DD's (5) father disappeared off the face of the earth 12 months ago. Has paid no maintenance since then. Currently owes over 3k and counting.
DDs grandparents (his parents) know where he is but refuse to tell me. Their argument is that he is trying to rebuild his business/life and cannot do that with the maintenance people on his back. He hasn't even sent DD a birthday card or anything at xmas. The maintenance people cannot find him, his parents know where he is but refuse to tell me and if DD asks them they say they don't know (not sure how long they can carry that on for).
They are currently still seeing DD twice a month (not during lockdown). And speak to her once a week on the phone.
My question is WIBU to say actually whilst you cannot be honest with me or DD I don't want her in your care. I DO NOT want to do this, DD enjoys their company and they love seeing her.
But it really really gets to me that they are happy to see her go without the support she deserves and to actually lie to her face when she asks where her daddy is.
What would you do?
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Would you carry on letting grandparents see child after this?
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Slidetotheleft · 20/05/2020 07:19
OP posts:
Am I being unreasonable?
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You are being unreasonable
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You are NOT being unreasonable
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