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AMA

I used to be a sex worker, ask me anything

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FeminismIsForALLWomen · 09/10/2020 20:08

For 12 years I worked as an escort, I also did occasional phone & cam work. I varied between working full time and part time, but around half was full time and the other half part time.

I've been put off doing one of these because of how they usually go but I'm always banging on about people making assumptions about sex workers and accepting stereotypes about us so I might as well.

To be clear, this is a thread for people who want to ask questions, not for people who just want to make a point about sex work or sex workers.

Anyway, if anybody cares...ask away

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LyingDogsLie1 · 09/10/2020 20:11

Did you suffer with UTI’s?

AllsortsofAwkward · 09/10/2020 20:13

Whats the oldest client you had?

DilemmaDerby · 09/10/2020 20:15

Did you consider that the work made men believe a woman’s body can have a value attached to it?

FeminismIsForALLWomen · 09/10/2020 20:15

Did you suffer with UTI’s?

Not while working, no. I've it ever had one though (thank fuck).

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LaurieFairyCake · 09/10/2020 20:15

How did you keep yourself as safe from harm as possible ?

FeckOffCup1 · 09/10/2020 20:16

She did you stop working OP? I was an escort for a few years around 2005ish when it was mostly agency work. Did AW massively change how things worked? I imagine a lot more girls work independently now and I’m curious how that works in terms of safety compared to having an agency.

NancyBotwinBloom · 09/10/2020 20:16

What was the strangest thing you've ever been asked to do?

Purplewithred · 09/10/2020 20:17

So by escort do you mean you had penetrative sex with your clients?

Fancyateapottea · 09/10/2020 20:18

What was the most common thing men asked for?

FeminismIsForALLWomen · 09/10/2020 20:19

Did you consider that the work made men believe a woman’s body can have a value attached to it?

No, because I didn't sell my body. I sold sexual services, but there are plenty of services which can be bought but also can be free.

If people continue with the idea that sex workers sell their bodies then honestly I think this has a more more detrimental effect on women because our 'value' as humans shouldn't have any connection to what we choose to do sexually.

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TheVanguardSix · 09/10/2020 20:20

Did it ever feel 'wrong' and/or upsetting to have to do this for a living or were you mostly able to adopt an it is what it is and I've got to pay the bills approach to your job?

HP2020 · 09/10/2020 20:21

Did it pay well

EdwardCullensBiteOnTheSide · 09/10/2020 20:21

Were the men mostly awful?

GoogleWhacked · 09/10/2020 20:21

Why did you start and why did you decide to stop?

HP2020 · 09/10/2020 20:21

Why did u stop doing it

FeminismIsForALLWomen · 09/10/2020 20:21

Whats the oldest client you had?

I actually have no idea! The oldest they admitted to was 86 though to the best of my memory.

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DameFanny · 09/10/2020 20:21

How did you get into sex work OP?

Kittykat93 · 09/10/2020 20:24

Did you ever enjoy it?

MiddleClassProblem · 09/10/2020 20:26

Which kind of work did you prefer? Escort/phone/cam etc

FeminismIsForALLWomen · 09/10/2020 20:27

How did you keep yourself as safe from harm as possible ?

There are a few ways to tell who's going to push boundaries or otherwise cause harm, but I'm not going to go into details on a public forum. I do recognise your username from olden times though so if you like I'll send a DM with what I used to do. These days there are apps and reporting services too which is a godsend.

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Emeraldshamrock · 09/10/2020 20:30

If a bloke was stinking would you decline his offer.

MadameTuffington · 09/10/2020 20:30

What is your brutally honest opinion of most men having done this type of work?

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FeminismIsForALLWomen · 09/10/2020 20:31

She did you stop working OP? I was an escort for a few years around 2005ish when it was mostly agency work. Did AW massively change how things worked? I imagine a lot more girls work independently now and I’m curious how that works in terms of safety compared to having an agency.

I stopped in March because of the pandemic, initially temporarily but I don't think it's likely to be that temporary and I don't like to not be working so I started other work in June.

I did agency work when I first started, absolutely hated it! Independent work was much better for me, in terms of safety I find it much better because I found agencies don't actually bother with it much at all.

AW was a game changer for a couple of years but not so much anymore.

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FeminismIsForALLWomen · 09/10/2020 20:32

What was the strangest thing you've ever been asked to do?

An ignore fetish. Only once in 12 years but it was surprisingly difficult!

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FeminismIsForALLWomen · 09/10/2020 20:33

So by escort do you mean you had penetrative sex with your clients?

Yes.

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