DH drinks & drives - should I whistle blow?

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... and if I do, can it be anonymous?

Don't know what to do, how much is too much?

DH can drink a large amount & not appear to be drunk. he then drives. I have told him he should take a taxi, he tells me he is OK to drive because he has had something to eat.

What are the limits? I, personally would not drive after having ANY alcohol - maybe I'm being a bit anal about the whole thing?

or even 4 glasses from midday to the evening with food is not a massive amount. Seems you want to report your DH rather then sort it out with him.

www.alcoholics-anonymous.org.uk/

but before you read all this, hide your husbands keys so were all safe for now.
i feel for you, but i wouldnt if something bad happened. id be livid with you.
take care. x

ps if you cant handle all this on your own, tell his family too. if theyre decent
theyll support you and back you up in warning him. hell thank you when hes a sober living, happy man.

999 is better if there is a crime in progress. So would be appropriate in this situation.

It won't make a difference to them knowing whether he does it regularly or not - they only have to catch him once.

If he drinks a bottle of wine every day, and then more when he comes home, then he has an alcohol problem. Sorry :(

I would ring the police and ask them what to do. I'm still confused about what jobs enable someone to drink all afternoon, although I appreciate that's not relevant!

Funnys SHE HAS TRIED.

FITG , you didn't read all the thread did you ?

OP give one of us his contact details, we will do the job for you, no problem

Then divorce the twat...he is going to ruin you all anyway, when he gets a conviction for manslaughter

make sure you are detached from him before that happens

what town do you live in and what time is he on the roads, I will be sure to keep my dc in and warn the local schools, old people's homes/cyclists/young mums pushing prams etc etc etc

cheers

incognito - I am so very sorry, your post has made up my mind.

69 posts, many of which are repeats/retorts.

Of that 69, 4 reference a drunk driving death.

Bikerunski gives sound practical advice to help you cope.

Many others support the real need to get your DH off the road.

I suggest you ponder this tonight and in the morning do something constructive.

Please tell us where you are approximately, because this makes me nervous.

funny - I have tried to sort it out with him.

he has said it is none of my business.

I'm an ex police officer....... Report him

You don't want some of the things I've seen, on your conscience. Believe me

Hang on abbdabb- which is it a couple of glasses with a meal or from midday-7pm??

Either way it is too much but I can't really see your dilemma, he has to be given a wake up call.

''OK, a bottle of red (btwn 12 & 7pm)= 10 units, 2 meals ... is that over the limit? who do I phone? the local police station when he leaves to go home? obviously not 999, give his reg no - the drive is only 5mins - do I say he does it regularly?? what happens if he isn't over the limit?Phone every time???? I know when he gets home he drinks. He has a very distinctive car/number plate.''

A bottle over what length of time?

Phone the local non-emergency number.

Just phone once. They will put a marker on his car that flags it when he passes a police car. They may even wait for him.

I have read the thread, and think you are all over reacting. A bottle of wine with food over 6 hours is not alcoholic behaviour, and he may not be over the limit. I think you all need to take a step back and think about what you are telling the op to do. Divorce, report her DH etc. How about considering the family as a whole.

Can I just ask, sorry if this is out of line, Are you afraid of what DH will do if he finds out you were the one to report him?

If he injures someone, he will be paying compensation, can you afford that?

If he kills someone, he will go to prison, can you afford to lose his wage?

Deary me

sorry, funny's post really wasn't that 'funny'.

we were driving towards a crossing, DH accelerated, a man had to jump out of the way. DH said he (man jumping out of way) was an idiot.

what do i do when dh wants to take dc's out after lunch - i say no, he say's I have OCD???

Funny are you OP's DH?

Funnys- in which case, if you're right, it doesn't matter. If he's not over the limit, he won't be done for it, so no problem.

Funnys...... How can you assume half a bottle isn't enough to fail a breathalyser? We all know people react differently, yet YOU know he is safe? Really?

So ... is a bottle of wine from 12 noon ok??

No it isn't OK. Would you let him drive your children home at 7pm?