...to want to divorce my DH over general election?

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Feeling sick to the stomach at the predicted result. Have always assumed DH and I were roughly on the same page politically, but turns out he voted Tory 'because it's best for the economy' (WTF).

Just had a massive row... I actually cannot get him to acknowledge that by all indicators child poverty and food bank use have skyrocketed under the Tories and things will get even bleaker when the Uk 'gets Brexit done'. And let's not even mention climate change. I am terrified and DH thinks it's a great result. Is this where we part ways??

I couldn't be with a Tory. Selfish people. You might feel differently but I would split with my partner if he voted Tory.

I could not be with a Tory voter. It’s not just about different political opinions, it’s about holding the same fundamental values in life.

Values? All political parties have members with different values surely. They are not one amorphous blob. People vote for specific policies not for tribal allegiance. You might say Tory’s are uncaring and don’t support those in need and yet I know plenty of Tory voters who spend their own time, money and effort volunteering/helping their neighbours/contributing to society.My Labour voting best mate is as selfish as they come.

If dp threatened to leave me because I voted differently (we didnt) I would show him the door.

No one gets to blackmail me into vori g what they want.

You can have the same values but disagree on who is right to do it.

Well the Tories cuts services and welfare provided by the state and actively wants volunteers to take over the running of the “soup kitchens”.

You can have the same values but disagree on who is right to do it

I was just going to post just that.

This site seems to be going completely mad. People grow up in different areas, have different experiences, and different affluence yet are expected to vote for the same party. Baffles me.

Having fundamentally opposing values is a deal breaker. People generally surround themselves with those with a similar moral code. YANBU

It's not just 'what pizza would you like for dinner' and you are not being controlling...and child poverty in this rich country is APPALLING and tories are not nice people. Sorry. But. Not. Sorry. Enjoy your hideous lying prime minister folks. Hey' at least he has ADORABLE hair

Sorry, but I think you need to get a grip. My husband and I voted differently.

Someone on the radio has just said that Labour top dogs are all public schoolboys, hence their message sounds disingenuous.
Presume JC isn't -but in the past many worked their way up from the unions. Something needs to change .

The SNP increase could be a vote against labour rather than for independence.

The next Scottish elections are May 2021, will be interesting then to see how snp do.

People will say it's petty but to be honest having shared views in politics is almost always important otherwise it causes friction and resentment each election.

Well, whatever your thoughts and views, Conservatives are back in. Time to crack on with your day.

Yes but some people really care about their values, and some people just vote. It's easy to be with someone with tory views if you only care superficially. Many socialists really care though and find tory views utterly repugnant.

And there is nothing wrong with choosing partners based on shared political views. What's the point in wasting time with someone you know doesn't share something you know is important to you? Not talking about your marriage, but just dating/ in general 🤷🏾‍♀️

I’d lose all respect for my DW if she voted Tory. So YANBU.

@motherheroic my Dad's Mum and Dad voted for opposing parties their entire life. They had extremely heated debates over it, but they loved each other and remained married until Nan died and Granddad shortly followed.

If you can't have a healthy debate with your husband why are you even married

I wouldn’t have married someone in the first place due to their racist, sexist and homophobic views.

I assume you're over dramatising a little here.
I could've wrote the original post myself, and I'd be half joking.
DH voted Tory, and I voted labour. We've had heated debates, but in the end it comes down to us just having different views on things.

One thing my dad taught me was my vote is between me and the ballot box.

Oh and I discuss politics but more policies rather than parties. But I really couldn't tell you who he voted for yesterday. And he wouldn't know who I voted for.

I will say though, this is the first election in my adult life I seriously considered not voting, because there isn't a party that I didn't struggle with some or most of their policies. I really didn't make my mind up until I was in the voting booth.

@maddiemookins16mum

Some of these grown women are beside themselves because they have disabled family members, or SEN children grossly neglected in underfunded schools. Can you blame them?

^^this. I teach said kids. Struggling in big classes. ADHD, ASD, suicidal, no referral to CAMHS as no money even when ACTIVELY planning to hurt themselves. We are a RICH country. Shameful and short sighted. So yep, I would leave DH if he voted tory. But he wouldn't. He's caring.

A few posters have said that your husband is entitled to his vote and his opinion. Yes, he is. But you are also entitled to feel differently about him based on these things.

@nrpmum There are plenty of other things to have debates about. If someone doesn't want to constantly debate about politics then that's their choice. Just as it was your grandparents choice to stay together.

I think your response is pretty immature OP, my voting has changed both ways over the last thirty years, DH has always voted Tory. Our DD is a HCP in the NHS and passionate labour supporter with a deep interest in politics, her brother voted Conservative, it was a split family.

Will you disown your children and throw them from your life in years to come if they vote differently from you? Bonkers.

I think I would find this very difficult
Having different opinions , yes fine
But not caring about sick children,poor people,the NHS ..... I don't think I could love and respect someone like that

LTB.