To be annoyed that I've batched cooked for postpartum and DP is eating all of the food now?

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catmum789 Tue 07-Dec-21 18:25:38

So me and DP are in the process of buying a house and cause of circumstances I cannot stay round his current house every night because he has a son and I need to work and can't work and be a babysitter. The new house will have an office on the third floor. I stay over only 2/3 nights a week. This weekend I have stood for hours and batch cooked lots of freezer meals for when our baby comes (I am 33 weeks pregnant, no judgement we are buying a house and will have a house by the time baby is here, there are problems with our sellers that are holding the sale up) so on the days I'm not at his he has been telling me that he and his son have been eating the food I prepared for when baby is here so most things have gone!!! Im annoyed cause I portioned the meals out for 2 so we can put them in the oven when baby is here and I don't have to stress. But he has been eating them with his son who already has a hot hearty meal at nursery. He's ate the food I spent hours preparing bare in mind I stood for hours with sciatica and an iron deficiency so constant heart palpitations when I was doing it and he was watching the football!!! Urgh please someone tell me if I'm being a hormonal monster or if you get where I'm coming from!

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Wotsitsits Tue 07-Dec-21 18:27:03

You're not making much sense OP. What did he say when you told him you're cooking for PP?

Are you afraid to raise this with him for fear of his reaction?

SpikeDearheart Tue 07-Dec-21 18:27:13

Er, then he needs to batch cook to replace it then. Twat.

RedskyThisNight Tue 07-Dec-21 18:28:32

Did you specifically make it clear you were cooking for post partum?

Why is it in his freezer and not yours?
In his defence, if there was food in my freezer, in my house, I'd probably eat it.

Unanananana Tue 07-Dec-21 18:28:58

Have you said anything to him?

gamerchick Tue 07-Dec-21 18:30:00

You have had a vision into your future life when you move in with this bloke.

Begrudging his kid food doesnt bode well for the future either.

Personally I wouldn't move in with him. I predict shit and misery all round with a baby in the mix and a small child being around a stepmum who doesn't seem to like him much.

That's just going on your post though.

ikeepseeingit Tue 07-Dec-21 18:30:27

Why the hell would he just take the food? Did you tell him that they’re for after the baby comes? If he knew then that’s really mean of him and he needs to spend hours cooking to fix his mistake!

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Xmassprout Tue 07-Dec-21 18:30:37

Well he simply needs to stand for hours cooking to replace it then

Stompythedinosaur Tue 07-Dec-21 18:30:51

I would be pissed off too! He needs to replace the meals.

FourTeaFallOut Tue 07-Dec-21 18:31:01

Does he know why you are all the prepared food in the freezer or he's just tucking in to it regardless because he is too lazy to cook for his own child?

PurBal Tue 07-Dec-21 18:31:58

The only thing I would say is we batch cooked and froze a ton of food and didn’t use any of it because it was just as easy to cook as defrost and reheat. But otherwise he’s been a dick.

IAmHereForTheFood Tue 07-Dec-21 18:32:57

1) A tiny hot meal at nursery doesn’t mean a child doesn’t need a full evening meal.
2) moving a freezer full of batch cooked food would be a nightmare!

However, as someone who’s DH turned the freezer off when we went away after I had to spend several hours batch cooking food (after he had already turned the garage freezer off meaning all the meat had defrosted so needed cooking) you have my sympathy. I’d be furious in your shoes.

BonesInTheOcean Tue 07-Dec-21 18:33:16

gamerchick

You have had a vision into your future life when you move in with this bloke.

Begrudging his kid food doesnt bode well for the future either.

Personally I wouldn't move in with him. I predict shit and misery all round with a baby in the mix and a small child being around a stepmum who doesn't seem to like him much.

That's just going on your post though.

small child being around a stepmum who doesn't seem to like him much. where are you getting that from??

MaryAndGerryLivingInDerry Tue 07-Dec-21 18:33:19

Well he needs to replace it all. But 3 portions. Not 2.

Palavah Tue 07-Dec-21 18:34:02

Have I understood correctly that you will move out of your house-to-be for 3-4 nights per week because your stepson will be there?

MushMonster Tue 07-Dec-21 18:34:08

Well well, he is going to do a hell of a lot of cooking this weekend while you sit with your feet up, isn't he?

FluffMagnet Tue 07-Dec-21 18:34:13

Does he know what it was for? Tell him you are too unwell to remake everything that has been eaten so he will need to do it this weekend. There is still time for him to rectify the situation!

BusterGonad Tue 07-Dec-21 18:35:36

Why didn't you make any for his child too? What was he going to eat whilst you both ate your batch cooked meals?

catmum789 Tue 07-Dec-21 18:37:29

I made it clear they were PP meals as we usually just do too up shops and spend loads on food so I wanted to be prepared also having recovered from an eating disorder before I was pregnant I didn't want to get back in to my old non eating habits.

Re food for his son, I have made his son specific meals with smaller portions but this has gone to waste in the past so I gave up doing that. He just gives him whatever he is having and then when it comes to me being round we end up eating oven chips and nuggets so that's why I wanted to batch cook and prepare for baby.

I think the problem is that he doesn't think, his ex never cooked so I think it's a novelty for him that I do.

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MaryAndGerryLivingInDerry Tue 07-Dec-21 18:40:24

He just gives him whatever he is having and then when it comes to me being round we end up eating oven chips and nuggets

In other words he and his son live on chicken nuggets even when you’re not there. But I’ll bet he’s an amazing dad. hmm

NynaeveSedai Tue 07-Dec-21 18:40:53

Why did you leave it in his freezer and not yours?
But that's not really the point. Why did he do that? What is he going to do to replace them?

RocketPanda Tue 07-Dec-21 18:41:46

He's a dick for eating the food you batch cooked. Tread carefully he's not going to change into a super considerate person when your baby comes. But I must ask why you didn't cook for 3? Kids need regular feeding ( you'll find this out for yourself) and a hot meal at 12:30 will not sustain them until bedtime.

catmum789 Tue 07-Dec-21 18:44:45

BusterGonad

Why didn't you make any for his child too? What was he going to eat whilst you both ate your batch cooked meals?


His son is fussy and leaves most things, he generally just wants a salami stick thing when he is back and some fruit and a sandwich so I wasn't going to cook for him too for him not to eat it, it's DPs responsibility to feed his son I have tried in the past and he doesn't eat it. He has a proper meal in the day at nursery and numerous snacks. If DP asked me I would cook for him but after he left the stuff I haven't done it again.

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likeafishneedsabike Tue 07-Dec-21 18:44:51

I can’t really understand a word of what’s going on but the whole situation sounds terrible. Begrudging a small child food is just awful.

violetbunny Tue 07-Dec-21 18:44:55

He's been totally selfish. I would be telling him he needs to find a way to replace them pronto!

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