I stayed with my DH after his long term affair.

[Fochit]

AMA.

Hoping this may help others 😊

Why did you stay? Can you trust him?

How long has it been post-affair?

That’s a lot of betrayal to swallow.

Years and years of abject betrayal.

Why do you think he deserves forgiveness?

Have you been together a very long time beforehand?

How do you learn to trust again? Do you have an practical and emotional tips that worked for you?

I stayed because I felt that leaving could be the biggest mistake of my life.

No, I don’t trust him 100%, but I would never ever trust anyone 100% ever again.

5 years

Why didn't you tell him to fuck off with his OW?

Because despite what happened, I didn’t think he deserved to lose everything.

We have been together 25 years.

I stayed because I felt that leaving could be the biggest mistake of my life

Leaving what? Him or the life you had?

Did he tell you about the affair or did you discover it?

What is the everything he’d have lost? Didn’t you feel that he’d made his choices by betraying you?

Did he love her? Did you know her? What were his reasons for doing it?

Why didn’t he deserve to lose everything? You’ve lost the ability to ever trust anyone, ever again.

Which means he has damaged your soul.

But you didn’t want him to have to deal with thw reality of what he did?

Practical tips?
To live my best life.
To focus on me.
I will never be on the same position I was before.
I’m stronger, wiser, knowledge is power

You don’t think he deserved to lose everything. What about what you deserve?

Why did you think leaving him would be a big mistake? Tbh I'm guessing it's because your lifestyle would have to change.

I will never leave my husband if he is having an affair...🙄

So many questions!

I didn’t tell him to fuck off because I wanted him and he didn’t want the OW

Why did you want him?

Is there a financial reason you didn’t leave?

Thanks for the practical tips. What about the trust? Has your lifestyle changed much? I presume he had enough time alone to have this affair so is that now limited?

What help are you hoping this thread will give people?

Long term = ???

How involved was he with the OW? Were they 'in luv'... Was he at any time considering leaving you?

Would you do it again.... any regrets?

Or he told you he didn’t want her...

Do you feel judged for staying?

If he didn’t want the OW why was he having an affair with her?

Do you mean he didn't want her any more?