So ex finally left the home yesterday. Slept ok and atmosphere in home is much lighter.
Residency issues are ongoing. As it stands I don't know what's happening at the weekend.
I am collecting DS2 from after school club and taking him to school tomorrow. Ex collecting from school. Ex won't discuss timings for me to collect DS2 from him on Saturday morning. Suspect he plans to drop him here at his convenience.
Am seeing sol and going to meditation MIAM soon with view to court so not sure what I can do until then, aside from log everything.
Glad to hear you slept. I'm really hoping this is the beginning of improved health for you. I'm sorry I know nothing about family court and can't offer any insight. Good luck with the solicitor and mediation. You come across as reasonable and with your sons' interests at heart. That's got to count for something when set against the absolute twattery of your ex.
Why don't you email him and say you will pick DS2 up at 11am (or whatever) unless you hear back any differently. If he just says 'nah I will drop him' then say it's only reasonable to give you a time, not 'I need' etc.
Can't believe you have to spend more money just because he can't act reasonably in the best interests of DS2.
Before I backed down I did tell him he'd have to go to court. He then threatened to do so and get 1/2 everything. A red herring I'm sure but spoke to friend and she said just give it to him. It's 2 chairs and a heater. And other stuff that he's welcome to.
Mate coming to do locks tomorrow. Would really like to do it that way rather than emergency locksmith.
He will ignore and he will continue to play silly buggers. All you can do is try to step around him and be preemptive, tell him what time you are picking DS2 up, he will probably think of a way to piss off but at least you are not waiting for an answer that is being ignored.
I followed your previous thread (binge read in one go) and so glad he is finally out.
I remember my solicitor and counsellor both told me the same thing re my ex messing about with contact times, etc - and that was to always wait about 10 mins (if someone knows they are running late that gives them a reasonable chance to turn up, and later than 10 mins requires a text message) and then have something else arranged so that you go out and leave the house. No waiting around for them, and no making it easy for them. Make their piss taking inconvenience them far more than it does you. They both advised to be open and honest, but without slagging off, to my daughter. Dont pretend he isnt coming to cover the times he cant be arsed to turn up. Just light and 'oh dear, doesnt look like he is coming today, lets go and do something fun ourselves.'. No bigging him up. no running him down. factual and without emotion. Yes its sad, yes, its a shame, yes, I understand it hurts. Be the constant, be the reliable one, the safe one. As mothers there is often the tendency to try to maintain the relationship, to create the relationship between the child and the other parent, but its not our responsibility to chase around to ensure it happens. In regards his stuff - would it be safe outside? If so then thats an option. If not just go out. He didnt come at the time he arranged, he needs to understand that you are not waiting around for him. Wasted journey? His fault. he should have come when he said or let you know.