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Ongoing support thread after DH died (Juan et al)

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Chasingsquirrels Wed 20-Dec-17 08:05:14

Just noticed we are getting towards the 1000 count ...

Chasingsquirrels Wed 20-Dec-17 08:11:19

Glad that you went to the carols book 🙂.

Yawn cake. Charlie woke up and wouldn't settle at 3.30am so I had to go down to him then couldn't get back to sleep. Got up with him just before 7am then came back to bed as ds2 got up. Hope you can settle ds into some later mornings.

Willow am feeling achy for you ☹. Hope you can get a GP appointment, maybe some physio needed?

Horsemad Wed 20-Dec-17 08:21:01

Thanks for the new thread chasing. I PM'd you last night, did you receive it?

I wonder if Charlie is hungry and that's what wakes him? Bit like a new baby having a growth spurt smile

Well, not a happy house here. DH just getting over a viral thing, DS2 now has it sad so I am alternating paracetamol and ibuprofen and a flannel on the forehead. He is very feverish; what's the betting I get it once I finish for Xmas? DS1 & he girlfriend reman unaffected at the moment.

I have to pop into work in a bit then off to the hairdresser and the dentist afterwards.

Hope all have a good day. X

SelenaValentina Wed 20-Dec-17 08:52:28

Thank you squirrel. Is Charlie getting excited about Christmas ha ha?

Sounds like a fun time for you horse. Going into work sounds like a relief? Good luck at dentist.

Have a good day, everyone. Weather wet here, I'm about to spin, then meet friend, then pick up new glasses.

bookbook Wed 20-Dec-17 09:15:10

Morning all
Thanks Chasing for the new thread - ughhh 3.30 am
Grey, but dry here, just murky really
Horse - oh no , hope you dodge that . When DH was working, he was always poorly at Christmas . I think it was a mental thing - he could afford the time.
Selena ooh new glasses -its always a shock when I get some - I have to do a double take when I see myself in a mirror smile
Willow - definitely try to get a GP appt - and t bags?, well they will get used I guess ...grin
Cake - at least you don't have to rush around getting DS off to school ( or is DD still there?) , nice and easy day for you I hope, to catch your breath
I am off to my craft club at 10 - meeting up at one of houses, (not our normal cafe ). Every one is taking something to go with tea and coffee , so I made some lemon drizzle muffins to take. Could be a feast ...grin
Have a good day everyone

Willow2017 Wed 20-Dec-17 09:56:28

Got gp appoint am off now wish me luck😀
Ooh lemon drizzle save some for us😀

Horsemad Wed 20-Dec-17 10:34:09

Mmm, lemon drizzle muffins sound gorgeous! smile
My BIL is the same book, works crazy hours all year then always ill at Xmas; it's as if he relaxes and bam! the germs get him!!

Our Scandinavian visitor turned away a parcel yesterday as she didn't understand the courier!! Not sure why, as her English language skills are amazing. DH miffed as it's MIL's present! grin They are sending it again today.

bookbook Wed 20-Dec-17 17:19:23

Afternoon all
well, had a lovely morning , was just eating a bit of lunch, when the reminder came up on the phone for the dentist. We had to shoot off. I have ( though I did realise of course) a chipped filling, so need to get that sorted in the New Year ( haven't had a filling since the youngest was born) but otherwise, the nashers are doing me proud .
I have been busy since then. I decided I needed to clean the oven . I did a very thorough job of the fridge on Monday, so it only seemed right. The whole shebang - everything taken out , shelves, runners, glass doors , the lot. The bulb has gone in the main oven, so have done that too ( well, ordered a new bulb anyway .and cleaned the housing too....) Then decided the floor needing doing properly too, so that has had a proper scrub.
I can sit down now - have prepped up tea - (just jacket potatoes and cauliflower cheese with some bacon bits in.)
And I have some spare lemon drizzle muffins - I brought 4 back from this morning - DH is secretly pleased, while grumbling about having to force them down hmm grin
Relaxing night with some crochet and a bath I think!
Have a good evening

Horsemad Wed 20-Dec-17 18:34:37

Strangely, I always get an uncontrollable urge to clean my oven before I cook the Xmas dinner in it!

This year, we are eating at the in-laws, so my oven will have to wait until my NY resolutions kick in grin

Willow2017 Wed 20-Dec-17 18:47:53

Saw GP and got tubegrip for my knee and painkillers. Also exercises to do. Got fluid build up in the joint causing the swelling .
Attacked bathroom, also did shelves and cupboard. All tidy and clean now and bleached the floor although it never looks clean!
Last day of school yipppeeee.
At TKD for next hour listening to radio in peace.
Ds1 stayed home he was panicking about the school cèilidh as he thought they had to attend and were forced to dance bless him. He did tidy and hoover and dust thier room though. Its a Xmas miracle 😀
Glad dentist went ok Book i have the weakest teeth ever slightest thing breaks them i have more fillings than teeth now i think. Kids thankfully take after thier dad in that dept.
Hope you got your parcel back Horse what a strange thing to do. Didn't it have your name on it?

NotAChristmasCakePop Wed 20-Dec-17 19:17:02

Found you! Mind gone a bit blank on what everyone else has posted apart from teeth and man flu!

We had a great day though I was really irritated this morning. Now we're officially on holiday. Seeing FC tomorrow and going to brave Tesco for food! Wish me luck.

Hugs to all x

Chasingsquirrels Wed 20-Dec-17 21:27:52

Yum drizzle cake - although I can now recommend the Aldi chocolate fudge cake with orange (although it falls apart when you cut and serve it do maybe only amongst friends!).

Hope the tube thing and exercises do some good Willow. My friend is a physio and whenever I do the exercises she recommends for things it always improves the situation.

Good day today, ds2 had a friend over so they played with Charlie while I got the floors vacuumed (he didn't like that), brushed and mopped (mopping used to be a very infrequent job - bit different with a puppy and wet weather). Ds1 went to see his girlfriend for the afternoon and my parents picked him up on the way over. Enjoyable evening with parents, brother and boys.

Got back from dropping ds1 earlier and there was an ENORMOUS rat 🐀 perched on the hens water trough drinking their water. Then saw it eating their food. Dad has brought me some bait over and say a I should call environmental health as it's coming from the unoccupied property next door.

Work tomorrow but have had confirmation from my last few clients that accounts are okay to file so will get those sorted tomorrow then I'm done for the year ☺

NotAChristmasCakePop Wed 20-Dec-17 22:07:11

I'm tucked up in bed. PMS, Christmas and small people don't mix lol

Good luck for the last day tomorrow squirrel glad meal went well and eek for rat!

Rest up Willow hope things improve over the holiday.

Catch up with you all tomorrow.

bookbook Thu 21-Dec-17 08:44:36

Morning all!
well, dark and misty here .
Horse - yes , come Christmas I do like a clean oven ( I do clean it at other times, honest!)
Willow - poor knee , I think that means over Christmas you get to lay out on the sofa smile . DH has iffy teeth too - he always seems to need work on them, always has bother
Chasing - good to hear you had a lovely day. Rats and chicken food go together, sadly. Easy food for them I suppose yuk. How are the chickens doing , are they all bunked in together now, and no escapees?
Cake - hope you are in proper holiday mode, and got a lie- in smile
I hav ea haircut due this morning, and trying to decide whether to go and shop for all the fresh stuff for the next few days or wait until tomorrow , when I pick my meat up ... mmm
Have a good day everyone - shortest day today, so the days will start lengthening tomorrow smile

NotAChristmasCakePop Thu 21-Dec-17 13:58:19


We did have a lie in until 6:30 wink Means he had 11hrs and I got 8!

Been into town to see FC, had a coffee and a snack meal and a run around in the park. Then I braved Tesco with the thought of just getting the normal stuff but everything was fairly long dates, so got everything bar the meat which is coming from the butchers and a panetonne. Was heaving but not too bad in all honesty.

Hope you got yours done book

Now I need to collect DD and a few presents on Saturday morning and wrap them - that's it!

Chasingsquirrels Thu 21-Dec-17 17:23:13

Charlie watching the hens - from the safety of inside the house.

The two new ones I got in September are both laying most days, none of the others are. The new Brown one who was being picked on has got a bit braver since she reached maturity and came into lay, although she still sleeps in the tree.

Been at work today, and now finished, so have only addressed the rat problem by putting their food in the wheelbarrow so it's off the ground and putting a plank of wood against where it is coming under the fence. I'll see what else I can do tomorrow and get the bait down.

Ds1 at archery tonight and I'll hopefully catch up with replying to everyone's ones then.

NotAChristmasCakePop Thu 21-Dec-17 17:28:54

Hello all

just to say I have had a text from Juan wishing us all a Merry Christmas and the best for 2018. I have of course replied in kind on behalf of all of us.

He is too cute Squirrel and such a lovely colour. I'd have thought all activities have finished for the year!?! Is he enjoying his own bow (or am I just making that up now) How are you doing?

Big wave to everyone else. Willow I hope you're not in too much pain today. gin cheers

SelenaValentina Thu 21-Dec-17 17:41:38

Oh brave Charlie!

Thank you cake for replying to juan regards to her from me.

willow, hope pain bearable

Hope day gone well for everyone. I was going to say 5 mins extra daylight tomorrow, but never got light today so won't see any difference!!

Chasingsquirrels Thu 21-Dec-17 19:28:51

Lol Selena - the safety was more for the hens than Charlie! He has been in with them but wants to play whereas they think he is a thread and so flap away from him. He was herding them earlier.

Almost a lie in Cake, fingers crossed for tomorrow. Sounds like you had a good day. He is enjoying the bow (the fully given how much it cost!). Club is just an adult club not school / child based so goes year round.

Hope you aren't aching too much Willow.

bookbook Thu 21-Dec-17 21:56:28

Evening all
Just put down some knitting .
That is a lovely picture Chasing yay! you have finished smile
Cake - a whole 8 hours - you will be feeling wonderful hopefully. Yep, I did my shopping too , not that I needed that much. Thank you for passing on the message from Juan
Selena - I know what you mean - it has been grey, and then horrid mizzle
Willow and Horse - hope all is well
This afternoon the man turned up to service water heater and gas fire , central heating was done the other week. Just meat to get tomorrow, stuffing to make and I am < fingers crossed> sorted , apart from going and picking vegetables at the allotment smile

Willow2017 Thu 21-Dec-17 23:48:38

Evening all.
Got home at 10 and have been relubing my youth watching Donny & Marie show. Loved that when they had the original show back when god was a boy😉 boy they still put on a great show marie looks fanbloodytastic for 50. (When they did the show) not jealous at all.
Had great day. Out for lunch although wasnt impressed with mine it was find the meat in the beef casserole😀
Ate all sorts of sweet stuff at aunts, pavlova, tray bake etc. And brought some home! Got recipie for ginger tray bake its lovely.
Glad everyone had a nice day. I need to face the shopping tomorrow.
Squirrels he is so cute shame the hens dont think so😀

I found out i am working sunday until 2ish...i know what that means as its usually busy till 2.30 and i expect a lot of people will not have read the closing times so i expect a later finish.
Aches and pains not as bad today thanks, knee support makes a big difference i really notice the difference when i take it off at night. Got 2 more days for knee to de-swell before work does its stuff to my old back again😀😀😀

Best wishes back to Juan. Thanks for the message Cake.

Oh oh 'Jaws' is on such a classic think i might get pjs on and settle down to watch it.
Have a good night all.

bookbook Fri 22-Dec-17 12:26:43

Afternoon all!
Willow - good to hear that the knee is being helped with the tubigrip - hope it holds out for Sunday
Very grey and pretty misty here. Went to the allotment to get a few bits of veg, and make sure I have enough to pick on Sunday. Then I went and stood in the meat queue - not too bad actually! . Just had a bite to eat, then off for a shower. Baking this afternoon , and making the stuffing. May squeeze in a bit of crochet - I'm finishing a WH blanket that is spread over the spare bed, which will be needed on Christmas night ... grin
Have a good day all

SelenaValentina Fri 22-Dec-17 14:21:38

Was quite 'foggy' - dense mist to those of us who know what real fog is like! Night driving glasses really helped as make day lighter and somehow clearer.

Met friend for breakfast, then into Aldi for milk, ice cream blush and biscuits doubleblush. Now home for peaceful afternoon with Classic fm, hot chocolate and purring cats - biscuits? No, of course not !!

If you believe that .... Have a great rest of the day, everyone.

NotAChristmasCakePop Fri 22-Dec-17 14:40:00

Morning all

Not such a good night and grumpy all round...eek!

Been out, wrapped some bits and now just relaxing.

Hope you all have a good day and good luck with work, shopping and WHs.


Willow2017 Fri 22-Dec-17 16:15:05

Afternoon all.
Had very long lie first in ages.
Food shopping done. Last bits done.
Ds1 pia. Not coming to panto. Let him stay up late gaming with friend as i was up too but apparently unreasonable to expect him to get off whan told! Kept phone off him today and thats unreasonable too😀 apparentlybdidnt switcg pc of properly last night and hascobviously been om it while we were out. I will swing for him one of these days.
Seriously thinking of cancelling xmas for him.
Been back on the 'teenager' thread just to remimd myself its not just me😀
Had coffee and choc orange cheesecake with ds2 in town. Very busy but could have been worse.
Got a witshire gammon with crackling for xmas dinner so that's sorted.

Cake hope today gets better.

Having a relax before making tea.

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