DH drinks & drives - should I whistle blow?

[abbdabb]

... and if I do, can it be anonymous?

Don't know what to do, how much is too much?

DH can drink a large amount & not appear to be drunk. he then drives. I have told him he should take a taxi, he tells me he is OK to drive because he has had something to eat.

What are the limits? I, personally would not drive after having ANY alcohol - maybe I'm being a bit anal about the whole thing?

Lol AF of course you are entirely right about my personal circs.

Just for the record jade, two posters in agreement with you does not make you any more 'right' or indeed any more 'sane' ( i.e.: " to af and electra- if you weren't commenting I might be questioning my sanity by now!")

Glad you have resolved to report it OP

hmc, just for the record, I think you're confusing me with someone who cares. Anyone care to agree with hmc? No?

OP, hope you're clerer about what to do today.

what's your excuse then, if I am not correct in my assumptions, FITG ?

If you don't live together you don't know the full extent of his drinking

Report him. And...repeat until one way or another he stops risking killing people with a ton of metal.

Get support for you. Alanon or women's aid (I think he is abusing you and your children).

Post in relationships and people will help.

oh I didn't know I needed an excuse to disagree with the consensus on a thread AF. I thought I was free to express my opinion

I just wondered what your reason was for condoning drink driving FITG

Do you still feel the way you did, after reading all the thread, btw ?

Unless you are waiting for him to kill either himself or someone else

I agree absolutely with Snorbs.

And, the reason I brought up the background is because this is not even a situation where the man has one failing in an otherwise perfect marriage. Every single thing you've ever posted about him makes him sound like an utter shit, Abbdabb, and I'm pretty sure that's not your spin on it, because you're always surprised when the rest of us are horrified at his treatment of you. "Unusual home set-up" does not begin to cover how bad a husband and father this guy is.

You say on another thread that your DH is a dentist. So is he practising under the influence? I hope not, for his patients sake, but if he is, I think the GDC need to know.

gosh, that is strange

the only other dentist I "know" is an absolute cuntish twat too

OP has gorne AF, do you have an issue with dentists in general? maybe you'd like to talk about it?

I deal with fatal and serious car accidents on a daily basis, many are caused by drink and/or drugs. I'm so pleased you have decided to report him. I know it's difficult for you but it really is the right thing to do. Good luck OP x