@MidnightCircus and @CharlottesPleb make some good points.
I have to wonder if the reason so many labour folk seem surprised by the result is that no one will admit to voting Tory due to the massive amount of hate that seems to get thrown their way by (perhaps a minority of) abusive labour supporters. Out of interest, is your DH throwing his toys out of the pram and threatening you as you dared to exercise your democratic rights to vote for labour ? Hmmmm... thought not.
People are entitled to vote for whomever they like... it’s called democracy folks. And they have the right to do so in private so that they are free from undue pressure to vote a certain way or discrimination / retaliation if they do.
The majority of folk have clearly voted Tory as they believe they are the best choice (well perhaps best of a bad bunch) to run the country.
As some PP have said - most folk have similar centralised views it’s more a disagreement on how to get there rather than fundamental disagreements in outcomes, I don’t think all Tory voters are evil, poor hating, baby eating loons as some labour supporters seem to suggest. They do not want others to be harmed. Most voters are ordinary folk trying to determine the best way forward for themselves and the country, and will
Vote accordingly.
OP. I’m assuming your question is light hearted and you consider your husband a good man ?
If not, please do divorce him so he has a chance at happiness with a normal, non-controlling grown up. Although if his political views are of such importance to you I’d find it hard to see how you’d marry someone with such different views to yourself in the first place.