To be annoyed that I've batched cooked for postpartum and DP is eating all of the food now?
catmum789 · 07/12/2021 18:25
So me and DP are in the process of buying a house and cause of circumstances I cannot stay round his current house every night because he has a son and I need to work and can't work and be a babysitter. The new house will have an office on the third floor. I stay over only 2/3 nights a week. This weekend I have stood for hours and batch cooked lots of freezer meals for when our baby comes (I am 33 weeks pregnant, no judgement we are buying a house and will have a house by the time baby is here, there are problems with our sellers that are holding the sale up) so on the days I'm not at his he has been telling me that he and his son have been eating the food I prepared for when baby is here so most things have gone!!! Im annoyed cause I portioned the meals out for 2 so we can put them in the oven when baby is here and I don't have to stress. But he has been eating them with his son who already has a hot hearty meal at nursery. He's ate the food I spent hours preparing bare in mind I stood for hours with sciatica and an iron deficiency so constant heart palpitations when I was doing it and he was watching the football!!! Urgh please someone tell me if I'm being a hormonal monster or if you get where I'm coming from!
Oldtiredfedup · 08/12/2021 17:45
The very worst of MN is out and proud in this thread.
OP - please please look after yourself. And please talk to some trusted friends/family about what you are experiencing.
And please, do not give up your job if you decide to stay.
VinnieRose · 16/12/2021 01:35
Yes! Hormones do run wild during pregnancy, which throws our emotions out of sync. As someone has already said, I honestly think that you are seeing into your future as well. I know that you said that you can't stay full time at your partner’s house, as you have to work and can't babysit, I can understand that. I also totally understand you preparing meals for after your baby is born, and you have also prepared meals in the past for your partner’s young child. Young children will rarely eat all their food regardless of how much effort you put into it. Your partner probably can't cook or can't be bothered. I think you really need to think about what you want, and what you want your future to look like. Remember you will have your own biological child, but when you start a relationship with someone who already has a child, you become their parent as well. You need to think about if you are prepared to share the responsibility of looking after your partner’s child. Our hormones do run wild, especially when we are ‘nesting’ just before we give birth. But having said that, what do you really want? That is what you need to think about. I wish you good health with the remainder of your pregnancy, the birth of your child, and post partum
mathanxiety · 16/12/2021 02:01
I see this claptrap about women's hormones running wild during pregnancy all the time.
We've been gaslighted into thinking our hormones are the problem, but the only hormone running wild most of the time is testosterone, and it's responsible for most of the problems besetting our homes and our world today.
me4real · 16/12/2021 11:55
We've been gaslighted into thinking our hormones are the problem
@mathanxiety I agree. It's sexist/dismissive.
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