I'm a virgin and celibate by choice - ask me anything

[Vampirette]

As the title says, I'm a (very much adult) virgin who has chosen celibacy as a way of life for various reasons. If that's something anyone might be curious about, feel free to ask questions.

Some info about me that might be relevant to keep in mind (because I know there are a lot of negative stigma and stereotypes about adult virgins):

• I'm heterosexual (woman attracted to only men)
• Yes, I'm religious - but no, my religion is not the reason why I have chosen celibacy (as it actually very much discourages it!)
• I live in a European country I'm not native to. I originate from a Slavic country
• I'm not asexual, or lack sexual drive in any way. On the contrary, I have an extremely high sex drive
• I don't suffer from any mental or physical illnesses or disabilities that prevent me from physical intimacy. I'm in fact a very tactile person who loves to be close to people
• I'm not neurodivergent, shy, autistic, or anything else similar
• I don't have low self-esteem. Quite the opposite...
• I lead a very normal life. I have a family, friends, I went to Uni, have a great job, get on great with everyone I come across, I have lots of hobbies, and I spend a lot of my time travelling
• I don't have any issue with attracting men. Men do show a lot of interest in me, so my celibacy also does not come down to not having options

I just turned 38 this summer.

Sounds like some sort of failure to fly…
No love, no sex, still living with parents yet a superiority complex. Boring - life is for living

Not really. First and foremost, I'm more concerned with other factors. But assuming I'm with the perfect guy, and the sex is bad...I believe it's something that can be helped and improved upon. I would also never marry someone before having a serious discussion with them about sex, boundaries, and generally work out how easy-going and open they are about sex, intimacy and working on problems.

Thank you!

That’s rude. Op doesn’t sound bored at all, quite the opposite & why is she only living her life if it’s the same as yours?

No, also oral and anal is also sex in my world.

Not sure how old you are, are you also looking to marry a virgin ?

How easy is it to really get to know a man without being intimate and knowing whether he has the 'goods'. It takes a while to get to know somebody and to know whether they are marriage material, how long would you expect to date before marrying ?

I'm afraid that he may not live up to expectations, having been so happy by yourself for how many years. But I suppose some people develop what they've committed to and work through the 'short falls', right ?

So mutual masturbation is ok?

Do you ever feel lonely or question your decision?

Why do you prefer to be referred to as a virgin? When does this ever come up in day to day life and also everyone is a virgin until they aren't lol so all you are doing is waiting for the right man then this title that you seem weirdly proud of will be irrelevant. Bit confused about the bit where you say as a virgin you enjoy sex. There is a lot of emphasis on the sex before marriage and how it's not something you agree with and that is completely fine but it does sound like you think being a virgin somehow makes you better than others that are not virgins. I dunno lol I'm just confused because why do you think people would feel the need to ask you anything about something that isn't an issue lol you are just someone who hasn't met someone yet and not had sex. Will you come back when you meet someone and let us all ask you questions about your new lifestyle that involves sex. I thought I was gonna be reading a really thoughtful post about someone who has chosen to live this way for some deep and meaningful reason lol not that you just haven't met anyone yet.
Sorry if this is coming across as being bitchy because that's not my intention at all lol I just don't see the point. Hope you live a happy life though whatever happens

Call me old fashioned, but I wouldn't be entering into a marriage as a virgin and expect anal sex.

Why don't you believe in pre-marital sex?

What's your longest relationship been?

I'm 38. And yes, I'd like to marry someone who's a virgin, too. I see past relationships - casual or serious - as bagage, and I don't want that in my life.

I think we have very different definitions of "getting to know". It's more important for me to know that a man is a good partner in the things that really matter. Sex matters, too, but it's one of those things that can be improved upon if you are with someone who's open-minded and communicative. Which is something you can absolutely find out about a person without having to sleep with them.

No, I don't believe in ANY physical intimacy before marriage. Not just sex.

Do you want to have children?

I wish you all the best, and hope you end up experiencing a full life and can enjoy everything adults can healthily enjoy.

From what you've written, personally I don't think sex is what your AMA is really about.

No worries, I'm a very open person, actually.

I know I have a high sex drive, because I have / feel desires, urges and fantasies. I know my body, and I know what it responds to in terms of feeling turned on and off.

Have you had any kind of sexual experience with a man? I’m a bit confused by your high sex drive and enjoying sex as a virgin.

I am also voluntarily celibate and plan on being for the rest of my life but I’ve had a lot of sex in the past so I feel I’ve been there, done that. Do you ever wish you’d just done it when you were younger?

Have you ever kissed a man?

Good luck to you, but I find some of your attitudes strange. You have a very high sex drive but you e never had sex. You will only consider marrying a man if he meets your very high standards and consider anal sex fine, though you’ve never experienced it. You’re approaching the age when having children will be off the table and live with your parents.
None of that sounds healthy or well adjusted to me. You’re very happy and have a full life, but you’re posting on here about being a virgin . Odd.

Have you ever kissed a man?

When you masturbate, do you use porn?