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I am asexual - AMA!
YouAreNotBatman · 27/02/2023 15:49
Hello!👋🏻
Feel free to ask me questions.
AnneLovesGilbert · 27/02/2023 15:50
This really has been done to death on the off chance you haven’t seen the many previous threads.
Mummysgogetter · 27/02/2023 15:51
Do you get crushes on people? Like for example, I’m definitely not asexual and I get crushes on people where I feel adrenaline, butterflies etc.
JPG21 · 27/02/2023 15:52
I don't want to be mean but we all know, it's been done to death 🤷🙄
YouAreNotBatman · 27/02/2023 16:03
This really has been done to death on the off chance you haven’t seen the many previous threads.
Oh, I didn’t know.
Do you get crushes on people? Like for example, I’m definitely not asexual and I get crushes on people where I feel adrenaline, butterflies etc.
I do, not sexual, but romantic crushes - yes!
I don't want to be mean but we all know, it's been done to death 🤷🙄
Again, I didn’t know.
Tbh, I’m suprised to hear there has been so many asexuals making threads here, so much so it need eye rolling.
But I’ll try to find them and have a little look.
Do you have children?
No.
XenoBitch · 27/02/2023 20:05
How do you feel about asexuality being part of the LGBTQIA+ thing?
YouAreNotBatman · 28/02/2023 04:59
XenoBitch · 27/02/2023 20:05
How do you feel about asexuality being part of the LGBTQIA+ thing?
I think it’s a good thing.
Asexuality is still about sexual attraction, granted about lack there off, so it’s oitside of heterosexual normalcy.
And having information is so important when you’re young and confused why you don’t feel and work like everyone else does.
I would have been much happier, sooner, had I’ve known that there is nothing wrong with me and that I’m not broken.
Many other asexuals have said pretty similar things.
Vegrocks · 28/02/2023 06:12
I can’t understand how you can define yourself of asexual when surely all it means is that you haven’t met anyone that makes you think otherwise?
I haven’t had sex for 5 years following my divorce and, despite enjoying sex for 20 years previous to this 5 years, I haven’t missed sex in the slightest. I haven’t once yearned for it despite also have a crush on a hothouse new guy in another department! But I would but describe myself as asexual because… who knows what lies around the corner for me
DrHousecuredme · 28/02/2023 06:45
I suppose following on from @Vegrocks comment with a question.
Do you consider being asexual to be fixed or are you open to the possibility that you might just meet somebody who changes that?
DrHousecuredme · 28/02/2023 06:47
JPG21 · 27/02/2023 15:52
I don't want to be mean but we all know, it's been done to death 🤷🙄
You absolutely did want to be mean though didn't you?
Otherwise you would have just kept scrolling and left the eye rolly faces at home.
YouAreNotBatman · 28/02/2023 07:07
Vegrocks · 28/02/2023 06:12
I can’t understand how you can define yourself of asexual when surely all it means is that you haven’t met anyone that makes you think otherwise?
I haven’t had sex for 5 years following my divorce and, despite enjoying sex for 20 years previous to this 5 years, I haven’t missed sex in the slightest. I haven’t once yearned for it despite also have a crush on a hothouse new guy in another department! But I would but describe myself as asexual because… who knows what lies around the corner for me
Well, if you have felt sexual attraction in the past, you wouldn’t be asexual.
I don’t believe in ’met a person’ type of thing, but even if did, you’d think it would have happen by now😇
So, since never felt sexually attraction, it’s pretty safe to say I am ace.
YouAreNotBatman · 28/02/2023 07:09
Do you consider being asexual to be fixed or are you open to the possibility that you might just meet somebody who changes that?
What do you mean ’fixed’ @DrHousecuredme
Corrective rape?
Absolutely not.
And I don’t believe in ’meeting someone’, met a lot of people, none has ever made me want to have sex with them.
PegasusReturns · 28/02/2023 07:10
I’m curious why you’d think people would be interested?
there seems to be a massive trend towards labelling and identifying every character trait in some way. Why do you think it matters?
Vegrocks · 28/02/2023 07:13
So, since never felt sexually attraction, it’s pretty safe to say I am ace.
how old are you?
Vegrocks · 28/02/2023 07:13
In any event, fact you haven’t in the past, means very little when it comes to sexual attraction
PermanentTemporary · 28/02/2023 07:16
I think she meant fixed as in 'has and will always be that way'.
I've read about asexuals who have and enjoy sex. That massively confused me. Is that something you have come across in other ace people you know?
YouAreNotBatman · 28/02/2023 07:18
PegasusReturns · 28/02/2023 07:10
I’m curious why you’d think people would be interested?
there seems to be a massive trend towards labelling and identifying every character trait in some way. Why do you think it matters?
Because this is AMA, there is a swimming techer and wedding photographers etc right on the fron page, did they also get this kind of welcoming?
People talk about their dating, about their partners - in general, not on this thread/perhaps page, but it’s part of life.
Would it be polite to tell them ’who cares, why do you think it matters’?
Why shouldn’t I talk about mine, why are you upset I was opened to answering questions?
And it’s not a trend, not to all of us.
It’s a word to help getting info about ourselves, it’s not our whole life, but considering how our society is, it’s helpul.
YouAreNotBatman · 28/02/2023 07:18
Vegrocks · 28/02/2023 07:13
So, since never felt sexually attraction, it’s pretty safe to say I am ace.
how old are you?
36.
So you’d really think it would have happened by now!
DrHousecuredme · 28/02/2023 07:19
YouAreNotBatman · 28/02/2023 07:09
Do you consider being asexual to be fixed or are you open to the possibility that you might just meet somebody who changes that?
What do you mean ’fixed’ @DrHousecuredme
Corrective rape?
Absolutely not.
And I don’t believe in ’meeting someone’, met a lot of people, none has ever made me want to have sex with them.
"Corrective rape" ??
I don't believe there's anything in my post that suggests that, no.
What I mean is, I'd consider myself a lesbian but I also consider that sexuality is somewhat fluid and depends on a collection of circumstances and relationships at any one time in our lives.
So, although I'm same sex attracted I wouldn't 💯 rule out being attracted to a man at some point in the future. The chance is very slim but not zero.
So my question is the same really. Do you believe that asexuality is absolute or do you think there's any possibility that would change?
Also, second question...are you happy to be asexual? If you could choose your sexuality is this something you would still choose?
(I have chosen to be single for 9 years and bloody love the lack of drama so I can see being asexual has plenty to recommend it )
YouAreNotBatman · 28/02/2023 07:22
PermanentTemporary · 28/02/2023 07:16
I think she meant fixed as in 'has and will always be that way'.
I've read about asexuals who have and enjoy sex. That massively confused me. Is that something you have come across in other ace people you know?
Ah, okey, well I don’t think there really is anything to fix, and other than forcing myself, not much to do anyway.
When I was younger I did try to force myself to like someone, but it just doesn’t work like that. It’s not a choice.
I am aware there are asexual who have and want sex, I do not understand them.
And I don’t like how they have taken over asexual spaces and make it sound most of us can and should have sex.
I think they do more harm than good.
Barelyable · 28/02/2023 07:24
@AnneLovesGilbert is it beyond the realms of your imagination to understand that not EVERYONE has seen them, OTHER people are interested and you CAN scroll by. Or are you someone who can only see things from your perspective?
Radical0nion · 28/02/2023 07:26
Are you autistic? I only ask because my friend who is autistic says they are also asexual and that it is quite common for autistic people to also be asexual.
I hope that comes across kindly.
CiraAce · 28/02/2023 07:27
Hello from a fellow ace! (Also sex-repulsed.) Have you managed to find any close ace friends in real life? I have been to several ace meetups but was put off by the fact that most of the attendees were actually not asexual (many claimed to be demi/grey-sexual which is NOT asexual!). Also they all seemed to be keen on gender ideology and pronouns and that was a huge red flag.
YouAreNotBatman · 28/02/2023 07:27
@DrHousecuredme
Yes, someone else cleared it, I misunderstood, since I can’t think of a way to ’fix’ this.
Your post made me think, and I can be kind of a person who does think in absolutes, I guess.
But also long life experience has kind of shown me by now that this isin’t going to change.
Being asexual is fine.
Living in a world that caters to sexual people and how there is strong message that you will have to have sex and must love it is exhausting.
I wish ot was more ’allowed’ to be who you are.
That all been said.
If I had to do life again, I would absolutely come back as allo (person who feels sexual attraction)
I wouldn’t want to feel this lonely and isolated ever again.
Sharktopus · 28/02/2023 07:30
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