Is husband being unreasonable about baby's needles

[bigmamama]

Hi so me and my husband are currently at logger heads about taking our 6mo for his needles which is tomorrow.
So basically he has missed his needles as he was poorly when they were due at 3 months old, he was in hospital with bronchiolitis and it just kept getting put on the back burner as he had virus after virus and spent a bit of time in and out of hospital over the Xmas period and was sent for some tests to check all was ok. And it was. so now his needles are due tomorrow and my husband has said he doesn't want the baby to have them as he thinks it will set him back, make him poorly, he's too small, he thinks the government are just trying to scare monger people into having them done etc.
I want the baby to have his needles especially since our 3yo has had them done! I really don't want to take the baby to get them behind his back but he's not budging on this!

[BecauseReasons]

Perhaps they meant jabs not jags

No, jags is actually a very common term for it in some places. I've seen it on here a fair bit. Far less obvious than needles, too.

[Clangus00]

We say jags in Scotland.

[Sirzy]

Does it really matter what they are called? The important thing is children have them done (unless medically not advised)

[Bluerussian]

bigmamama, hope you have a vaccination appointment soon and that your husband goes with you, however let your baby have the vaccinations even if he doesn't. I'm sure you know how important that is. Your child could be one of the rare unfortunate ones who encounters someone who is cooking up measles which would be dangerous for him and others. I'm not being alarmist and you know all that anyway, I'm sure yours will be fine but we know it does happen.

Makes me think (if you watch Corrie), what happened to Daniel's baby, Bertie, and a young woman with whom he was in contact; that was terribly sad, thankfully they recovered but it sent out a good message to viewers.

Good luck!

[AScarecrow]

Lol at the idea of a grown man being “triggered” by the word needles. What a bunch of snowflakes we have become.

[AScarecrow]

I am Glaswegian. I would say jags or needles. Nothing weird about it outside of London.

[BikeRunSki]

Gripes up, well spoken professional lady in her late 40s talking about freezing eggs and ivf on R2 at lunchtime talked about “needles”. It’s really very normal Informal terminology.

[isadoradancing123]

The op never said that her husband said the vaccinations may cause autism, she simply said he would prefer to wait until the baby was a little stronger after having a lot of illnesses since birth

[bigmamama]

So we have a new appointment next week, told DH he has to come to it. Il let him have his say and then they're getting done. I'm not waiting another 6 months until he's 1.

[PureAlchemy]

Good luck with the appointment next week.

[cptartapp]

Be prepared OP. If your Dc has only ever had their eight week imms, they will not all be able to be done in one go next time. It will take two more appointments to catch up and complete the primary course.

[mocktail]

@bikerunski I'm a (fairly) well spoken professional woman too. I'm aware of needles in the context of "I have a fear of needles" but not meaning vaccinations. So the thread title meant nothing to me but it was clear as soon as I'd read the first post.

[Yeeted]

Good luck next week BigMamama . I’m sure once DH is in the surgery in front of the nurse/doctor he won’t resist. And if he does, I’m sure they’ll be used to making a very convincing case as to why DS needs to be protected. Waiting till he is a year old isn’t a good idea and you’re right in wanting your DS to have his needles ASAP.

[FindTheCupForMax]

I'm only up to page 5 and will be going back to read the rest, but wanted to add in my own thoughts

1. I have a DS with severe autism, he is non-verbal, he has a younger brother. Did his brother have has injections/needles/jabs? Without a second thought. I'd rather have two DSs who were non-verbal and had severe autism, than one struggling with that and one dead.
   
   I don't agree that injections/needles causes autism but even if it does both of my DSs are alive, and that's what matters I'm not trying to go down that route at all, I just think it's worth mentioning as I had reasons I could have decided against the injections/needles, and many people suggesting I should, but my only concern was keeping them both healthy
   
   
2. I have a friend who has a DC with high functioning autism, and a younger sibling who had the injections/needles. It's now being explored whether they may have high functioning autism as well, and she doesn't regret a thing because both of her DC are alive and healthy it's also looking like the DDad had/has high functioning autism and was just never diagnosed she doesn't think it's anything to do with the injections/needles and wouldn't care if it was as its kept them both safe. The younger DC was born prem and had struggles at the start - double the reason not to do it - but as soon as it was safe to do so they were vaccinated

[bigmamama]

We finally got our needles yesterday! DH still didn't agree and thought we should wait until he's 1 or round about but he's 7 months now anyway. So back in 4 weeks and he'll be completely up to date. Actually feel relief !

[greeneyedlulu]

Get them done

[Clangus00]

Good OP. Well done.

[DropYourSword]

Hey @bigmamama I’m glad you got it sorted and got the next lot of needles done.
My son has also suffered badly with bronchiolitis and croup in the past - it’s not nice at all to see them suffer. He’s older than your child but I was advised that the flu vaccine seems to somehow provide a level of protection against him developing a bronchiole infection - maybe worth considering having a conversation about that with your GP at some point.
I’ve taken a couple of years hiatus from Mumsnet. I see there’s still a percentage of insufferable twats here who can’t conceive of the fact that regional colloquialisms exist. Ive worked in North West England, the Midlands and now Australia and needles is a very standard term in all those places!

[TellMeItsNotTrue]

I'm glad DH agreed TO have them, even if he didn't agree about having them now

[Rubyupbeat]

@BikeRunSki
We always refer to injections amongst ourselves as needles, like you say in certain areas of was a common term. We were easy London.