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is this a truly terrible idea?

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wedings · 18/07/2026 11:21

Without giving away too many details. DP and my family travelled very far for the wedding and we won't see them in person again for ages.

Having a tiny wedding with just core fam and friends.

Is it a terrible idea to announce our 5/6 week pregnancy?

We really really want to. Know odds of keeping pregnancy are 90-95%.

We would be telling all these people if we had a misscarriage anyway.

I can imagine this moment being truly special and I would like to make a beautiful moment with the assumption that all will be well.

What are your thoughts?

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PrincessofWills · 18/07/2026 11:22

It's an absolutely foul thing to do. It's the brides day, not yours.

PrincessofWills · 18/07/2026 11:23

Is it your wedding? Sorry if it is Op . . .

FionnulaTheCooler · 18/07/2026 11:24

It's up to you when you announce your pregnancy and I truly hope you have a successful and healthy pregnancy, but if that turned out not to be the case wouldnt it hurt to have the memory of announcing it forever linked to your wedding memories?

TaylorsMate · 18/07/2026 11:24

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

My concern here is if you tell them and sadly things go wrong, your wedding will be overshadowed negatively.

I would enjoy your wedding and then tell them in video calls at a later time.

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wedings · 18/07/2026 11:24

I am the bride

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YouCantBeSadHoldingACupcake · 18/07/2026 11:25

If it’s your wedding, then go for it. Another reason to celebrate. If it’s not, then do not steal the bride and grooms day

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wedings · 18/07/2026 11:25

it would also be the day after the wedding after the breakfast before everyone leaves

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CurdinHenry · 18/07/2026 11:27

I don't really understand why you'd want all that pressure on it from outside but people have different attitudes to privacy

Oliveoy · 18/07/2026 11:27

Surely if you're the bride then the wedding is irrelevant here. The only question is whether you're happy to announce a pregnancy so early on. I wouldn't be, but many people do?

CurdinHenry · 18/07/2026 11:27

I also think it's a bit TADA which I would quietly cringe at as a guest

Overthebow · 18/07/2026 11:28

TaylorsMate · 18/07/2026 11:24

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

My concern here is if you tell them and sadly things go wrong, your wedding will be overshadowed negatively.

I would enjoy your wedding and then tell them in video calls at a later time.

This. If the pregnancy doesn’t work out this it what you’re going to associate your wedding with.

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wedings · 18/07/2026 11:29

the guest list is very small, we would jsut have to ask them all to not announce it beyond the room! Closest friends and family only

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Topseyt123 · 18/07/2026 11:29

PrincessofWills · 18/07/2026 11:22

It's an absolutely foul thing to do. It's the brides day, not yours.

OP is talking about her own wedding, not someone else's. Read the post.

OP, do it if you want to. Your choice.

Personally, I would refrain from announcing a pregnancy at just 5 - 6 weeks alone because the risk of miscarriage is much higher before 12 weeks is up (I had one at 8 weeks). So I would wait until at least then.

I hope your wedding goes well, and your pregnancy.

Ineffable23 · 18/07/2026 11:29

If you're the bride and you won't see others for ages then it seems like a perfectly nice thing to do if you'd be telling them anyway if you have a miscarriage.

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wedings · 18/07/2026 11:31

im not that private a person. I wouldn't mind telling any of them if I had a misscarriage. It's actually more, could THEY get excited for it knowing its so early?

When my sister called me at 3 weeks pregnant to tell me I was told to not get excited until 12 weeks. But I am more of a celebrate and get all excited from day 1 type of person

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Toowhiteforawedding · 18/07/2026 11:32

I wouldn’t because it’s so early, but if you want to then there’s no etiquette reason not to. I don’t think we can really advise - it’s a very personal decision

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wedings · 18/07/2026 11:33

I want to do it, DP is leaning towards yes too. I get emotional and excited just thinking of it

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CurdinHenry · 18/07/2026 11:35

wedings · 18/07/2026 11:33

I want to do it, DP is leaning towards yes too. I get emotional and excited just thinking of it

I think the drama seems a bit narcissistic tbh

Darragon · 18/07/2026 11:36

OP is talking about her own wedding, not someone else's. Read the post
The irony @Topseyt123 🤦‍♀️ RTFT

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wedings · 18/07/2026 11:36

you think announcing a pregnancy on a special day to your closest friends and family is narcissistic? @CurdinHenry im glad I don't think anyone if my life thinks like that

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ElegantlyDressing · 18/07/2026 11:37

I think it’s a nice thing to do, you’d tell them if you had a miscarriage anyway. I don’t really like this whole “don’t tell anyone for 12 weeks in case there’s a miscarriage” concept, it’s like some superstitious taboo. I told people, I had miscarriages, it made it easier to cope with because my close friends and family already knew I was pregnant.

Nopuedeser · 18/07/2026 11:39

Darragon · 18/07/2026 11:36

OP is talking about her own wedding, not someone else's. Read the post
The irony @Topseyt123 🤦‍♀️ RTFT

Eh? It is the OP’s wedding

somanychristmaslights · 18/07/2026 11:39

CurdinHenry · 18/07/2026 11:35

I think the drama seems a bit narcissistic tbh

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Oh don’t be ridiculous. Op is allowed to get excited about having a baby! 🙄

If you want to tell them then absolutely do it. It’ll be a nice family moment and a good way to end the wedding celebrations.

Sidebeforeself · 18/07/2026 11:44

wedings · 18/07/2026 11:33

I want to do it, DP is leaning towards yes too. I get emotional and excited just thinking of it

I think it’s entirely your choice but you really need to be prepared for people perhaps not being as overawed as you think they will be. And whilst both events are special, they are serious and life changing .. not just a super exciting TADA moment !

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wedings · 18/07/2026 11:46

I think they will be so excited. My MIL has been waiting a very long time and is very expressive.... they may also assume I am 12 weeks. Then when that gets clarified i'm not i'm worried the excitement will die down a bit.

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