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Please give me advice. (sensitive subject)

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GlowWorm123 · 31/01/2017 11:02

I have recently found out I am pregnant, unplanned but DP knew we wasn't taking any contraception and happily had sex with me daily. I'd have this baby but he is desperate not too. Realistically, the best thing to do is to terminate but the circumstances we are facing aren't reasons to terminate in my opinion. I am really sorry if this offends anyone, i'm just desperate for advice and absolutely terrified.

If you've read my thread in Pregnancy Choices, you'll have read I had an awful doctors appointment and have been struggling to get advice anywhere. It still hasn't sunk in properly, I don't feel ready to be making such huge decisions that can potentially leave me with everlasting guilt.

DP has now booked me in for an abortion consultation on my behalf (I've never asked him too). He will be pretty much escorting me to my appointments, which I feel obliged to say that I want an abortion.

Is this even allowed? How can another person, make GP/Clinic appointments on behalf of another? What do I do Sad

OP posts:
ChippyDucks · 07/02/2017 13:28

Oh OP you sound amazing. Your little one will be lucky to have such a strong woman for their mother. Best of luck tomorrow Flowers

FP239 · 07/02/2017 13:34

Good luck with your plan, im so glad this thread has gone the way it has :D

Kmxxx14 · 07/02/2017 13:46

Good luck OP. Your very brave.

OFFFS · 07/02/2017 14:11

Good luck OP x

ohfourfoxache · 07/02/2017 14:15

Oh Glow you're ace. You really are.

Hope tomorrow goes well, keeping everything crossed. Seeing your baby for the first time is an amazing experience, enjoy it xx

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 07/02/2017 14:16

Best of luck for tomorrow, Glow - the best advice I can give you at this stage is to say ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to him AT ALL about you leaving, literally nothing. Just go. Don't even say goodbye to him beyond the normal "goodbye I'm off to work" or whatever.

Time enough to call him from the other end of your journey! And DON'T leave him a letter or note either - again, email him when you get there if you need that catharsis - but do NOT tip him off in any way that you are leaving.

Have a great trip! Thanks

ofudginghell · 07/02/2017 14:27

Good luck op with your plan.
Will be crossing everything for you xx

Sleeplessinmybedroom · 07/02/2017 14:36

Good luck we're all rooting for you.

TobleroneBoo · 07/02/2017 14:47

I have just sat & read this entire thread, & what a rollercoaster of emotions it has been. I felt so sad for you but now I just feel proud of you and pleased for you.

Be free GlowWorm - Hope it all goes to plan for you Flowers

LemonBreeland · 07/02/2017 14:58

I have just come across this thread, and you are so strong. I wish you the best of luck for tomorrow and the rest of your future.

DoubleR · 07/02/2017 16:03

You are definitely doing the right thing getting away from this man OP, stay strong for yourself and your baby. Good luck tomorrow.

OutnumberedbyFurchesters · 07/02/2017 17:27

Having all my fingers crossed for you tomorrow. Enjoy seeing your baby, and take care until you get away. Idea to have keys dropped at office cor your friend to collect is a good one. Dont believe the nice guy lies, hes doing it to get his own way.

Your flight is at 21.30ish? I shall raise a glass in your honour then, to wish you well on your way. Wine

Will be thinking of you.

Snowkitty · 07/02/2017 17:52

Good luck tomorrow OP. Will be thinking of you - you're going to be a fabulous mum.

Dontjudgeme1 · 07/02/2017 17:59

Good luck Glowworm. Wishing you all the best for the future.

shakeyospeare · 07/02/2017 21:33

You are so strong! Thinking of you Flowers

BorisJohnsonsHair · 07/02/2017 21:49

Best of luck for tomorrow Glow. Make sure you keep us all updated. Flowers Smile

Underastormysky2 · 07/02/2017 22:11

Oh my dear, your courage and resolve is amazing.So many people will be inspired by you. Nearly there now, take care xx

MiscellaneousAssortment · 07/02/2017 22:23

Thinking of you glow, hope you're ok tomorrow. Find the strength to keep going, this is the tough bit before you find your happy ending :) but you won't get to the happy ever after if you get stuck in the nasty bit Flowers

Trethew · 07/02/2017 22:26

I'm worried about you leaving your car at your friend's place. It sort of indicates her involvement and she might get hassled by him. Could you not leave it somewhere neutral like a supermarket car park?

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 07/02/2017 23:34

Trethew I think OP said car was being left at friend's mothers for the very reason you said.

On tenterhooks here to hear that you are on the plane and free OP.

You have been brave and brilliant, all the very best wishes for your new, fabulous life.

startingtheengine · 07/02/2017 23:52

I've just seen your thread Glow and wanted to wish you good luck for tomorrow. You sound very together and determined and I hope it all goes well Flowers

FacelikeaBagofHammers · 07/02/2017 23:53

Glow, you are an amazing woman. I'm rooting for you and your baby. Safe trip and good riddance to that bastard.

seven201 · 08/02/2017 00:00

Well done Glow! Such a strong woman.

averylongtimeago · 08/02/2017 00:14

Safe journey, happy landings.

GwenStaceyRocks · 08/02/2017 00:22

I hope everything goes well Glow and you have a safe journey to your mum's. You are incredibly brave and you will have a wonderful life with your DC Flowers

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