AMA
I used to be a sex worker, ask me anything
FeminismIsForALLWomen · 09/10/2020 20:08
For 12 years I worked as an escort, I also did occasional phone & cam work. I varied between working full time and part time, but around half was full time and the other half part time.
I've been put off doing one of these because of how they usually go but I'm always banging on about people making assumptions about sex workers and accepting stereotypes about us so I might as well.
To be clear, this is a thread for people who want to ask questions, not for people who just want to make a point about sex work or sex workers.
Anyway, if anybody cares...ask away 
Mxflamingnoravera · 09/10/2020 20:36
All the blokes I've met who admit to using sex workers tell me that they were "different from the other clients" and that the women they met would ask for their number to meet "as friends" is this likely to be true or were they just suckers, lying or being played do you think?
FeminismIsForALLWomen · 09/10/2020 20:36
Did it ever feel 'wrong' and/or upsetting to have to do this for a living or were you mostly able to adopt an it is what it is and I've got to pay the bills approach to your job?
I've never felt wrong doing sex work, and I'm not ashamed of it. It was a job to me. I appreciate it wouldn't be just a job to most people, but it was to me.
CringeInwardly · 09/10/2020 20:37
Hi, another former escort here waves
Hope my question is ok, given that I'm from the same background and all.
Have you ever had problems with clients becoming stalkers? I was in the business for 4 years and had this happen twice. It was frightening.
If yes, how did you get rid?
FeminismIsForALLWomen · 09/10/2020 20:41
Were the men mostly awful?
Actually no, but it depends what type of work you're doing. Agency clients were the worst for me. Brothel were ok. Independent were by far the best but when you're taking your own bookings you can screen out the dregs.
There's a big difference in the type of client who will seek out a sex worker with someone taking bookings for her, and one who will seek out an independent.
FeminismIsForALLWomen · 09/10/2020 20:55
If a bloke was stinking would you decline his offer
Depends how bad it was. I'd often have men come after work a bit whiffy and if they were happy to shower I'd be happy to see them. If they weren't happy to shower or were really bad smelling I wouldn't. I have a gag reflex like everyone else!
FeminismIsForALLWomen · 09/10/2020 21:03
What is your brutally honest opinion of most men having done this type of work?
Firstly, there is more than one type of man who pays for sex. A man who goes to an agency or a brothel with no regard of whether someone is working consensually is a different customer from a man who books with an independent.
It's such a diverse situation that there's no one answer.
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