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The Dating Thread Number 122: Colour By Numbers

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ConorMcGregorsChin Wed 13-Sep-17 18:27:22

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread.

Smeaton Wed 13-Sep-17 19:02:23

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

AntiGrinch Wed 13-Sep-17 19:04:13

Checking in! Thanks for the thread.

PurpleSweetPeas Wed 13-Sep-17 19:07:55


Beentherelefthimgotthetshirt Wed 13-Sep-17 19:14:39

You can run but you can't hide...

PurpleSweetPeas Wed 13-Sep-17 19:17:31

Unless your ghosting hey Been envy

AntiGrinch Wed 13-Sep-17 19:20:47

Thanks for the advice on the other thread about not mentioning seeing other men. I think I am over thinking it all!

I gave one iron two names: Mr Clubbing = Mr Software.
I sent him a text explaining that I didn't think I am what he is looking for and he has somehow very nicely talked me into meeting up for a low key date anyway, on Sunday. he wasn't pushy, just saying ok we can do whatever you want... so I think he's nice enough to meet up with. and I do like to feel I am meeting new people and keeping things moving....

MyUsername200 Wed 13-Sep-17 19:40:46

Place marking! grin

Not been on here as much but I'm still on POF and OKcupid.

No new irons but have been chatting on and off with one guy so I suppose he could count as one. Found him on POF but no firm plans to meet yet. I seem to be doing all the asking of questions and it's frustrating me a little, may back off and see if he initiates anything. Probably not with my track record for OLD. blush

I'm finding that many people don't make the effort when chatting, or perhaps they feel they have to reply and therefore aren't that interested. I wouldn't say I'm overbearing or too chatty but I do ask a couple of questions within each message to keep the convo going.

ojojoj1 Wed 13-Sep-17 19:47:30

My profile it's still hidden on pof got a message today from guy who stood me up - didn't bother replying

ConorMcGregorsChin Wed 13-Sep-17 19:56:01

Purple Talking of Ghosting, I reckon Mr NowtToLiveUpTo is doing that to me. As usual, he was totally full on and into me and has tailed off today.
When you have done online dating for years, you just know...

Lovemusic33 Wed 13-Sep-17 20:02:14

conor I often get the ghoasting feeling too, I have got used to it. I haven't heard from Mr 80's for 2 days which is unlike him, I'm not sure if I should message him or just leave it. I'm running out of energy to chase.

flippinada Wed 13-Sep-17 20:07:55

Checking in <waves>

LanaDReye Wed 13-Sep-17 20:12:02

Things are going well with Mr PrevIron, but a man I didn't date, just chatted with, called me today. I didn't answer but now wondering if I should message and find out what he wanted or just ignore as if single again soon I would like to see him .

Later I bumped into another iron by local shops. He was starring and it felt bit stalkerish. Feel like I have dated too much if I keep bumping into men. My friends don't remember my iron names and it's a struggle for me. Anyone else wish they could clear some history? like a PC clear the cache memory

Buymeamojitonow Wed 13-Sep-17 20:18:56

Love this thread X

PhoenixMama Wed 13-Sep-17 21:03:23

Lana I know what you mean. I think it's especially bad when you're flicking through the sites and you look at someone & cant remember if you just matched or shagged before blush

I was supposed to be deleting the aps and having a break but I just can't quite face it. Wondering if Tinder's changed much in a year... Can decide whether to delete the apps, take the rest of the year off & just work on myself or just dive in hoping there will be a bigger influx as xmas gets closer & everyone wants to couple up!

Lovemusic33 Wed 13-Sep-17 21:08:47

Phoenix I was wondering the same about a winter influx. I am still on POF but I don't go one there every day like I used too as there seems to be a lack of new faces. Went on today and looked at new users and found Mr Ginger but other than that there were not many new faces. I have got to the point where I recognise faces but can't remember if it's someone I have already spoken too, I can remember all the people I have been on dates with though.

JellyBean31 Wed 13-Sep-17 22:03:24

Hey there everyone. I'm still taking a break from it all but place marking in case I change my mind soon. wink

flowergirl5 Wed 13-Sep-17 22:25:33

Just place marking x

Whatyouhadandwhatyoulost Wed 13-Sep-17 22:32:38

Hello everyone thanks for new thread, looking forward to hearing all your updates

eatingtomuch Wed 13-Sep-17 22:33:39

I'm seeng mr storyteller for coffee tomorrow. Texting has continued to go well, so hoping tomorrow goes ok.

Trying not to overthink and just have fun.

minop Wed 13-Sep-17 22:34:22

I'm in the taking a break camp as I have no child free nights for a few weeks and the ex is been a d**k at the moment which doesn't help my view of men
I do however have my FWB still so a few hours a week with him keeps me going.

Last week I was going round he said his brother was home from working away. I joked 'better not turn up in underwear and my coat then' he was like please do he'll be in his room. Got there and text to say I was, he said come in side door it's open, which I usually do. Walk in and theres him and his brother, he introduced me and finished his chat with him, brother said nice meeting you have a good night, all the time I'm stood there in my, luckily, long coat 😳😂🙈 FML

LanaDReye Wed 13-Sep-17 22:56:46

Minop you don't think he was hoping his brother could join in?

I would have given it away, cheeks would be blush

Smeaton Wed 13-Sep-17 23:00:20

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

minop Wed 13-Sep-17 23:21:18

Definitely not the brother joining in 😂
He has a big house and his brothers rooms away from his, really hope he wasn't outside the door though. Cheeks were a bit red but I just styled it out.

PhoenixMama Thu 14-Sep-17 07:12:45

I just looked through the App Store and omg there are SO many apps for particular things: Jews, muslims, sugar daddies, cougars, 3soms, moresoms, asians, black sugar daddies, big women, short people, kinks & fetishes and loads and loads of hook ups or anonymous sex. None just for people who are looking for a relationship though! Has anyone tried any other than the main ones?

Anyone tried OK Cupid? I know it's big in the states but it has the same reputation as pof.

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