The Dating Thread Number 122: Colour By Numbers

[ConorMcGregorsChin]

Dating thread rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
   
2. Develop a thick skin.
   
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
   
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
   
5. Trust your gut instinct.
   
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
   
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
   
8. If it's not fun, stop.
   
9. Loo update is mandatory.
   

10. No dating the thread.

[eatingtomuch]

Update - had coffee date with mr storyteller, it was disappointing. There was no spark or chemistry, totally dull.

Met me with a handshake and offered his hand when he said goodbye 😳

Has since text to say how lovely it was can we meet again, I have politely declined.

[LanaDReye]

Patrick Swayze was hot, I would have danced then dined all night

[Queenofthedrivensnow]

I've got a hangover I could happily drive to McDonalds in my Jammies for a burger.

[PhoenixMama]

I've decided to take some of you ladies approach an put multiple irons in the fire. So far I've been asked out by a 27 year old, a guy who claims he wants a relationship but is also very clear what he's looking for in the bedroom, a guy who's leaving the country in 9 months and a ridiculously hot Frenchman who clearly swiped by mistake!

[LanaDReye]

Phoenix go for the hot Frenchman first. I bet it wasn't a mistake and if you fancy him it has more chance of developing.

I say this as the irons that I have dated as they seemed to fit, but I didn't fancy, weren't worth spending time with. It has taken me 18 months to realise this. It is important to have physical attraction.

[LanaDReye]

Queen for your hangover and if that doesn't work

[WotcherHarry]

Well I saw my Monday night date for the third time today! We went for dinner, lovely walk, bit of car shagging (classy). He is a genuinely really lovely, we both agree that we have amazing chemistry together just chatting and in bed. It makes a massive change from my sexless marriage...

[RandallPMcMurphy]

Smeaton I agree with what you're saying about the age gap in Dirty Dancing but if you remember the video to Lambada ...well what can I say
I say dancing naked round a bonfire in our commune would be a great meet and greet

[AntiGrinch]

Wotcher - yay! go you!

HELP ME HELP ME HELP ME

Mr Sexting (the ORIGINAL MR SEXTING) imessaged me this evening.
I jumped onto fb (where he doesn't know I know who he is) and he is pretty clearly still with his gf.

I've got to block him, right?

this is really fucking with my head. I should have blocked him before. I can't believe how much it has thrown me

[LanaDReye]

AntiG send him a message saying "does your GF know about our chats?"
Then block him! scare his cheating arse

[EverythingHappens4aReason]

New to this post but read with interest and need to talk to someone not in RL!
I'm a slave to POF and OKC. Met all the Roy Croppers, found out the marrieds and batted off the twenty somethings trying their luck.
This one is totally different.He works away Mon-Fri we've met up for a few Saturday's we talk at least once a day sometimes twice. He makes me laugh seems a genuine bloke and fancies the pants off me.
......and I'm still suspicious! I'm still looking for the catch!! Aaarrrgghh what's wrong with me?

[LanaDReye]

Hi Everything there will be differences between you as no two people are the same, maybe you are nervous as you haven't found out what these are yet?
Not necessarily a catch to put you off, just need to know more.

[PurpleSweetPeas]

Well, potential irons are like buses! Nothing and then last night it went mad. I was talking to 5 at one point and they were all quite nice. It was blooming hard to keep up with though. But I didn't want to dismiss any as wanted to be greedy and keep them all open as possibilities!
We will see where it all goes today

[pudding21]

Hypothetical tinder question please from you pros: Can you join an change the location of your area you want to target easily? Reason i ask is I don't want my ex to know I am looking to date (messy break up, emotional abuse but trying to stay civil as we share child care 8 months ago). Also I live in a very small community and if I use my local area I am bound to see loads of people I know on there. However the capital city is 1 hour from where I live (much better prospects of finding a match). I am also a bit nervous about the whole thing as last time I dated was 21 years ago!

Any experts on tinder out there?

[PhoenixMama]

Anti I totally agree with Lana. You shouldn't just block him you need to call him out on his behaviour. Otherwise you can end up feeling helpless. If he's cheating on her he'll cheat on you (and I hate to say it you're probably not the only one!)

What do you guys do about endless chatting? Do you suggest a drink or do you just let it go?

[PhoenixMama]

Pudding - you can change your distance range but you can't rule out your immediate area if that makes sense.

If you pay I believe you can pick a city but Tinder is def not something I'd pay for. That said I know loads of people in my local area & have only ever seen 1 of them on tinder - swipe left as fast as you can (or block) and chances are they'll never see you.

[Lovemusic33]

Anti I think you should block him, he sounds like a total dick, I hope his gf finds out what he's really like.

It's the weekend and I don't think I have a date I'm running out of time and it's my child free Sunday. I'm going to end up spending it alone again.

[IndieTara]

Ghosted again on POF ( sigh )
Due to go on a first date tomorrow with Mr Truck after 2 weeks of messaging and this morning his profile has been deleted!
Catfished on there by 2 others previously also
Stood up 7 times.
I think its time to give up.

[Lovemusic33]

indie I have had 3 irons vanish this week, one I was meant to be going out with on Sunday, I haven't heard from him for almost 4 days so I'm guessing our date won't happen, another one I had been talking too for ages (he may re appear). It seems to happen a lot. I don't let it get too me too much and I now expect it so I don't get excited about first or second dates.

[PhoenixMama]

Indie do you use anything other than PoF? I really do think it's one of the worst platforms.

[whatisgoingon1]

IndieTara
Firstly there is no point to arrange a date if you don't chat off POF.
After couple of days chatting on the site,easily exchange numbers.Chat on WhatsApp ,have a phone conversation if you want.Add them on facebook,snoop around. If you arrange a date and don't have any of his contact details off POf,it simply is not serious arrangement.

[IndieTara]

Phoenix I registered on Bumble last week but its not working for me at all