...to want to divorce my DH over general election?

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SafferUpNorth Fri 13-Dec-19 00:09:36

Feeling sick to the stomach at the predicted result. Have always assumed DH and I were roughly on the same page politically, but turns out he voted Tory 'because it's best for the economy' (WTF).

Just had a massive row... I actually cannot get him to acknowledge that by all indicators child poverty and food bank use have skyrocketed under the Tories and things will get even bleaker when the Uk 'gets Brexit done'. And let's not even mention climate change. I am terrified and DH thinks it's a great result. Is this where we part ways??

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Thestinkycheeseman Fri 13-Dec-19 00:11:25

Is he not allowed a different opinion to you?
Have you always been so controlling?

HollaHolla Fri 13-Dec-19 00:11:31


Andysbestadventure Fri 13-Dec-19 00:12:34

Child poverty/austerity is good for the economy long term, so he's not wrong 🤷‍♀️

Doesn't mean it was a good choice though.

JeffreyJefferson Fri 13-Dec-19 00:13:45

Honestly if it’s just that obviously YABU to divorce him but i would be livid too

BenevolentEzza Fri 13-Dec-19 00:13:46

Are your family in poverty and needing to use food banks?

MysweetAudrina Fri 13-Dec-19 00:13:51

He is entitled to vote for who he likes. I wouldn't fall out with a loved one for expressing a different view to me. Surely that is what democracy is about.


DBML Fri 13-Dec-19 00:14:51

Ridiculous. I’d be throwing you out if you were trying to enforce your opinions on me. He is entitled to an opinion, even if you disagree. Completely unfair, but do him a favour and dump him, so he doesn’t have to put up with this shit.

Wearywithteens Fri 13-Dec-19 00:14:57

You married someone without knowing their politics?

Yarboosucks Fri 13-Dec-19 00:15:05

Perhaps you should give him his freedom....

Besidesthepoint Fri 13-Dec-19 00:15:26

Well his vote is the same as a larger part of the country than your vote so he might be right and you might be wrong here.

I personally actually agree with you but you can't just think that your opinion is the only valid one.

madcatladyforever Fri 13-Dec-19 00:16:26

Are you crazy? You are giving up your marriage over politics. He has a right to vote how he wants. And he has a right to an opinion. This isn't Facebook! ! Get a grip.

madcatladyforever Fri 13-Dec-19 00:17:51

My son and his wife always vote different ways. They are perfectly happy together.

Mulledwineinajug Fri 13-Dec-19 00:17:57

Some people care about people outside their own families BenevolentEzza

It would be a deal breaker for me,OP. It’s not just having a different opinion, it’s having totally conflicting values.

LagunaBubbles Fri 13-Dec-19 00:18:07

Are your family in poverty and needing to use food banks?

Well mine aren't but does that mean you shouldn't be concerned about the people who are?

SilverySurfer Fri 13-Dec-19 00:18:27

Pathetic. Grow up.

MistyCloud Fri 13-Dec-19 00:19:32

Are you pulling our leg @SafferUpNorth ??? grin

AnalUnicorn Fri 13-Dec-19 00:19:35

You sound unreasonable to be honest

PrimalLass Fri 13-Dec-19 00:19:42

I couldn't stay with someone whose views were so far from mine.

Singlenotsingle Fri 13-Dec-19 00:19:48

Don't be so silly, OP. Your poor DH, being bullied by you over an election result. He's not personally responsible, you know.

BenevolentEzza Fri 13-Dec-19 00:20:21

@Wearywithteens My husband and I have totally conflicting political views, so I guess I knowingly married someone many years ago WITH knowing their politics 🤷

We are both adults with a mutual respect for each others opinions and individuality. Is that not how a partnership works?

choirmumoftwo Fri 13-Dec-19 00:20:59

OP I do sympathise. DH has always voted differently to me and I fully accept we can hold differing opinions. I've just retired from a long NHS career and he's always worked in the private sector. Both remain voters and pro-EU. I can understand (a bit) his voting choice today but it does make me ponder if fundamentally, we're further apart in our principles than I ever imagined. I know he's an incredibly decent man but I am struggling tonight.

CodenameVillanelle Fri 13-Dec-19 00:21:04

Have you never talked politics before today? confused

AllTheWhoresOfMalta Fri 13-Dec-19 00:21:26

I couldn’t be married to a Tory, much less a shy Tory so YANBU but I find it hard to believe his secret Toryness has only just come to light.

DisorganisedOrganiser Fri 13-Dec-19 00:21:35

Singlenotsingle of course he is personally responsible! Anyone who voted Tory bears some responsibility for the result.

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