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I used to be a sex worker, ask me anything
FeminismIsForALLWomen · 09/10/2020 20:08
For 12 years I worked as an escort, I also did occasional phone & cam work. I varied between working full time and part time, but around half was full time and the other half part time.
I've been put off doing one of these because of how they usually go but I'm always banging on about people making assumptions about sex workers and accepting stereotypes about us so I might as well.
To be clear, this is a thread for people who want to ask questions, not for people who just want to make a point about sex work or sex workers.
Anyway, if anybody cares...ask away 
FeminismIsForALLWomen · 09/10/2020 23:53
What do you think we can do to stop sex trafficking?
Amnesty international & the world health organisation are two of a lot of orgs that support decriminalisation of sex work as an approach to tackle trafficking.
It's significantly more difficult to address sex trafficking than it is other forms of trafficking because of the hidden nature of the industry, which is driven by criminalisation and stigma.
If you want to address trafficking you need to support the destigmatization and decriminalisation of sex workers.
feministfemme · 09/10/2020 23:55
@JKRforPM Er, education I suppose? Providing it's not a troll, it's always good to hear some examples of first-hand experience before making your mind up on the morality of something (though that's just my personal belief). I guess it also gets out some of the more inappropriate questions that you feel more comfortable asking on an anonymous forum?
Heffalooomia · 09/10/2020 23:59
@JKRforPM
Yeah ok, let’s see all of you sucking off the next 10 random men you see for some cash and let’s talk about how “normal” it is.
The recent trend to try and normalise prostitution is fucking terrifying.
there is nothing wrong with expressing your opinion but I feel it is unnecessary to be abusive towards OP, if she can be civil can't you try and control yourself a bit more?
FeminismIsForALLWomen · 09/10/2020 23:59
Has a client ever become violent/forceful because you rejected (if you have) doing something they wanted?
Physically forceful, fortunately no. As an independent I was able to enforce that boundary most of the time before we met, and in brothel work there was usually security which was enough to keep them in line when I said no.
Also have you felt judged by friends/family or anyone else about being a SW?
Yes, one absolute diamond outed me to my family, see previous answer.
Finally what's the most challenging thing about your job.
People treating me as if I'm less than human, and I'm not even talking about clients.
Heffalooomia · 10/10/2020 00:10
You mentioned before that you don't like the stigma but you like the free time
Isn't that a bit like a drug dealer saying they like the free time but they don't like having to run from the law all the time, drug dealing is lucrative precisely because it's illegal
the reason you can command a high fee (and therefore not have to work many hours) is directly linked to the taboo nature of this line of work, definitely not saying that you deserve to be stigmatized, I do not personally judge you, but there is a link.
FeminismIsForALLWomen · 10/10/2020 00:10
What the fuck is this thread supposed to provide ? The idea that “sex work” is perfectly normal and ok?
There's nothing wrong with sex work or sex workers.
Yeah ok, let’s see all of you sucking off the next 10 random men you see for some cash and let’s talk about how “normal” it is.
Just because someone supports sex workers, it doesn't mean they have to do sex work themselves or even like that sex work exists.
The recent trend to try and normalise prostitution is fucking terrifying.
I find the violence on sex workers as a result of stigma more terrifying, but I suppose you'll never have to deal with that if you pretend we're not like you.
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FeminismIsForALLWomen · 10/10/2020 00:16
Being independent seems to be a very key thing?
For me it was, but I know other workers who feel much more comfortable and much safer in a brothel environment. I know workers who swear by working for an agency even though I hated it.
It's a unique job and there's really no right or wrong way of doing it, it's as individual as the worker.
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