Is husband being unreasonable about baby's needles

[bigmamama]

Hi so me and my husband are currently at logger heads about taking our 6mo for his needles which is tomorrow.
So basically he has missed his needles as he was poorly when they were due at 3 months old, he was in hospital with bronchiolitis and it just kept getting put on the back burner as he had virus after virus and spent a bit of time in and out of hospital over the Xmas period and was sent for some tests to check all was ok. And it was. so now his needles are due tomorrow and my husband has said he doesn't want the baby to have them as he thinks it will set him back, make him poorly, he's too small, he thinks the government are just trying to scare monger people into having them done etc.
I want the baby to have his needles especially since our 3yo has had them done! I really don't want to take the baby to get them behind his back but he's not budging on this!

[5zeds]

So he wants the parents and sibling all to be protected but the baby to be left vulnerable to infection??? . Tell him “no”

[Deathraystare]

I have used the term needles before as I’m from Liverpool. I’m not offended, it’s just a regional difference 🤣


Ha ha Typical Mumsnet! It is more important that the child is vaccinated than the poster uses the correct terminology - presumably everyone knew what she meant.

I do not like needles - whether they are used for vaccination, blood taking etc - but still have it done.

[Cheeseandwin5]

All those saying that she should just have them done behind his back, I assume would be happy of her DH decided that his opinion trumped hers and he would do anything he liked despite the OP's views?
Or does t only work one way?
The fact is there is a very strong opinion about the danger of immunisations (not one I share by the way) and to dismiss the worries of your partner out of hand is both controlling and damaging to your relationship.
I suggest you go and see the doctor together, he can discuss his fears and hopefully the doctor can explain why it is beneficial.

[SisterAgatha]

I just find anti vaxxers so selfish. Why are they so cool about spreading disease and illness. Spreaders all of them, disease and misinformation.

Happy for other children to die just so they can hold up some ill informed and misplaced moral view. Who wants to be the one to give a friends child the disease that kills them...

[Cacaca]

All this ‘be kind’ postings lasted long didn’t they. You don’t like the use of the word needles - fine that’s up to you. Just don’t come on here ridiculing someone for it. Just because it’s not how jabs are described where you live doesn’t mean it’s the same elsewhere.

[00100001]

it's obvious @BRITISHAIRWAYSSUCK went to some sort of medical training school ,researched and tested for years, read and wrote papers....


she knows of the links,... i mean she has proof....

[Ladyinamask]

You mean vaccinations? Go and get them done. Your husband is a fool as if your child is not immunised and picks up one of these illnesses it was meant to cover your child will be really ill.

[ChazsBrilliantAttitude]

I think part of the issue is that most of us have never seen the illnesses that are covered by the vaccines so we don’t realise how serious they can be. For your DH the bronchiolitis is so fresh in his mind that it will feel much more real and serious than the nebulous risk from the illnesses covered by the vaccines. He needs to speak to a doctor and get a proper understanding of the risks involved.

[sickandtiredofsick]

No dont go behind his back thats an awful thing to do

Has your ds had any vaccinations if so then that buys you a (little) time. Make an appt with the doctor and take him and discuss it. Tell the dr you consent and have a discussion and hopefully that will help. But don’t go behind his back

[user1494182820]

They're called vaccinations. Yes get them done.

[SchadenfreudePersonified]

Get them done!

The doctor will tell you if he is too unwell to have them at the moment - but please, please, get them done.

[Cacaca]

@user1494182820 yes they are, but people call them jabs, needles amongst other things. Did you really have to pull her up on this? You knew what she meant.

[SchadenfreudePersonified]

They're called vaccinations

No need to be snippy.

"Needles" is a commonly used expression, and we all know what it means. And the same with "jabs" and "jags".

[SchadenfreudePersonified]

Cross-post Cacaca.

User's remark was unnecessary.

[SchadenfreudePersonified]

"The chances are very slim, but the gov put pressure on parents these days. "

The reason the chances of infections are slim is that people have their children vaccinated.

[YgritteSnow]

I am honestly cringing for the people who are criticising the OP's language. Don't you realise what awful snobs you are?

[WorraLiberty]

I would just get them done if I were you OP.

As for the people telling you what you should and shouldn't call injections, ignore them. It's as though some people never leave their little bubbles and head out into the wider world where some people say different things

[PleaseNoFortnite]

If he's poorly right now don't get them done as it's contraindicated. If he's not, then do. If you're in any doubt, your child's doctor will be able to tell you whether it's OK or not.

[BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack]

I suggest you go and see the doctor together, he can discuss his fears and hopefully the doctor can explain why it is beneficial

This!! I wouldn't go behind his back so maybe a chat with the doctor will put his mind at rest and if he still disagrees with medical advice, well just tell him that you have having it done anyway.

My son (going back a good few years now) had the single injections because at the time there was a scare re MMR which although I didn't really believe it I was reluctant to chance it although of course if the singles had not been available then he would have had the MMR. I would have been furious if my DH at the time had given the MMR behind my back though, so no, don't be sneaky and just see if the doctor can sway him.

[WorraLiberty]

Don't you realise what awful snobs you are?

They're not even snobs, they're just hard of thinking imo.

[Jellybeansincognito]

Of course your baby should be having their vaccinations.

The government kindly give us these very expensive vaccinations for free, I cannot think of one reason that is valid enough to refuse them- other than having a compromised immune system, in which case those people need to rely on everyone else’s immunity.

By not vaccinating your child you’re putting other people’s life unnecessarily at risk.

I’m sure the medical treatments of these preventable diseases carry more risk than the preventions.

Even the lullaby trust recommend you vaccinate to reduce the risk of sids.

[ItsAllTheDramaMickIJustLoveIt]

I’d take the baby to have them regardless of what my partner said. I’d never take stupid risks like that with my child’s health.

[assilem92]

Put your baby first, get them done. Go with your gut feeling, he really needs these needles

[SunshineDays2019]

Get his needles?! Sorry, but that sounds so daft!!

[Whoops75]

I would visit the GP together
It is so important ye get these done, hopefully the doctor can reassure ye.

We call them Jabs and I knew what you were talking about OP.
Nothing lost in translation ,no need for a fuss.