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DH drinks & drives - should I whistle blow?

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abbdabb · 11/10/2011 21:38

... and if I do, can it be anonymous?

Don't know what to do, how much is too much?

DH can drink a large amount & not appear to be drunk. he then drives. I have told him he should take a taxi, he tells me he is OK to drive because he has had something to eat.

What are the limits? I, personally would not drive after having ANY alcohol - maybe I'm being a bit anal about the whole thing?

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FunnysInTheGarden · 11/10/2011 22:57

or even 4 glasses from midday to the evening with food is not a massive amount. Seems you want to report your DH rather then sort it out with him.

mrsm123 · 11/10/2011 22:58

www.alcoholics-anonymous.org.uk/

but before you read all this, hide your husbands keys so were all safe for now.
i feel for you, but i wouldnt if something bad happened. id be livid with you.
take care. x

ps if you cant handle all this on your own, tell his family too. if theyre decent
theyll support you and back you up in warning him. hell thank you when hes a sober living, happy man.

BertieBotts · 11/10/2011 22:58

999 is better if there is a crime in progress. So would be appropriate in this situation.

It won't make a difference to them knowing whether he does it regularly or not - they only have to catch him once.

If he drinks a bottle of wine every day, and then more when he comes home, then he has an alcohol problem. Sorry :(

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MidsomerM · 11/10/2011 22:58

I would ring the police and ask them what to do. I'm still confused about what jobs enable someone to drink all afternoon, although I appreciate that's not relevant!

BertieBotts · 11/10/2011 22:59

Funnys SHE HAS TRIED.

AnyPhantomFucker · 11/10/2011 22:59

FITG , you didn't read all the thread did you ?

OP give one of us his contact details, we will do the job for you, no problem

Then divorce the twat...he is going to ruin you all anyway, when he gets a conviction for manslaughter

make sure you are detached from him before that happens

what town do you live in and what time is he on the roads, I will be sure to keep my dc in and warn the local schools, old people's homes/cyclists/young mums pushing prams etc etc etc

cheers

Original poster
abbdabb · 11/10/2011 23:00

incognito - I am so very sorry, your post has made up my mind.

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incognitofornow · 11/10/2011 23:01

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FrightNight · 11/10/2011 23:01

69 posts, many of which are repeats/retorts.

Of that 69, 4 reference a drunk driving death.

Bikerunski gives sound practical advice to help you cope.

Many others support the real need to get your DH off the road.

I suggest you ponder this tonight and in the morning do something constructive.

MidsomerM · 11/10/2011 23:01

Please tell us where you are approximately, because this makes me nervous.

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abbdabb · 11/10/2011 23:02

funny - I have tried to sort it out with him.

he has said it is none of my business.

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GypsyMoth · 11/10/2011 23:03

I'm an ex police officer....... Report him

You don't want some of the things I've seen, on your conscience. Believe me

Bossybritches22 · 11/10/2011 23:03

Hang on abbdabb- which is it a couple of glasses with a meal or from midday-7pm??

Either way it is too much but I can't really see your dilemma, he has to be given a wake up call.

jade80 · 11/10/2011 23:04

''OK, a bottle of red (btwn 12 & 7pm)= 10 units, 2 meals ... is that over the limit? who do I phone? the local police station when he leaves to go home? obviously not 999, give his reg no - the drive is only 5mins - do I say he does it regularly?? what happens if he isn't over the limit?Phone every time???? I know when he gets home he drinks. He has a very distinctive car/number plate.''

A bottle over what length of time?

Phone the local non-emergency number.

Just phone once. They will put a marker on his car that flags it when he passes a police car. They may even wait for him.

FunnysInTheGarden · 11/10/2011 23:05

I have read the thread, and think you are all over reacting. A bottle of wine with food over 6 hours is not alcoholic behaviour, and he may not be over the limit. I think you all need to take a step back and think about what you are telling the op to do. Divorce, report her DH etc. How about considering the family as a whole.

MrsApplepants · 11/10/2011 23:06

Can I just ask, sorry if this is out of line, Are you afraid of what DH will do if he finds out you were the one to report him?

GypsyMoth · 11/10/2011 23:06

If he injures someone, he will be paying compensation, can you afford that?

If he kills someone, he will go to prison, can you afford to lose his wage?

AnyPhantomFucker · 11/10/2011 23:06

Deary me

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abbdabb · 11/10/2011 23:06

sorry, funny's post really wasn't that 'funny'.

we were driving towards a crossing, DH accelerated, a man had to jump out of the way. DH said he (man jumping out of way) was an idiot.

what do i do when dh wants to take dc's out after lunch - i say no, he say's I have OCD???

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incognitofornow · 11/10/2011 23:07

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FrightNight · 11/10/2011 23:07

Funny are you OP's DH?

jade80 · 11/10/2011 23:07

Funnys- in which case, if you're right, it doesn't matter. If he's not over the limit, he won't be done for it, so no problem.

GypsyMoth · 11/10/2011 23:07

Funnys...... How can you assume half a bottle isn't enough to fail a breathalyser? We all know people react differently, yet YOU know he is safe? Really?

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abbdabb · 11/10/2011 23:08

So ... is a bottle of wine from 12 noon ok??

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MidsomerM · 11/10/2011 23:09

No it isn't OK. Would you let him drive your children home at 7pm?