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DH drinks & drives - should I whistle blow?

214 replies

abbdabb · 11/10/2011 21:38

... and if I do, can it be anonymous?

Don't know what to do, how much is too much?

DH can drink a large amount & not appear to be drunk. he then drives. I have told him he should take a taxi, he tells me he is OK to drive because he has had something to eat.

What are the limits? I, personally would not drive after having ANY alcohol - maybe I'm being a bit anal about the whole thing?

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jade80 · 11/10/2011 23:09

Till now? Yes, probably. It would be approx. 9-12 units, so would have cleared by now if drunk steadily from 12 noon till now. But when did he drive home from work?

AnyPhantomFucker · 11/10/2011 23:09

abb ignore FITG I assume that drink driving is socially acceptable in her circle

or that she has come from the 1950's in a time machine

or that she is currently condoning her own or her partner's criminal behaviour

or summat

take your pick

incognitofornow · 11/10/2011 23:10

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Bossybritches22 · 11/10/2011 23:10

FUNNYS READ THE WHOLE THREAD!!!

I'm sorry for shouting but really you cannnot wade in at this stage of the thread with sweeping statements like that if you haven't read all the OP's posts!

Regardless of whether or not the DH is an alcoholic a bottle of wine is going to impair judgement regardless of food.

She has children.

End of.

GypsyMoth · 11/10/2011 23:10

But you say he also drinks in secret?

A bottle is 6 units.

AnyPhantomFucker · 11/10/2011 23:11

abb on no account should you or your dc get in the car when he has been drinking ever again

if you do then you should consider yourself an aider and abbetter, ok ?

and you must stop him doing it...could you live with knowing what you know if (when) something awful happens ?

jade80 · 11/10/2011 23:11

Look, all this is irrelevant. If he's over the limit when stopped, then he's over the limit. If he isn't then he isn't. The OP has said her mind is made up to report him.

spiderlight · 11/10/2011 23:11

Please, please report him. My friend lost her brother, her fiance and her seven-year-old son in three separate accidents, all caused by drunk drivers.

jade80 · 11/10/2011 23:12

Tiffany, only pretty weak wine would be six units to a bottle.

lovingthecoast · 11/10/2011 23:12

FITG, how about the OP considers my family are how we are living daily with the devastation that a drunk driver caused us? Angry

hmc · 11/10/2011 23:12

I don't think it should be left to op's decision. Surely mm towers can trace who she is somehow (ip address) and notify the police ?

electra · 11/10/2011 23:12

Technically you should, but what will the impact be on your family if he can't drive?

The limit is actually quite high - 35 I think. So if he's not driving drunk then I would talk to him some more and remind him of his responsibilities. The police do randomly stop people a lot - it happened to me for virtually no reason.

hmc · 11/10/2011 23:13

Mm towers...

electra · 11/10/2011 23:14

Trace the ip address? What do you think this is 'NannyStateFascist Net'???

hmc · 11/10/2011 23:14

Still can't type it right - stupid iPad

jade80 · 11/10/2011 23:14

I think that would be seriously crossing the line hmc and hope they don't have the power to do that.

mrsm123 · 11/10/2011 23:14

FING - you really aren't paying attention. listen to the women herself (abbdabb)

she says he drinks a bottle of wine throughout his working day, then drives home and continues to drink. who does that?
its illegal! and to do it regularly makes you a problem drinker!

anyway, im beginning to get annoyed with the amount of times shes saying i dont know what to do then contradicting herself by slating her husband.

this is pointless.

goodnight folks.

hmc · 11/10/2011 23:15

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GypsyMoth · 11/10/2011 23:15

Weak wine jade?? No, it doesn't work like that. I'm talking a 75cl bottle using pub measures. Obviously your own glasses take differing amounts

LaurieFairyCake · 11/10/2011 23:16

Your problem is not the alcohol, he may or may not drink alcoholically.

He may or may not be driving over the limit.

What matters is that you're married to a bullying wanker who says you have OCD when you say don't take the children in the car, you've been drinking.

If you don't want the children to be taken out with someone who may be drunk then you need to make that the issue.

jade80 · 11/10/2011 23:16

Uh, yes it does. Wine have different % abv.

GypsyMoth · 11/10/2011 23:16

Think tracing is crossing the line too

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abbdabb · 11/10/2011 23:16

I think I've been programmed to underplay how much he drinks - a bottle btwn 12 - 7pm & probably more. and there was the incident on the train with Dc - he had to drink wine out of the bottle (I wasn't there) because he didn't have a glass and to quote DC he was 'desperate' - is that normal?? I don't think so

DH doesn't know that i know about this - I want DS to be able to talk in confidence to me.

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jade80 · 11/10/2011 23:16

Look on the side of any wine bottle...

electra · 11/10/2011 23:17

oh, you sound lovely hmc - try to remember personal attacks are not allowed there's a dear

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