments on behalf of another? What do I do Sad

OP posts:
WannabeGilmoreGirl · 08/02/2017 00:28

Thinking of you for today. Stay strong and stay safe.

FeralBeryl · 08/02/2017 00:41

Good luck for later sweetheart. Stay strong Flowers

CoshPunt · 08/02/2017 01:01

Good luck! Thinking of you today.

user1472377586 · 08/02/2017 01:19

Glow Worm, I just read the whole thread.
Good luck with your flight.

Please make sure that you don't put him on the birth certificate.
(You don't need a custody dispute in the future.)
xxxx

celeryeater · 08/02/2017 03:07

Just wanted to wish you good luck for tomorrow! You are going to be an amazing mother. Well done for standing up for what you want.

CakeUpWall · 08/02/2017 07:21

Well, today truly is the first day of the rest of your life!
Good luck, I'll be thinking of you.Flowers

OutnumberedbyFurchesters · 08/02/2017 07:22

Good luck today.

Will be thinking of you.

IneedmoreLemonPledge · 08/02/2017 07:40

Just finished reading the thread Glow and wanted to wish you all the very best for today!

Stay strong, you can do it - and what an amazing friend you have.

Flowers
flumpsnlumpsnstuff · 08/02/2017 07:50

De lurking to say good luck op today you see your baby and escape this total bastard.
When I was young I had an abortion under similar circumstances, I've always regretted it but it did give me the fire to leave.
Fingers crossed for you Flowers

ohfourfoxache · 08/02/2017 07:52

Hope all goes well x

JanuaryMoods · 08/02/2017 07:55

Safe journey.

Spring2016 · 08/02/2017 08:02

Glow, I am so relieved and proud of you! I had actual tears reading your posts. I am so happy you are going to your mother. So glad you have such a strong best friend to help you. Good luck with everything. And...Congratulations! Flowers

PlaymobilPirate · 08/02/2017 08:03

Is the black dot campaign still a thing??

PlaymobilPirate · 08/02/2017 08:03

Sorry - didn't rtft before I posted

acatcalledjohn · 08/02/2017 08:08

Good luck today OP. Soon you'll have your mum! Flowers

PreemptiveSalvageEngineer · 08/02/2017 08:29

Best of luck, OP. Safe journey! Thanks

HelpMeHelpDS · 08/02/2017 08:56

Enjoy your flight and have a great trip, OP. When you come back it will be to a new and better life. Wine

WildoTheDildo · 08/02/2017 09:01

Good luck today.

sksinfood · 08/02/2017 09:15

Just caught up and Wow! Good luck Glow! I think you're amazing! You absolutely can do this - and are!

And agree with pp - do not put his name on the birth certificate. Worst case scenario (I don't know how it works in SA) say you don't know who the father was. He has made it clear how he feels. You don't owe him anything!

Thinking of you today!

pepecat · 08/02/2017 10:30

Thinking of you today and wishing you and your baby all the best! Flowers

MidniteScribbler · 08/02/2017 10:33

Good luck today OP. One glass of champagne on the plane is more than acceptable!

ohmygodyouguys · 08/02/2017 10:37

We'll all be thinking of you today Glow. Hope the scan went well, update us when you can xxx

Butteredpars1ps · 08/02/2017 10:39

Good Luck Glowworm. Hope you enjoy seeing your baby Worm wriggling around. Grin have a safe flight Flowers

Stormwhale · 08/02/2017 10:48

Safe journey op. You have made the right decision. Leave him and this hellish part of your life behind. It's a new beginning for you and your beautiful little baby. Good luck.

DubiousCredentials · 08/02/2017 11:29

Best of luck op Flowers

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