Retired lap dancer- ask me anything

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yourprivatedancerEX Tue 26-Jun-18 05:30:36

It’s not something I tell new people I meet that for 10 years I used to be a very successful lap dancer. I have a very different career now but often reminisce about my secret lap dancing past, always with fond memories!
I think it’s still something that is frowned upon by many and in my view I think that’s largely down to being misunderstood. So if any of you have any questions I will answer them and hopefully give you some interesting insight into the secret world of lap dancing! Ask away.

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LadyRochfordsHoickedGusset Tue 26-Jun-18 05:33:30

Does it go further than dancing?

yourprivatedancerEX Tue 26-Jun-18 05:34:42

No not in any of the clubs I’ve ever worked at (and I’ve worked at lots both in the uk and abroad) if any girl was ever found to be offering more they were immediately sacked- it was very strict.

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Timefortea99 Tue 26-Jun-18 05:43:22

Do you have any tips for avoiding blisters on feet?

waterlego6064 Tue 26-Jun-18 05:44:38

What’s the pension like?

If my daughter wants to pursue a career in this field, what advice would you give?

AndhowcouldIeverrefuse Tue 26-Jun-18 05:45:07

Is it very physically demanding? Did you ever get injured?

yourprivatedancerEX Tue 26-Jun-18 05:46:37

Ha no tips for blisters unfortunately! One of the risks of the job! Although proper dancing shoes (those ones with the big platform) are comfier than they look so much better for avoiding blisters than regular heeled shoes!

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mrsshelby44 Tue 26-Jun-18 05:46:53

How much money did you make per week and in total? What did you do with it all? Did you have a boyfriend what did he think?

yourprivatedancerEX Tue 26-Jun-18 05:49:00

Waterlego even though you are being intentionally goady I won’t rise and will answer your question anyway.

Of course there is no pension and it is never intended to be a long term career. I would advise your daughter to pursue whatever makes her happy in life, whether that was dancing, medical school, travelling or whatever. As long as it makes you happy and doesn’t hurt anyone then go for it smile

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waterlego6064 Tue 26-Jun-18 05:51:16

Thanks for answering 🙂

yourprivatedancerEX Tue 26-Jun-18 05:51:26

It was physically demanding yes. You needed to be quite fit to do it as the pole work was very hard, and on top of that you would be on your feet dancing for between 8-11 hours a night so you would definitely feel the burn then next day!

I never got injured apart from bruises from the pole work, and if anything I would say I was at my absolute fittest back then, due to the constant exercise.

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yourprivatedancerEX Tue 26-Jun-18 05:54:13

Mrsshelby the money varied depending on the time of year for eg January was typically very quiet but the run up to Xmas was amazing.

I’d say an average night I would earn about £300 but many nights I came out with over £1000. The most I made in one night was £2500.

I didn’t have a boyfriend at the time- I was young free and single but I wouldn’t have got with anyone that didn’t respect my choices anyway.

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LanguidLobster Tue 26-Jun-18 05:54:14

What did you do when you left and what motivated you to leave?

yourprivatedancerEX Tue 26-Jun-18 05:59:55

Lobster I left because I had been doing it from age 19 through to 27 and as much I enjoyed the job and the lifestyle I knew it wasn’t going to provide me a long term career so I went into sales after that and then later used some of the money I made to get qualified in coaching and training.

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Cupoteap Tue 26-Jun-18 06:01:40

Would you date or marry a guy who had been to lap dancing clubs?

LanguidLobster Tue 26-Jun-18 06:02:18

What did you put on your CV? grin

Do you judge people who judge you for your former career?

bumblingbovine49 Tue 26-Jun-18 06:07:09

What were the clubs like as employers?
What is your favourite memory from the job?
What is your worst memory?
Would you mind now if your DP regularly visited lap dancing bars?

ArsenalsPlayingAtHome Tue 26-Jun-18 06:08:22

Love this thread - place-marking as all my questions have already been answered.

LanguidLobster Tue 26-Jun-18 06:09:48

Arsenals I like it too!

I may get a coffee and settle in <flexes fingers>

TaytoAllDay Tue 26-Jun-18 06:09:52

This is so interesting! I always envied the girls who did it and earned so much money. Wish I had the guts to do it years ago. I just did general promo stuff though, which I absolutely loved.

Did you find it hard dealing with guys who tried to go too far?

I honestly feel in this day and age you can be anything and people are less judgey. I wouldn't care if my younger sisters did it because the money is fab.

TaytoAllDay Tue 26-Jun-18 06:10:31

Were there places you would never work that were known for not being as good to you?

findthegap Tue 26-Jun-18 06:15:09

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yourprivatedancerEX Tue 26-Jun-18 06:15:53

Cupoteap I may have dated guys that had been in- I never asked them! But I would never date someone that I met in the clubs, I always viewed them very much as customers, never potential love interests!

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LucheroTena Tue 26-Jun-18 06:16:12

What were the bad experiences? What age were the oldest dancers?

bumblingbovine49 Tue 26-Jun-18 06:16:41

Were the clubs your employers or were you self employed. Either way were your NI contributions paid for the 8 years you did it ?

I am not being goady about tax payments, just concerned about the eventual effect of years of no NI payments on women's pensions (can you tell I am old!grin)

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