Is husband being unreasonable about baby's needles

[bigmamama]

Hi so me and my husband are currently at logger heads about taking our 6mo for his needles which is tomorrow.
So basically he has missed his needles as he was poorly when they were due at 3 months old, he was in hospital with bronchiolitis and it just kept getting put on the back burner as he had virus after virus and spent a bit of time in and out of hospital over the Xmas period and was sent for some tests to check all was ok. And it was. so now his needles are due tomorrow and my husband has said he doesn't want the baby to have them as he thinks it will set him back, make him poorly, he's too small, he thinks the government are just trying to scare monger people into having them done etc.
I want the baby to have his needles especially since our 3yo has had them done! I really don't want to take the baby to get them behind his back but he's not budging on this!

The vaccines might make your baby feel a bit under the weather for a day or two, but catching one of the diseases being vaccinated against would set him back a lot more.

If it’s the vaccines normally given at 12 weeks, then it’ll include vaccines against whooping cough and the pneumococcal (pneumonia) vaccine, which are things that I suspect would be particularly dangerous for a baby who’s recently been having respiratory problems.

If you told your DH that you were taking your baby to the appointment, but would explain his medical history to the nurse first, would that help?

@Sirzy

It doesn't quite work like that. His views, if informed, would be respected. His views are more likely to be respected and considered if he stuck to the theory that vaccines are too risky for the individual even if mass immunity is a good thing and they will benefit from it rather than they cause autism or some crap like that.

It is accepted there is personal risk to having a vaccine and whether that risk outweighs the risk of disease is subjective. Most of us believe it is worth the personal risk to become immune and contribute to herd immunity. We don't deny the personal risk

Please don't call injections/innoculations needles. It's just weird.

It's not weird, it's a regional term.

the government trying to scar monger...

Oh yes, the super secret Ministry of Scaremongering, they've just had a cabinet reshuffle ... Elvis is now the Head of Scaremongering and his aide, Wooble the Martian is his chief adviser...

Get them done. Why would you want to risk your kid dying of a Victorian disease?

The Mayo clinic have a video of an infant with whooping cough in ICU I had to stop watching.

And also, to pp’s talking about measles and mumps - yes, they’re dangerous diseases, yes, children should be vaccinated against them.

But the first dose of the MMR vaccine is given at 13 months.
OP’s baby is 6 months, too young to get that vaccine, so why go on about measles now? OP can’t do anything about that at all right now!

Just get them done
Your husband is being stupid

Vaccinations are a good thing.

We live in a country where they are freely available to prevent our children dying from measles, being disabled due to polio.

"The chances are very slim, but the gov put pressure on parents these days. "

you know, the chances of you being in a car crash are very slim. But i'll bet you still put on your seat belt each time...

Oh by the way, my grandmother was one of five. Only two reached adulthood, the others died of children's infectious diseases. Her kids and grandchildren were vaccinated as vaccines became available. NOt one death or injury due to vaccination. If all government conspiracies have these marvelous results, long live government conspiracies!

Vaccines do NOT have links to autism or ADHD. They do NOT cause autism or ADHD.

I have two autistic children. Autism is a neurodevelopment condition with marked differences in brain development. They were born with it. It is not caused by vaccines, screentime, lack of discipline, chemtrails, or whatever fucking else the Batshit Theory of The Month is.

Needles, is a perfectly normal vernacular way to refer to vaccinations where I come from. Picking on the OP for her use of language is not on.

This!! Fuck sake! Fucking pompous Southern vipers!! OP comes on with a genuine concern about her baby and you twats pick her up on saying needles.

Be Kind! Yeah well that lasted long.

Hang your heads in shame!

If he missed his 12 week ones presumably he got his 8 week ones? So what has changed (other than the delay)? - as in, you were getting the baby vaccinated and had already started.

He's thick

I've heard them called needles, jabs, jags, innoculations, vaccinations and injections. Does it matter? It's the same thing.

Your DH is being unreasonable.

Anyone who claims to have researched the topic but then cites that vaccines cause autism needs to learn how to research properly and not just trust random Facebook pages!

"I've done my research" = spent ten minutes consulting with Dr Google.

I've never heard them called that before either.

But I had a prem baby. She had her eight week injections when she was two weeks past her due date as they go by exposure to the world rather than adjust for prematurity. She was tiny and pretty week but withstood then fine.