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Retired lap dancer- ask me anything
yourprivatedancerEX · 26/06/2018 05:30
It’s not something I tell new people I meet that for 10 years I used to be a very successful lap dancer. I have a very different career now but often reminisce about my secret lap dancing past, always with fond memories!
I think it’s still something that is frowned upon by many and in my view I think that’s largely down to being misunderstood. So if any of you have any questions I will answer them and hopefully give you some interesting insight into the secret world of lap dancing! Ask away.
yourprivatedancerEX · 26/06/2018 05:34
No not in any of the clubs I’ve ever worked at (and I’ve worked at lots both in the uk and abroad) if any girl was ever found to be offering more they were immediately sacked- it was very strict.
waterlego6064 · 26/06/2018 05:44
What’s the pension like?
If my daughter wants to pursue a career in this field, what advice would you give?
AndhowcouldIeverrefuse · 26/06/2018 05:45
Is it very physically demanding? Did you ever get injured?
TIA
yourprivatedancerEX · 26/06/2018 05:46
Ha no tips for blisters unfortunately! One of the risks of the job! Although proper dancing shoes (those ones with the big platform) are comfier than they look so much better for avoiding blisters than regular heeled shoes!
mrsshelby44 · 26/06/2018 05:46
How much money did you make per week and in total? What did you do with it all? Did you have a boyfriend what did he think?
yourprivatedancerEX · 26/06/2018 05:49
Waterlego even though you are being intentionally goady I won’t rise and will answer your question anyway.
Of course there is no pension and it is never intended to be a long term career. I would advise your daughter to pursue whatever makes her happy in life, whether that was dancing, medical school, travelling or whatever. As long as it makes you happy and doesn’t hurt anyone then go for it :)
yourprivatedancerEX · 26/06/2018 05:51
It was physically demanding yes. You needed to be quite fit to do it as the pole work was very hard, and on top of that you would be on your feet dancing for between 8-11 hours a night so you would definitely feel the burn then next day!
I never got injured apart from bruises from the pole work, and if anything I would say I was at my absolute fittest back then, due to the constant exercise.
yourprivatedancerEX · 26/06/2018 05:54
Mrsshelby the money varied depending on the time of year for eg January was typically very quiet but the run up to Xmas was amazing.
I’d say an average night I would earn about £300 but many nights I came out with over £1000. The most I made in one night was £2500.
I didn’t have a boyfriend at the time- I was young free and single but I wouldn’t have got with anyone that didn’t respect my choices anyway.
LanguidLobster · 26/06/2018 05:54
What did you do when you left and what motivated you to leave?
yourprivatedancerEX · 26/06/2018 05:59
Lobster I left because I had been doing it from age 19 through to 27 and as much I enjoyed the job and the lifestyle I knew it wasn’t going to provide me a long term career so I went into sales after that and then later used some of the money I made to get qualified in coaching and training.
Cupoteap · 26/06/2018 06:01
Would you date or marry a guy who had been to lap dancing clubs?
LanguidLobster · 26/06/2018 06:02
What did you put on your CV? 
Do you judge people who judge you for your former career?
bumblingbovine49 · 26/06/2018 06:07
What were the clubs like as employers?
What is your favourite memory from the job?
What is your worst memory?
Would you mind now if your DP regularly visited lap dancing bars?
ArsenalsPlayingAtHome · 26/06/2018 06:08
Love this thread - place-marking as all my questions have already been answered.
LanguidLobster · 26/06/2018 06:09
Arsenals I like it too!
I may get a coffee and settle in
TaytoAllDay · 26/06/2018 06:09
This is so interesting! I always envied the girls who did it and earned so much money. Wish I had the guts to do it years ago. I just did general promo stuff though, which I absolutely loved.
Did you find it hard dealing with guys who tried to go too far?
I honestly feel in this day and age you can be anything and people are less judgey. I wouldn't care if my younger sisters did it because the money is fab.
TaytoAllDay · 26/06/2018 06:10
Were there places you would never work that were known for not being as good to you?
findthegap · 26/06/2018 06:15
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yourprivatedancerEX · 26/06/2018 06:15
Cupoteap I may have dated guys that had been in- I never asked them! But I would never date someone that I met in the clubs, I always viewed them very much as customers, never potential love interests!
LucheroTena · 26/06/2018 06:16
What were the bad experiences? What age were the oldest dancers?
bumblingbovine49 · 26/06/2018 06:16
Were the clubs your employers or were you self employed. Either way were your NI contributions paid for the 8 years you did it ?
I am not being goady about tax payments, just concerned about the eventual effect of years of no NI payments on women's pensions (can you tell I am old!)
pissedonatrain · 26/06/2018 06:18
@yourprivatedancerEX
Ha! Glad you posted this. I was a rather well known successful Burlesque dancer in the 80s. 
My DD is one now.
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