My ex partner is a big time drug dealer

[ebsmahogany]

NC of course.

This was before I had my DC. He has a daughter who we had the majority of the time.

I should have put *was a big time drug dealer. He isn't anymore.

What drugs did he deal? Did you feel unsafe? Why did he stop? Did you have a nice lifestyle?

@Mooey89

What drugs did he deal? Did you feel unsafe? Why did he stop? Did you have a nice lifestyle?

Mainly crack cocaine and heroin but was involved in selling some weed and cocaine too.

I never felt unsafe until the last few months of our relationship.

We had a really nice lifestyle. Probably a nicer lifestyle than I'll ever have again.

How did you square it with yourself morally? I don’t mean that in a judgemental way, but heroin and crack?

Did he launder the money and if so how?

How many steps away from the "street dealers" was he?

How much did your friends and family know about what he did?

For the record I'm not lookimg for money laundering tips . Just curious. I know in Breaking Bad they used a car wash for it.

How would you define big ?

@Mooey89

How did you square it with yourself morally? I don’t mean that in a judgemental way, but heroin and crack?

I was extremely selfish. I would often think about how morally wrong it was but I didn't care enough.

@NoDabbingPlease

Did he launder the money and if so how?

How many steps away from the "street dealers" was he?

Yes, he owned four small takeaway businesses, so the money was cleaned that way.

@NoDabbingPlease

Did he launder the money and if so how?

How many steps away from the "street dealers" was he?

Sorry, I forgot to say he was a good few steps away. There is absolutely no way he would ever be on the streets selling drugs himself.

@PheasantFeathers

How much did your friends and family know about what he did?

Almost all my friends knew, my sister knew but my parents did not. They know now though.

He was very well known in our area so I couldn't have kept it a secret from my friends even if I wanted to.

How nice was your lifestyle? Did you have a big house/flashy cars etc? Did any family members get suspicious how you lived that lifestyle?

Why did you split up?

How did he get into that line of 'work'?

Did he get caught? What made him stop? Does he have a normal job now?

@Hawkins001

How would you define big ?

Laundering money, living a very comfortable lifestyle, well respected in the "game". He would rarely handle the drugs himself and had lots of people working for him.

Are/were you and he drug users?

@Cheesybiscuitsmineallmine

How nice was your lifestyle? Did you have a big house/flashy cars etc? Did any family members get suspicious how you lived that lifestyle?

We lived in a four bed in a gated community, we both drove a nice car each. No super cars, but nice cars.

My family never expressed any suspicions, however my dad now says that he always wondered. We told them he was a business owner and exaggerated his success in that field.

@BiscuitsUnited

Why did you split up?

How did he get into that line of 'work'?

He went to prison and I know he will probably come out and do the same thing. The lifestyle wasn't for me anymore but he has no intention of ever stopping.

His dad sold drugs too but on a smaller scale, he started off selling weed in a small area and it grew from there. Making friends with other drug dealers is what escalated it.

How did you have a “really nice” lifestyle while you knew where the money came from? As in ruin lives.

@FloorLamp

Did he get caught? What made him stop? Does he have a normal job now?

Yes, he got caught. He's still in prison.

@piglet81

Are/were you and he drug users?

I was a drug user at one point, he took drugs recreationally before we were together but never took drugs whilst we were together.

@AdoraBell

How did you have a “really nice” lifestyle while you knew where the money came from? As in ruin lives.

"Really nice" in terms of being financially comfortable with nice, material things. It was morally wrong and I feel guilty now, I did at the time.

Did you know what he did when you got together with him, or was it a slow realisation, or did you find out?

How old were you at the time? How come you weren't in trouble with the police too as you knew what he was doing?