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The Dating Thread Number 122: Colour By Numbers

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ConorMcGregorsChin · 13/09/2017 18:27

Dating thread rules:

The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
Develop a thick skin.
Do not invest emotionally too soon.
It's all BS until it actually happens.
Trust your gut instinct.
People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
If it's not fun, stop.
Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.

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PurpleSweetPeas · 15/09/2017 18:52

So, what interesting questions do you ask or have been asked that aren't what music/food/hobbies you like?

IndieTara · 15/09/2017 19:03

Lana no nothing uncomfortable or questionable at all during 2 weeks chatting.
He also has not asked me to Whatsapp which I've fallen foul of a fair few times
He says he isnt on FB either.

I've ignored all other red flags which has resulted in being stood up etc many times.

This feels like a huge red flag and I dont really want to be made a mug of again

LanaDReye · 15/09/2017 19:08

Indie I would keep him as an option, but not as a priority. Then again that is how I feel about all irons unless I have DTD then I swing straight to over invested!

IndieTara · 15/09/2017 19:11

Lana I DTD on date number 3 with somebody else earlier in the week but I dont see it going anywhere other than FWB which I'm not sure I really want

LanaDReye · 15/09/2017 19:14

Indie sounds like you're not OI and have a clear head. DTD seems to make me lose my common sense.

IndieTara · 15/09/2017 19:26

Lana i try to stay clear headed but its hard when I suspect I may be setting myself up for another fall

dravensangel · 15/09/2017 19:31

Hey @Lana, that's great to hear, hope it is going OK. Well I did come off OLD completely, but then got a msg from an iron, from a site I forgot I was on, I thought I would go along and see, to be honest, wasn't that interested! Anyway skip to the end! Had three dates now and I really like him! However trying not to get carried away! I will call him Mr Rock, we have loads in common and he is lovely. He texts a lot but then I find myself disappointed if he doesn't! The crazy world of OLD!

PhoenixMama · 15/09/2017 19:35

I do think pof block quite easily so he could be telling the truth. How long have you been chatting with him.

Lana I love your cyberstalking style lol

IndieTara · 15/09/2017 19:36

Phoenix been chatting 2 weeks

PhoenixMama · 15/09/2017 19:40

Indie did you ask about WhatsApp? I'd hate to be on the app interfaces after 2 weeks but I know some people who stay on till they meet in person. Has he suggested a date? Do you think he's time wasting?

IndieTara · 15/09/2017 19:44

Phoenix we were due to meet tomorrow night but this morning I saw his POF profile had been deleted.
Tonight his profile is back with a story that a woman messaged him last night, he politely turned her down, she ranted at him then blocked him. This morning he tried to log on to POF to message me and realised his profile had gone.

LanaDReye · 15/09/2017 19:52

Indie, going from what Phoenix said about quick blocking I'd give another chance, but be bit more wary.

If it does go wrong, try not to fall, try to bounce onto the next one

IndieTara · 15/09/2017 20:00

Thanks both I really appreciate your input

eatingtomuch · 16/09/2017 07:51

Ok so I joined POF last night and what an experience it is 😳.

My only concern is there are loads very local and some at the same sports clubs as my DC. All starting to feel a bit too close to home!

PurpleSweetPeas · 16/09/2017 08:12

Eating - POF is a complete experience! I know exactly how you feel about bumping into people you know but I've just had to develop a thick skin on that front and brazen it out!

Lovemusic33 · 16/09/2017 08:18

I was like that when I joined POF, there are a few dads from dd's school on there and a few old school friends, they have looked at my profile so there's a few awkward smiles in the playground.

eatingtomuch · 16/09/2017 08:20

Purple - POF feels like a baptism of fire into online dating!

I am starting to realise how naive I was before starting this.

dravensangel · 16/09/2017 08:48

@eating I had the same thing on POF, several people on my building at work were on it! But then I kind of think what the hell, OLD doesn't have the stigma it used to have, at least I don't think it does. These days it seems to be the only way to meet people!

PurpleSweetPeas · 16/09/2017 08:51

POF was the first site I used so wondered what the hell I was doing! I'm on Match as well now which seems so sedate.
It's hard as POF has such a reputation but it seems to be the only site people use in my area. Perhaps because they're all looking for hook ups!

PurpleSweetPeas · 16/09/2017 08:52

Dravens I can't see how people meet any other way. It's a bit sad really.

eatingtomuch · 16/09/2017 09:00

It is really sad that it's hard to meet people in real life, that would be my idea.

I am confused I think I've allowed myself to chat to to many at once. I can't manage all the messages

dravensangel · 16/09/2017 09:39

@purple I agree it is sad, I'm nearly 50 so in my day you would meet people at the pub or a club, but now it seems to have all changed! Takes a bit if getting used to! @eating it's very tempting to message lots of people and sometimes it does get confusing, but in my experience it does eventually settle down and you weed out the ones you are not really interested in!

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dravensangel · 16/09/2017 09:39

@purple I agree it is sad, I'm nearly 50 so in my day you would meet people at the pub or a club, but now it seems to have all changed! Takes a bit if getting used to! @eating it's very tempting to message lots of people and sometimes it does get confusing, but in my experience it does eventually settle down and you weed out the ones you are not really interested in!

dravensangel · 16/09/2017 09:40

@purple I agree it is sad, I'm nearly 50 so in my day you would meet people at the pub or a club, but now it seems to have all changed! Takes a bit if getting used to! @eating it's very tempting to message lots of people and sometimes it does get confusing, but in my experience it does eventually settle down and you weed out the ones you are not really interested in!

PurpleSweetPeas · 16/09/2017 09:51

Eating - i did that Thursday night. Really confusing with 5 on the go. But it's settled down to 3 now so more manageable and I'm glad I didn't oust anyone!

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