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To have screamed down the phone at wrong information?

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SnotBlower Wed 14-Aug-19 14:41:07

Last week I told my mother that DDog had worms. She spoke with her “know it all but knows incorrectly” husband and then rang me back telling me “Barry was saying, you need to get the queen out”. I said “what?” And she said “the queen worm, Barry was saying that there is always a queen and it’s a long white worm and until you get that one, you’ll never get rid of the babies”. Now ... I’m used to Barry’s bullshit ridiculous advice and I’m also used to my mum blindly believing everything he says and refusing the accept that he’s wrong, so to avoid the argument I just said “ok”.

A couple of days later she asked “did you manage to get the queen yet?”. Now ... catching me on a bad day I snapped “it doesn’t work like that with worms! There is no queen or worker worms or bloody soldier worms ... they’re all the same!” So she, as predicted said “no! Barry used to have a dog so he knows what he’s on about!! You need to get the queen worm out otherwise it’s no good, you’ll never be rid of them”. So I changed the subjected.

This morning she rang up and said “hows the worms?” So I said “good, all gone now” so she said “oh good! You must have got the queen then! Barry was saying it’s called the Tate worm or something ... “

So at this point I lost it and screamed down the phone. She started shouting “what’s wrong?!” Thinking I was being attacked and now she’s in a huff because I “worried her”.

This drives me mad, Barry comes out with the most ridiculous shit and she instantly decides he must be spot on and argues everyone else down - in turn making herself look as daft as him!!! It’s gone on for over 20 years and I’ve always tried to be polite and humour them but fuck it! AIBU to not go along with this shit anymore? He needs to be told!!

AllInTentsAndPorpoises Wed 14-Aug-19 14:44:03

Yes YABU screaming down the phone. The rest of the information in your post is irrelevant. You shouldn't scream down the phone.

Shoxfordian Wed 14-Aug-19 14:45:02

Should have just said yes and ignored her

Chanteuse Wed 14-Aug-19 14:45:09

You screamed down the phone? confused couldn't you have just changed the subject or humoured her? I'd have probably found this quote amusing tbh.

hellenbackagen Wed 14-Aug-19 14:45:29

Sadly - they truly do walk amongst us op...

Not surprised you lost it - does Barry not have google ?

Must be hard to keep quiet but I suppose for harmony's sake - you try .
Good luck op !

lmusic87 Wed 14-Aug-19 14:45:36

YANBU to be annoyed

YABU to have screamed

Shantotto Wed 14-Aug-19 14:45:43

I would definitely have let out an exasperated aaaaargh at that bit I might not have done a super dramatic scream of pain. But you’re not being unreasonable!

Summerunderway Wed 14-Aug-19 14:47:40

Go into your garden now and find the biggest worm. Take a pic and send it to dm. Tell her it seems Bonkers Barry was right and you found the Queen Worm!!
Yanbu to have lost your cool imo op...

phloxpaniculata Wed 14-Aug-19 14:48:34

YABU to scream down the phone but Barry and your mum sound maddening. Suggest practising some go-to phrases for next time you get a 'Barry says...'. Something like "Oh, Barry does come out with some nonsense, doesn't he? What a joker. Anyway Mum, changing the subject - no, CHANGING THE SUBJECT - no, Mum, I'm not taking about worms any more, drop it, so what do you think about the weather?"

AngelasAshes Wed 14-Aug-19 14:49:44

Actually, although it is garbled, Barry is mostly correct. When it comes to TAPE worms that is.
With a tape worm they are segmented. They are all female and reproduce by partnogenesis. In each segment there are eggs. When the eggs start hatching, the segment detaches, and goes through the intestines and out in the animals poo. Then the new segment forms for more eggs which is how a tape worm gets longer and longer.
The poo is wriggling with baby tape worms that look like diamond shaped grains of rice. Some worms slip back up the rectum and turn into new fully grown tape worms. Others are ingested by other animals who like to sniff or Eat
So, yes, you have to kill the big, female mother tape worm to get all the worms. Not sure why Barry’s translator called it a queen worm but it does make an odd sense.

Tensixtysix Wed 14-Aug-19 14:49:59

Does your mum always get 'hooked' on this kind of thing? You know, being obsessed with something trivial?
It can be a sign of dementia. My mum went through a stage of wanting to talk about the same thing, over and over.
As for Barry, tell him to Google it!

Yogurtcoveredricecake Wed 14-Aug-19 14:50:37

Are you a toddler? If not, you are definitely bring unreasonable.

Call your mother and apologise.

Billballbaggins Wed 14-Aug-19 14:52:20

You don’t scream down the phone at anyone. If she goes on about ‘Barry’ just say ‘Barry is wrong’ and repeat. No need for screaming

SnotBlower Wed 14-Aug-19 14:56:26

My mum does her obsessed over daft shit and has done for years. She’s also incredibly naive and will believe anything she’s told.

I know about tape worm segments but Barry believes that a TaTe worm is the boss worm ... so even if your dog has roundworms, there will be a taTe worm in there orchestrating it all. You should hear the other shit he comes out with

ilovesooty Wed 14-Aug-19 14:56:32

I don't see that screaming was necessary.

TurtleCavalryIsSeriousShit Wed 14-Aug-19 14:57:23

Op, I understand. I think after 20 years of this i'd be screaming too.

@AngelasAshes, confused thanks for that. I really didn't want to know all that. grin. As an aside, if you treat the dog with (de)worming stuff, doesn't that kill the 'queen' worm?

We need a vomit imoji envy

TurtleCavalryIsSeriousShit Wed 14-Aug-19 14:58:41

grin Big Tate Worm bossing all the other worms about! grin

MuddyMoose Wed 14-Aug-19 14:59:43

You screamed so much down the phone your mother thought you were being attacked? 🤔
Complete over reaction. We are all human, we all have a snapping point but if you know she likes to quote Barry & thinks everything he says is factual then you just have to take these comments with a pinch of salt.

GibbonLover Wed 14-Aug-19 14:59:58

'Tate worm' 😂😂

Is that the latest piece of modern art then?

BettysLeftTentacle Wed 14-Aug-19 15:00:59

Barry sounds fucking hilarious 😂 what else does he say?

Sorry, not helpful I know.

HennyPennyHorror Wed 14-Aug-19 15:01:19

Am I the only one who finds this really funny?

It's the "Barry" aspect plus "boss worm"

womaninthedark Wed 14-Aug-19 15:02:03

As a matter of principle, never trust a man named Barry.

TurtleCavalryIsSeriousShit Wed 14-Aug-19 15:02:31

I'm sorry blush I also reaaaallyy want to know what else Barry comes out with.

MyKingdomForACaramel Wed 14-Aug-19 15:02:40

This kind of shit drives me mad - not sure if scream but can imagine shouting actually.

1984isnow Wed 14-Aug-19 15:02:41

Can you tell us more of Barry's pearls of wisdom?

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