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DH drinks & drives - should I whistle blow?

214 replies

abbdabb · 11/10/2011 21:38

... and if I do, can it be anonymous?

Don't know what to do, how much is too much?

DH can drink a large amount & not appear to be drunk. he then drives. I have told him he should take a taxi, he tells me he is OK to drive because he has had something to eat.

What are the limits? I, personally would not drive after having ANY alcohol - maybe I'm being a bit anal about the whole thing?

OP posts:
hmc · 11/10/2011 23:17

Askance at suggestion that is crossing a line

Bossybritches22 · 11/10/2011 23:17

Agreed Mrs M.....only going to get us all in a lather.

Abdabb you asked what we thought-we told you our POV.

Up to you to make that choice, before he kills someone.

Not saying it'll be easy but to me not a choice really.

lovingthecoast · 11/10/2011 23:17

IMO, he should lose his wife, kids, house, job and be tied naked to the lampost each day so people can throw things at him. I wouldn't send him to prison but rather make himn walk around wearing a notice telling the world what an absolute cunt he is.

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GypsyMoth · 11/10/2011 23:18

Op says red wine. Notmuch difference in abv and I've yet to see a cheap red as low as the crappy White wines about

electra · 11/10/2011 23:18

People would not post here if they thought the posts were not anonymous.

lovingthecoast · 11/10/2011 23:19

And that's the first time I have ever used that word on here in 8yrs of being on MN.

jade80 · 11/10/2011 23:19

E.g. bottle of red at 12% is 9 units
9% is 6.7 units per bottle.

jade80 · 11/10/2011 23:21

Well it is crossing a line, hmc. Where would you draw the line? Poster talking about her kid smoking pot? Get mn towers to send the police round?

mrsm123 · 11/10/2011 23:22

drinking on train in front of your child out of wine bottle in a desperate fashion?

YOUR HUSBAND HAS A DRINK PROBLEM!!!

grow up abbdabb!!

i better go, sorry.

hmc · 11/10/2011 23:22

Big yawn and henceforth ignores Electra

electra · 11/10/2011 23:22

Exactly, jade

jade80 · 11/10/2011 23:23

www.drinkaware.co.uk/tips-and-tools/drink-diary/

Try the unit calculator there to see the difference between red wines tiffany

electra · 11/10/2011 23:23

Mumsnet has definitely become nasty of late. Hmc why don't you get off your high horse and examine your own attitude problem?

AnyPhantomFucker · 11/10/2011 23:23

LTC have a hug...hope you are ok x

hmc · 11/10/2011 23:23

Let me see now smoking pot versus drink driving - hardly comparable !

jade80 · 11/10/2011 23:24

Sooo hmc I take it you've never posted about anything of a vaguely dubious nature? I'm guessing plenty here have, but sure as hell wouldn't have if they though they would be tracked down. There must be something in the privacy policy re. this.

lovingthecoast · 11/10/2011 23:25

Thanks, AF! Smile
I'm going to hide this thread now. It's not a good place for me to be.

GypsyMoth · 11/10/2011 23:26

And what us he drinking in secret op?

jade80 · 11/10/2011 23:26

No, hmc, but some would say pot smoking is terrible. And somewhere between the two lies a point where you would say 'yes, report'. Whether that is pot smoking, taking e, dealing pot, dealing e, dealing heroin.... somewhere is your personal limit. And I bet you won't find that everyone else has the same limit! Why ok to report some things and not others? Who gets to decide what is reported and what isn't?

AnyPhantomFucker · 11/10/2011 23:28

hmc with respect, it just couldn't work for MN Towers to inform the police of IP addresses etc (if that were even possible, I have no idea)

people with issues such as this would simply not post, and would continue to allow themselves to stick their head in the sand

so it's best that they can do it anonymously really, isn't it

hmc · 11/10/2011 23:29

This man is repeatedly putting people's lives at risk - that's my line and I care not one jot for confidentiality in these specific circumstances

gomummygo · 11/10/2011 23:29

Imo, most of the details are irrelevant.

YES you should report him.

Anonymously if you must but you must see that it has to be stopped.

The only real question is how you would live with yourself if you didn't, and he killed your child, or someone else's?

Unless you have an answer for that, there isn't really much choice, is there?

jade80 · 11/10/2011 23:30

Well fortunately for confidentiality, I don't think it's your call!

jade80 · 11/10/2011 23:31

I hope to goodness you don't work in a profession where sensitive information needs to be kept confidential! It isn't optional depending on your morals!

Bossybritches22 · 11/10/2011 23:32

Ahem coughs politely

I don't think this in-fighting is helping Abbdabb ladies?

I can't believe we're discussing the various levels of alcohol when he is driving his wife & babies around clearly over the limit regardless of units, and his wife is so brow-beaten she cannot see what to do?

You don't drink & drive...what's difficult about that?

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