...to want to divorce my DH over general election?

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Feeling sick to the stomach at the predicted result. Have always assumed DH and I were roughly on the same page politically, but turns out he voted Tory 'because it's best for the economy' (WTF).

Just had a massive row... I actually cannot get him to acknowledge that by all indicators child poverty and food bank use have skyrocketed under the Tories and things will get even bleaker when the Uk 'gets Brexit done'. And let's not even mention climate change. I am terrified and DH thinks it's a great result. Is this where we part ways??

Also if you have only got together with a partner for politics....

Come on, just because labour didn't get the votes you wanted doesn't mean the rest of the other voters don't want the BEST for this country.

Why assume that everyone who understands OP's point voted for labour?! Regarding wanting the best for the country I think that a lot of people just want the best for themselves and that a higher proportion of those people vote conservative than any other party.

The cancer " what if" is in poor taste honestly.
There are a lot of situations, including infidelity, where serious illness would make you rethink your decision to leave.
Doesn't mean infidelity is not a valid reason to consider divorce.

It would be an abuse of any person's human dignity and a violation of egalitarian political principles to try and have any say in their vote, or make them answer to me for it.

Noone is trying to or has suggested trying to do any of that.

I wonder if people would trust their partner to do a proxy vote for them if they needed them to, when they had diametrically opposing views?
My ex joined UKIP. if he'd asked me to do a proxy and vote for them on his behalf I think I'd have had to tell him to choose someone else to do it for him.

We're all entitled to our own opinions and right to vote for who we want

Yes indeed, and we're all entitled to decide what is important to us in our relationships and whether we wish to continue in them.

Not RTFT OP but this has been picked up by the sun and is all over Twitter

If you find someone’s politics morally abhorrent then you may well consider leaving them.

Yanbu to be upset that you hold such different views of reality.

Yanbu to be shocked and disturbed that you didn’t realise how far apart your views are.

Yanbu to feel like crying over his refusal to listen to and give weight to at least some of your views. (Particularly when they’re on objective fact like skyrocketing child poverty.) That’s not about politics that’s about respect. Marriage isn’t about quietly holding opposite views, it’s about discussion and compromise and finding an agreed way forward (eg he preferred Tory I had hopes for Corbyn we ended up both agreeing on Libdem to avoid our vites just cancelling each other out). This idea that you just pitch two sides against each other, and then one side wins and the other can lump it, is what’s gone wrong with our politics.

Yabu to let the shitshow that is uk politics infect your marriage. All of the parties have major problems, there are no goodies and baddies in all this. We don’t know yet how all this will play out. Perhaps Corbyn would have led the country to a bright wonderful future, perhaps he’d have been an unmitigated disaster, we will now never know.

Push the politics of it to one side and focus on listening to each other and try to rebuild some mutual respect.

I don’t think marriages require that couples always have to have the same political views but I definitely sympathise: it’s hard not to think differently about someone when you find out that they support such an abhorrent, nasty and racist Government with the horrendous track record it already has in, for example, austerity and causing child poverty. I hope you find a way to resolve your differences but I totally understand that you’re questioning your relationship right now. Courage!

Whilst I understand centrist people believing that politics shouldn't matter and that left and right just believe in different ways to achieve the same thing, I completely disagree. The values of the two parties are entirely different - Conservatives want more individualism, lower taxes (let's not forget the whole purpose of taxes is to redistribute wealth for the benefit of the less fortunate), a small state whose focus is on policing and national security, and profit as the biggest motivator of people. They see business owners as 'wealth creators' and think that reducing taxes creates jobs.

Labour want more collectivism, higher taxes on the wealthiest to enable a decent safety net for all, and believe that regulations are necessary to protect people from the consequences of putting profit first. They believe a higher minimum wage enables the poorest to spend more, which creates more demand for products and therefore more jobs. They therefore believe that business leaders are not wealth creators by themselves - it is the hard work of all of their employees as well, not to mention the state assistance for the employees and their customers, that allowed their success.

These are significantly different outlooks on life and I think if one partner did not make their views clear before marriage I can understand how it would cause issues further down the line.

Personally I couldn't be with a Conservative because of their either refusal to believe, or lack of concern for, the thousands of people who have died following work capability assessments they were found 'fit to work' in. Also because of the party's plans to remove the child poverty targets (because they know they're getting higher) and because of their plans in the manifesto to enable themselves to stay in power for longer than 5 years and to remove the judiciary's power to scrutinise them.

I can understand feeling really emotional about this as honestly this wasn't like any other general election and this country has just elected a man who has the moral integrity of a mosquito and has more interest in his own bank balance than the people of this country. Voting for Boris is like voting for Trump and frankly I'd divorce my husband too. It's like finding out your other half was a closet racist.

That is a unjustified assumption. There are many people who voted Labour because it would be far better for THEM, and many people who would love to see the country more equitably run, but believed that had it been crippled by Corbyn's economic policies, the poor could have come out a lot worse in the long run. It's not fair to assume that one group are benevolent and the other self-serving as there are as many reasons for voting as there are voters.

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Why assume that everyone who understands OP's point voted for labour?! Regarding wanting the best for the country I think that a lot of people just want the best for themselves and that a higher proportion of those people vote conservative than any other party.

I could not be in a relationship with someone who voted Tory in the recent election.