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Is husband being unreasonable about baby's needles

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bigmamama Tue 18-Feb-20 07:57:34

Hi so me and my husband are currently at logger heads about taking our 6mo for his needles which is tomorrow.
So basically he has missed his needles as he was poorly when they were due at 3 months old, he was in hospital with bronchiolitis and it just kept getting put on the back burner as he had virus after virus and spent a bit of time in and out of hospital over the Xmas period and was sent for some tests to check all was ok. And it was. so now his needles are due tomorrow and my husband has said he doesn't want the baby to have them as he thinks it will set him back, make him poorly, he's too small, he thinks the government are just trying to scare monger people into having them done etc.
I want the baby to have his needles especially since our 3yo has had them done! I really don't want to take the baby to get them behind his back but he's not budging on this!

Sirzy Tue 18-Feb-20 07:59:26

Get them done. Something’s are worth doing behind his back

Bingeslayer Tue 18-Feb-20 08:00:31

If they were safe for ds1 why not ds2?

skippy67 Tue 18-Feb-20 08:00:35

Get them done.

Mintjulia Tue 18-Feb-20 08:01:24

Agree with sirzy This is a deal breaker.

Get the inoculations done and don’t mention it

Callimanco Tue 18-Feb-20 08:01:28

Does your DH not think that getting diptheria or tetanus might make your DS poorly?

Nanny0gg Tue 18-Feb-20 08:01:32

Ask him which would he prefer- your baby to be perhaps a little off-colour from his jabs(which ones are they? It's been a long time!) Or very, very poorly from the actual illness.

Does your doctor think your baby is well enough now?

Bingeslayer Tue 18-Feb-20 08:01:34

Sorry presumptuous on the ds1

Beautyoftheirdreams Tue 18-Feb-20 08:01:58

Get them done. My DS was prem and had his first lot when he weighed just 4.5lbs, he coped fine. They are important.

poseysbobblehat Tue 18-Feb-20 08:01:58

Your husband's an idiot

GrumpyHoonMain Tue 18-Feb-20 08:02:03

Get them done behind his back

Eeyoresstickhouse Tue 18-Feb-20 08:03:05

Yabu to call them needles the whole way through your post.

You really need to get them done. I would ignore your husband and just go and get the vaccinations.

bingbangbing Tue 18-Feb-20 08:03:26

Just get them done.

Your husband is acting like a nut job.

PooWillyBumBum Tue 18-Feb-20 08:03:30

Please get them done. My dad comes from a country where jabs where not available in the 70s and some of the consequences were horrifying. Two of his siblings died from preventable illnesses, for starters. What reason does he give for the gov’t trying to trick us? It’s a very expensive hoax if it doesn’t save lives, and NHS funds...

Cremebrule Tue 18-Feb-20 08:03:57

If you’ve had a baby that’s been poorly with respiratory issues you really don’t want a bout of whooping cough to add to it. And whooping cough is one of the milder diseases on the vaccination schedule. If you think bronchiolitis has been bad, what does he think measles would do to your baby. He is being ridiculous.

BikeRunSki Tue 18-Feb-20 08:04:12

Your husband is concerned that your baby will get ill of he has is vaccinations? What about if he *doesn’t^? Is you husband thinking that the baby will be fine without them? What happened when your first child was vaccinated??

Brefugee Tue 18-Feb-20 08:05:00

I'm with PP: YABVU to refer to it as "needles"

Get the vaccinations done. Show your husband what can happen to unvaccinated small children who get measles. Which is on the rise.

FET2020 Tue 18-Feb-20 08:05:14

Your husband is very stupid. Does he really want your child to die from a Victorian disease? 🤣

Get them done, mine is 4 months and she’s had all of hers, she wasn’t too little.

Chamomileteaplease Tue 18-Feb-20 08:06:35

Well, babies aren't meant to have the vaccinations if they are unwell. So it depends if your baby is fully recovered surely? If he is, would your husband believe the GP's opinion?

And where do you come from that you call them needles?? shock

cptartapp Tue 18-Feb-20 08:06:42

If he missed his three month vaccinations does that mean he missed his four month old ones too? If so, he's outstanding quite a few, and will require even more to catch up if you leave it until he's over a year old.
Get him protected quickly.

CallmeAngelina Tue 18-Feb-20 08:08:02

I've never ever heard of vaccinations being called "needles" before. Is this a thing now, or have I been living under a rock for the last 50 years?
Oh and whilst I agree with you and think your husband is being foolish, I don't think you should have them done behind his back. Imagine if that was the other way round and you had concerns and he went ahead and did such a thing without your consent? Continue to state your car and get him to agree.

SimonJT Tue 18-Feb-20 08:08:55

Could he go to the appointment with you so the doctor could explain the purpose of the vaccines, risks etc?

Where I’m from you only vaccinated if you were wealthy, we weren’t. I have a brother (if he’s even still alive) who was left with severe brain damage due to the measles.

My son is hearing impaired and has lost toes because his birth mum chose not to get him vaccinated. He’s 5 in June and we live in the UK, what happened to him is actually very minor compared to other children.

luckymagnoliatree Tue 18-Feb-20 08:08:59

Definitely get them done, it is ludicrous not to. By getting them done you not only protect your own children but also those that cannot have their immunisations due to serious health reasons. Your husband is being very unreasonable. I also don't understand why you call it needles, never heard that expression before!

BikeRunSki Tue 18-Feb-20 08:09:25

And where do you come from that you call them needles??

Very common terminology when I was growing up in South London in the 1970s/80s. Hardly confusing.

bingbangbing Tue 18-Feb-20 08:09:27

Needles, is a perfectly normal vernacular way to refer to vaccinations where I come from. Picking on the OP for her use of language is not on.

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