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Colleague called me a relic at lunch, would you report it?

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Sacredbirman · 26/08/2026 17:42

Had lunch with my colleague and a new intern. I was talking to the intern and she asked how long I had been in the company. I said over 20 years.
Other colleague said yes, she’s a relic.
Feeling a little hurt by this. My DD thinks I should report to HR.
What would you do? Already feel insecure in my job as HoD has made it clear he doesn’t want older women in his team (I am early 50s).
Part of me wants to just laugh it off but there is also a bit of background that he got my role when I had burnout and when I returned I wasn’t reinstated and then he was promoted to the same level as me.

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Dumbledora8 · 27/08/2026 11:47

Vallies · 27/08/2026 11:38

Isn't relic often used to mean something valued and interesting because of it's age though?

It is. Some people just like to play the victim and take offence to anything and everything ffs

Anyahyacinth · 27/08/2026 11:57

Vallies · 27/08/2026 11:38

Isn't relic often used to mean something valued and interesting because of it's age though?

No, I don't think it is used this way

beaglescurleduplikebagels · 27/08/2026 12:06

Anyahyacinth · 27/08/2026 11:57

No, I don't think it is used this way

It absolutely is!

Vallies · 27/08/2026 12:08

Anyahyacinth · 27/08/2026 11:57

No, I don't think it is used this way

Odd because the first definition in Google is

A relic is an object, tradition, or system that has survived from a past time, often having no modern use but valued for its historical, cultural, or sentimental importance.

Laurmolonlabe · 27/08/2026 12:13

I would definitely report it to HR- you are being squeezed out and you want it on the record how it is being done- discrimination is not allowed for age.

caringcarer · 27/08/2026 12:23

I'd make a note and write down exactly what was said by who and who witnessed it. Just in case a pattern emerges.

Monzo1ss · 27/08/2026 17:15

SockPlant · 27/08/2026 05:57

You do see how making a joke about yourself and someone making a "joke" about you are 2 different things, right?

You do understand how quoting a message works, right? As evidenced in the chain, the person I was responding to referred to people joking about themselves.

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